Hi, not been on a forum such as this before, but hope someone can help.
My partner has been divorced for 4 yearsfrom the father of her child. He had an affair which ended the marriage.
In the past he has been very abusive ( once physically). So the relationship is one my partner is very weary of, she is scared of him to be fair. He has threatened to go forcustody and take their daughter several times (she has no reason to worry in my opinion but she still does!). She has full custody, and from day 1, access and maintenance have been verbal agreements.
The little girl (8), currently goes there 3 nights a week after him complaining and pressurizing her into it. She complains she doesnt want to go there. She Has also come back home for the 3rd time having not had her exczema cream applied causing problems. He walks off when my partner tries to give instructions, and/or involve him on discipline, or school issues. His attitude stinks to be honest. He acts a spoilt child if he doesnt get his way.
He pays £100 a month, which i feel is way to low considering him and his wife have more than decent incomes (he is management level). He contributes nothing else, and even sent her to school for PE withshoes full ofholes saying That he wont buy any as he gives maintenance.
We have basically had enough, and with the daughters desire not to go as often, and the basicneglect we feel in her welfare, something needs doing.
Does anybody know where we stand legally, and/or an opinion and advice on this? We obviously dnt want to have to go to court, but im prepared to, in the interests of the daughter. He will no doubt cry "custody battle" again which is worrying and putting off my partner doing anything. Surely he could only challenge custody if there were problems in my partners household?
Thanks for any help!
My partner has been divorced for 4 yearsfrom the father of her child. He had an affair which ended the marriage.
In the past he has been very abusive ( once physically). So the relationship is one my partner is very weary of, she is scared of him to be fair. He has threatened to go forcustody and take their daughter several times (she has no reason to worry in my opinion but she still does!). She has full custody, and from day 1, access and maintenance have been verbal agreements.
The little girl (8), currently goes there 3 nights a week after him complaining and pressurizing her into it. She complains she doesnt want to go there. She Has also come back home for the 3rd time having not had her exczema cream applied causing problems. He walks off when my partner tries to give instructions, and/or involve him on discipline, or school issues. His attitude stinks to be honest. He acts a spoilt child if he doesnt get his way.
He pays £100 a month, which i feel is way to low considering him and his wife have more than decent incomes (he is management level). He contributes nothing else, and even sent her to school for PE withshoes full ofholes saying That he wont buy any as he gives maintenance.
We have basically had enough, and with the daughters desire not to go as often, and the basicneglect we feel in her welfare, something needs doing.
Does anybody know where we stand legally, and/or an opinion and advice on this? We obviously dnt want to have to go to court, but im prepared to, in the interests of the daughter. He will no doubt cry "custody battle" again which is worrying and putting off my partner doing anything. Surely he could only challenge custody if there were problems in my partners household?
Thanks for any help!
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