Re: urgent advice. child protection
There is no doubt that you have been through a rough time. I do not know what come back you have re the misaddressed letter –someone else may know what you should do about that –but if you get through this and get a chance to re build your life then you can move to another nice area. Sarah you have done this before and although it is hard to, as Kipling said, start again with worn out tools at least you do have those tools. You are smart and people with fewer life skills have come back from situations worse than this. You hit a big ugly snake on the board and slid down and down but you are not at the bottom. It sure feels like it but you are nowhere near rock bottom.
These things have happened. No matter how much we would like to be able to turn back time and believe me we all would, we cannot. What you should do is change what you can then you will be amazed how many of the other things either do not matter or fall into place. Get yourself back into the game. Get back to your true positive self with the fighting spirit that did get that lovely house and created your wonderful children. Until you are back to your old self you can do little to change everything else. It was a struggle before and it will be a struggle now but show them all they cannot beat you. I have lived in many places and know many people and not one family can point the finger. In Ireland there is an old saying ”those who are rearing should be sparing”, in other words they may judge you but they have no idea what their children or other family members may do and it may be a hell of a lot worse then you have ever done! OK they hurt you and your children’s feelings but they will always be *********, you on the other hand can change your life. And, it will be a life so full that unlike them you won’t care what your neighbours are up to.
Your heart is full of love. Do not think about them or you will be eaten up with hate.
The worst thing that may, and I stress the word may happen is that your Children will live with their father for a while. I know that is not ideal but to be honest it could be a lot worse. Many people have unfairly lost their children into the fostering or long term care system and never know where they are or even if they are safe. Draw a line over everything else and concentrate on turning your life around. It is the toughest thing you will ever do but also the bravest and will the most rewarding.
There is no doubt that you have been through a rough time. I do not know what come back you have re the misaddressed letter –someone else may know what you should do about that –but if you get through this and get a chance to re build your life then you can move to another nice area. Sarah you have done this before and although it is hard to, as Kipling said, start again with worn out tools at least you do have those tools. You are smart and people with fewer life skills have come back from situations worse than this. You hit a big ugly snake on the board and slid down and down but you are not at the bottom. It sure feels like it but you are nowhere near rock bottom.
These things have happened. No matter how much we would like to be able to turn back time and believe me we all would, we cannot. What you should do is change what you can then you will be amazed how many of the other things either do not matter or fall into place. Get yourself back into the game. Get back to your true positive self with the fighting spirit that did get that lovely house and created your wonderful children. Until you are back to your old self you can do little to change everything else. It was a struggle before and it will be a struggle now but show them all they cannot beat you. I have lived in many places and know many people and not one family can point the finger. In Ireland there is an old saying ”those who are rearing should be sparing”, in other words they may judge you but they have no idea what their children or other family members may do and it may be a hell of a lot worse then you have ever done! OK they hurt you and your children’s feelings but they will always be *********, you on the other hand can change your life. And, it will be a life so full that unlike them you won’t care what your neighbours are up to.
Your heart is full of love. Do not think about them or you will be eaten up with hate.
The worst thing that may, and I stress the word may happen is that your Children will live with their father for a while. I know that is not ideal but to be honest it could be a lot worse. Many people have unfairly lost their children into the fostering or long term care system and never know where they are or even if they are safe. Draw a line over everything else and concentrate on turning your life around. It is the toughest thing you will ever do but also the bravest and will the most rewarding.
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