Sorry that my first post is a sad story, but I guess that's the nature of this sub-forum !
Long story short:
* Married in 1998, 1 child born 1999 (now 18 and just left school)
* Bought house together in 1998, ex still lives in it with 18 year-old, no mortgage, worth about £400k
* House is in my sole name, purchase completed about 6 weeks before we married (she put in £40k from selling her own flat)
* Bought a buy-to-let flat in 2015 in our joint names, it cost £200k and has £150k mortgage outstanding
* Separated for 6 months in 2008 after she had an affair - I moved out and had a lovely time living in a (different) flat, foolishly we patched things up and I moved back in...
* We agreed last year (seemingly amicably) that the marriage was over, and I moved out again this time to the buy-to-let flat
* She continues to live in the house with our son - we had a verbal agreement that once son leaves school and gets a job, house and/or flat would be sold and proceeds divided fairly
* However, I though it was very clearly understood that son can live with either of us while he's starting out (I have a very good relationship with him) but that doesn't mean she necessarily gets to stay in a spacious 4-bed house while I'm in a 2-bed flat (nice though it is)
* Spoke to her last week about getting a valuation on the house and she said "I can't possibly move, <son> needs somewhere to live and anyway there's nothing in writing"
* Now, I didn't expect to get 50% of the equity but I certainly won't settle for 0% !!
* Would really rather settle by negotiation rather than immediately shelling out thousands on lawyers, but need to understand how strong my position is
* I have been gone 11 months, I think I have to wait until 2 years have passed before I can file for divorce ?
Do I have any viable options at this point please ?
Long story short:
* Married in 1998, 1 child born 1999 (now 18 and just left school)
* Bought house together in 1998, ex still lives in it with 18 year-old, no mortgage, worth about £400k
* House is in my sole name, purchase completed about 6 weeks before we married (she put in £40k from selling her own flat)
* Bought a buy-to-let flat in 2015 in our joint names, it cost £200k and has £150k mortgage outstanding
* Separated for 6 months in 2008 after she had an affair - I moved out and had a lovely time living in a (different) flat, foolishly we patched things up and I moved back in...
* We agreed last year (seemingly amicably) that the marriage was over, and I moved out again this time to the buy-to-let flat
* She continues to live in the house with our son - we had a verbal agreement that once son leaves school and gets a job, house and/or flat would be sold and proceeds divided fairly
* However, I though it was very clearly understood that son can live with either of us while he's starting out (I have a very good relationship with him) but that doesn't mean she necessarily gets to stay in a spacious 4-bed house while I'm in a 2-bed flat (nice though it is)
* Spoke to her last week about getting a valuation on the house and she said "I can't possibly move, <son> needs somewhere to live and anyway there's nothing in writing"
* Now, I didn't expect to get 50% of the equity but I certainly won't settle for 0% !!
* Would really rather settle by negotiation rather than immediately shelling out thousands on lawyers, but need to understand how strong my position is
* I have been gone 11 months, I think I have to wait until 2 years have passed before I can file for divorce ?
Do I have any viable options at this point please ?
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