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Hi All,
Hope you are all well!
I am seeking some advice on a difficult situation and appreciate all and any pointers!
I got home 29 March from a London trip to find my ex-partner had emptied the house and taken my two children to her sisters which they are currently. She has been reasonable to a point and I have seen my children without issue 3 times per week since. I have suggested a schedule for the children and us to start to manage our individual lives - this has caused contention has she believes she is the main carer and become unwilling to negotiate. I have continued to pay for the children and offered a sum of money for a deposit for a house.
All good until today I received a lawyers letter dictating 2 visits per week (1 week day and 1 weekend alternate Friday/Saturday). The letter also makes reference to dealing with the issue of my property.
The background is we have two children 2 and 6 who I dote on - I want to maintain a healthy fatherhood relationship with them and have done so to-date. I own the property having bought it outright 5 years ago. I also paid all the household bills (aside oddly water and internet) and contributed to the children with money to the mother every month. The mother has not provided any finances to the home other than bits of furniture which she has taken. I have parental responsibility and they hold my surname.
A number of things I need to understand:
Can I ask for the 3 visits being fair - they have their own rooms and I have rescheduled work to meet their needs?
Can a claim be made on my property (we were cohabiting and my name is on the deeds)?
Should I seek legal assistance in this initial stage negotiating visits and access - I don't want to but having received the letter I feel I ought to at least respond. The quality of the letter is poor.
Do I retain the deposit I was going to provide?
My focus is my children and their stability and our relationship.
Any assistance or pointers gratefully received - thanks in advance.
T
Hope you are all well!
I am seeking some advice on a difficult situation and appreciate all and any pointers!
I got home 29 March from a London trip to find my ex-partner had emptied the house and taken my two children to her sisters which they are currently. She has been reasonable to a point and I have seen my children without issue 3 times per week since. I have suggested a schedule for the children and us to start to manage our individual lives - this has caused contention has she believes she is the main carer and become unwilling to negotiate. I have continued to pay for the children and offered a sum of money for a deposit for a house.
All good until today I received a lawyers letter dictating 2 visits per week (1 week day and 1 weekend alternate Friday/Saturday). The letter also makes reference to dealing with the issue of my property.
The background is we have two children 2 and 6 who I dote on - I want to maintain a healthy fatherhood relationship with them and have done so to-date. I own the property having bought it outright 5 years ago. I also paid all the household bills (aside oddly water and internet) and contributed to the children with money to the mother every month. The mother has not provided any finances to the home other than bits of furniture which she has taken. I have parental responsibility and they hold my surname.
A number of things I need to understand:
Can I ask for the 3 visits being fair - they have their own rooms and I have rescheduled work to meet their needs?
Can a claim be made on my property (we were cohabiting and my name is on the deeds)?
Should I seek legal assistance in this initial stage negotiating visits and access - I don't want to but having received the letter I feel I ought to at least respond. The quality of the letter is poor.
Do I retain the deposit I was going to provide?
My focus is my children and their stability and our relationship.
Any assistance or pointers gratefully received - thanks in advance.
T
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