Hi guys,
im looking for some advice on debts.
I have have a number of debts in my name from a variety of services Northumbria water, council tax, catalogue, over draft costs and a mobile contract.
Okay so, a little background may be needed, these debts were ran up in my name by my abusive ex partner. I was in a relation ship with from 2010 to roughly 2013/14, he was very controlling and I was not allowed my bank cards so had no idea where money was going, my wages went in and he dealt with bills and any money he needed to spend for clothes and going out and stuff, I was given an allowance to buy food for the house, but it got to a stage where I couldn't open post, wasn't allowed to answer the phone I had no idea these things were happening until he was removed from my life. I have been to court against him, but for DV not the debts in November last year, where I was informed that due to "lack of evidence" my case was announced and not guilty, which is atrocious to be honest and has destroyed me.
Since then however, he attacked another girl and while awaiting a court date, committed suicide, which makes this more difficult.
Ive spoken to my creditors about my situation, and the common response I get is "it's in your name, it's your debt" and the latest "we cannot transfer it to (my ex) because he is deceased, and someone needs to pay". I'm not sure where to go from here as I'm really struggling to pay the bills I have already without having to worry about debt collectors showing up at the door step. I'm not sleeping due to anxiety of them knocking on the door, I can't answer the phone for fear it's them it's literally like I'm back in that horrible situation again, I just cannot leave!
I must use say however though, through all the treats etc, I've never and an actual court letter but I feel like I can't keep fighting this. Honestly by this point I've considered going the same way as my ex, if he can commit suicide and get away with all this then why the hell couldn't I?
Please if if anyone has any advice for me I'd greatly appreciate it!
im looking for some advice on debts.
I have have a number of debts in my name from a variety of services Northumbria water, council tax, catalogue, over draft costs and a mobile contract.
Okay so, a little background may be needed, these debts were ran up in my name by my abusive ex partner. I was in a relation ship with from 2010 to roughly 2013/14, he was very controlling and I was not allowed my bank cards so had no idea where money was going, my wages went in and he dealt with bills and any money he needed to spend for clothes and going out and stuff, I was given an allowance to buy food for the house, but it got to a stage where I couldn't open post, wasn't allowed to answer the phone I had no idea these things were happening until he was removed from my life. I have been to court against him, but for DV not the debts in November last year, where I was informed that due to "lack of evidence" my case was announced and not guilty, which is atrocious to be honest and has destroyed me.
Since then however, he attacked another girl and while awaiting a court date, committed suicide, which makes this more difficult.
Ive spoken to my creditors about my situation, and the common response I get is "it's in your name, it's your debt" and the latest "we cannot transfer it to (my ex) because he is deceased, and someone needs to pay". I'm not sure where to go from here as I'm really struggling to pay the bills I have already without having to worry about debt collectors showing up at the door step. I'm not sleeping due to anxiety of them knocking on the door, I can't answer the phone for fear it's them it's literally like I'm back in that horrible situation again, I just cannot leave!
I must use say however though, through all the treats etc, I've never and an actual court letter but I feel like I can't keep fighting this. Honestly by this point I've considered going the same way as my ex, if he can commit suicide and get away with all this then why the hell couldn't I?
Please if if anyone has any advice for me I'd greatly appreciate it!
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