my wife told cafcass that i use cannabis, (which i do not) also that i drink a lot (i drink about 20 units a week) my wife is denying me contact. I am 52 years old.
Our children have been with me and my wife since they where born, but she left and took our children with her, they are two girls 7 and 5 years. the reason she left was we just do not get on together but she is makeing allagations against me that are not true.
i have not seen the children since 20 May 2013
My wife did not attend the frist hearing on 19 july
so the judge set a new date for 10 sepember.
and has ordered she attend in person 30 monutes before the hearing for nagotiation,
i do not have any history of hurting our children .
The socail worker even said the problem is when me and my wife are together and we argue becouse I think she is too strict with our children and she thinks I am too soft., the socail worker said we are both good perants but bad living together
i am going to have a hair strand test (the court as not ordered this but they could do at the first hearing becouse cafcass have advised a test in their letter)
My with has alleged I smoke CANNABIS and drink to much so CAFFCASS have adviced the court to test for these.
I want to have a underarm hair test ( before I am ordered to) for cannabis, to show i do not take cannabis, is it a good thing to do this before I am ordered by court?
should I send the results to cafcass before the hearing ?
I want to show cafcass that i am telling the truth and my wife is making allagations that are not true.
will they think better of me if i do?
will it make my contact case stronger?
I can not have a hair strand test for alcohol as my head hair is to short.
so I have had a liver function test for gamma and alt they show normal liver function.
Sould I send these result to Cafcass also?
cafcass seem to listen to my wife but not me unless i can prove otherwise.
has any member been through the same situation?
if I do all the above will it help me?
will the court allow me some contact (IF MY WIFE WILL AGREE ON CONTACT ) until this situation is sorted out?
ADVICE TO COURT FROM CAFCASS.
Initial Advice to the court
• The court may wish to consider hair strand testing in respect of alcohol use and cannabis use.
• A S7 report may be considered beneficial in this matter in relation to the welfare issues raised within this letter. This could be undertaken by the Local Authority who are currently involved in this matter.
• I would advise that contact is considered cautiously in light of the safeguarding concerns raised within this letter.
Our children have been with me and my wife since they where born, but she left and took our children with her, they are two girls 7 and 5 years. the reason she left was we just do not get on together but she is makeing allagations against me that are not true.
i have not seen the children since 20 May 2013
My wife did not attend the frist hearing on 19 july
so the judge set a new date for 10 sepember.
and has ordered she attend in person 30 monutes before the hearing for nagotiation,
i do not have any history of hurting our children .
The socail worker even said the problem is when me and my wife are together and we argue becouse I think she is too strict with our children and she thinks I am too soft., the socail worker said we are both good perants but bad living together
i am going to have a hair strand test (the court as not ordered this but they could do at the first hearing becouse cafcass have advised a test in their letter)
My with has alleged I smoke CANNABIS and drink to much so CAFFCASS have adviced the court to test for these.
I want to have a underarm hair test ( before I am ordered to) for cannabis, to show i do not take cannabis, is it a good thing to do this before I am ordered by court?
should I send the results to cafcass before the hearing ?
I want to show cafcass that i am telling the truth and my wife is making allagations that are not true.
will they think better of me if i do?
will it make my contact case stronger?
I can not have a hair strand test for alcohol as my head hair is to short.
so I have had a liver function test for gamma and alt they show normal liver function.
Sould I send these result to Cafcass also?
cafcass seem to listen to my wife but not me unless i can prove otherwise.
has any member been through the same situation?
if I do all the above will it help me?
will the court allow me some contact (IF MY WIFE WILL AGREE ON CONTACT ) until this situation is sorted out?
ADVICE TO COURT FROM CAFCASS.
Initial Advice to the court
• The court may wish to consider hair strand testing in respect of alcohol use and cannabis use.
• A S7 report may be considered beneficial in this matter in relation to the welfare issues raised within this letter. This could be undertaken by the Local Authority who are currently involved in this matter.
• I would advise that contact is considered cautiously in light of the safeguarding concerns raised within this letter.
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