Husband cheats and beats up his wife

[MIKE770]

Re: Husband cheats and beats up his wife

Why assume that he would not be telling the truth?

a full story of how they met?
her passport = country
and background - did he go to Phils to find a wife, if so was he truthful, sorry but at the end of the day he needs his hands tied up and she must make a formal cvomplaint, there must be other filipinas around to help her and get her away from him, also if paasport of the phillipines the Phillipine embassy would lease with the police etc thru diplomatic channels.

I have on occassions found whilst out shopping in the phillipines maybe because I am doing it on my own that I get approached by E.U. citizens and be honest things have gone wrong on their trip and they find the filipina does not want to know or they find out they do not match and they are lonely, I tell them it happens so make the best of their trip but make sure a length of time to know/meet people before going to the expence and heartache, do not rush things, I even met USA guys who live with his wive in the Phils and have trouble getting to the USA and relevant problems, it can be a minefield,. but this lady needs to meet with other like people and get help over here, she does not have to take it.

[MIKE770]

Re: Husband cheats and beats up his wife

Also if things do not change and a divorce , he needs to make sure he stays away from the Phillipines if he beat her up as I have seen the outcome of such also nasty things over 10ftx10ft of land argument.

[CleverClogs]

Re: Husband cheats and beats up his wife

Also if things do not change and a divorce , he needs to make sure he stays away from the Phillipines if he beat her up as I have seen the outcome of such also nasty things over 10ftx10ft of land argument.

10ft x 10ft seems a bit big for a grave.

[MIKE770]

Re: Husband cheats and beats up his wife

10ft x 10ft seems a bit big for a grave.

Seriously a family knived over inter faimily argument over a piece of land that size, woman and children, we ended up trying to raise as they do have a long wake to raise money for burial, they play cards until enough money raised.

[Sapphire]

Re: Husband cheats and beats up his wife

Turning this on its head a bit, how about the lady in question only married the guy to get into Britain and gain a passport and all the benefits it comes with, then the guy realises he's been duped and wants rid of her ? Why on earth does she have to stay her and bring her offspring and probably the extended family over here, why can't she go back to the Phillipines ? Well the answer is simple isn't it..... lifestyle, benefits and everything else that they don't get over there. I'm sorry but if its that bad for her then get her a ticket back.

Before anyone jumps on me, no I am no supporting the guy in question, I DO NOT ADVOCATE violence of any sort, and believe me I was the victim of domestic violence for over five years so I know what I am talking about.

[enquirer]

Re: Husband cheats and beats up his wife

Just so, Sapphire.

All these things may be true - he is a dismal social inadequate who wanted a mailorder slave. She, on the other hand, may have been only too happy to go along with it, provided she could get herself and her family into this country.

[Sapphire]

Re: Husband cheats and beats up his wife

Then she should not be staying in this country, she is not our responsibility and neither are her offspring/extended family.

[MissFM]

Re: Husband cheats and beats up his wife

(discreet cough) We don't actually know this do we? She could have been working here for years, earning citizenship. They could've met, fallen in love.....Just saying.

[Eloise01]

Re: Husband cheats and beats up his wife

Oh, so now we are assuming that we know what her motivation for marrying him is and judging her on the basis of our assumptions because she's not white and born in Britain? What if he bought her - as many Filipino women are bought by Western men? Trafficking isn't limited to the criminal classes - there are many "legalised" forms of it which are exploited by Western men.What if she is one of the many Filipino women in this country legally because she works here - the NHS in particular would face a real issue if all the qualified Filipino nurses went home. The OP wanted advice for her friend who is facing a nightmare existence - not assumptions and judgements and "go back home because you are a benefits scrounger". All that has happened here is that everyone has leapt from "foreign" to "scrounger". Would anyone have done so if the OP had failed to mention her friends ethnicity? Friendly place, this Legal Beagles, provided you are white and British.

[Sapphire]

Re: Husband cheats and beats up his wife

Its a discussion, and everyone is entitled to their opinion, last time I looked we still had free speech, and can express our own opinions, whether we agree or disagree, we should all be able to say what we think.

[MIKE770]

Re: Husband cheats and beats up his wife

Oh, so now we are assuming that we know what her motivation for marrying him is and judging her on the basis of our assumptions because she's not white and born in Britain? What if he bought her - as many Filipino women are bought by Western men? Trafficking isn't limited to the criminal classes - there are many "legalised" forms of it which are exploited by Western men.What if she is one of the many Filipino women in this country legally because she works here - the NHS in particular would face a real issue if all the qualified Filipino nurses went home. The OP wanted advice for her friend who is facing a nightmare existence - not assumptions and judgements and "go back home because you are a benefits scrounger". All that has happened here is that everyone has leapt from "foreign" to "scrounger". Would anyone have done so if the OP had failed to mention her friends ethnicity? Friendly place, this Legal Beagles, provided you are white and British.

What are you talking about - Filipino women are bought by white men?, best not to say anything unless we know the real truth of the matter from start to finish! Man beating up any woman, send in the troops (females ) let them sort him out, posters please lets be told actual truth of the matter, dare we judge without any knowledge.

[Sapphire]

Re: Husband cheats and beats up his wife

I was merely trying to show a different scenario to the story, I'm sorry if its offended anyone but lets face it, it does happen, agreed though she could have already been here working and so on.
Lets wait and see what the original poster says.

[MIKE770]

Re: Husband cheats and beats up his wife

That is why the questions in earlier post = passport etc?

[Sapphire]

Re: Husband cheats and beats up his wife

Exactly, you have to see all sides don't you.

[Eloise01]

Re: Husband cheats and beats up his wife

Its a discussion, and everyone is entitled to their opinion, last time I looked we still had free speech, and can express our own opinions, whether we agree or disagree, we should all be able to say what we think.

But are not saying what you think though Sapphy - you are making judgements about the situation of someone else which are in no way in evidence here. If you think that all "foreigners" should be put on planes and sent back, fine, yes, I happen to disagree but (a) it isn't relevant to the post and (b) I would send quite like to send a few of our home born scroungers first, If the OP is bringing her "extended family" (no evidence for that here) to live off the state (no evidence of that either) then fine, express and opinion about that. But we now have more replies telling her to "go home" than we do helping with the problem of domestic violence. Are we to extend this philosophy of saying what we think to everyone else? So anyone having problems with bailiffs should be told that it's their own fault anyway for running up debts in the first place? Maybe some of them just got into trouble because of redundancy and couldn't afford to repay, but we should lump them all in with those, who we know exist, who run up debt because they can? If there is a thread about the rights and wrongs of immigration policy then fine - let's have the debate there. But let's not turn a thread about the horrors of domestic violence actually being perpetrated on this poor woman into an opportunity to assume that she's bringing half the island over here and condemn her for something we don't know anything about.