A little background....Ex husband had debt issues over 10 years ago, which led to 3 charges on my house, the then marital home. He has MH issues, gets in a good place, then a bad place and I end up bailing him out again, letting him stay...its a cycle. I don't want marital advice, he's my children's father and I will always help him.
The Charges, or Restrictions as they are listed on the Land Registry are for (I believe) 2 credit card bills for about £5K each and a loan for about £20K. They are in his name alone, not mine.
As he's forever under the doctor, on anti anxiety and depression meds, mostly off sick and out of work, over the years I have negotiated nominal weekly £5 payments to 'keep the debtors happy' and to be honest I pay these even though the debts are his, to make sure they're paid. They are aware of his MH issues.
Anyway that's the background, here's the question. I have come into a little money, not enough to pay them off, but ideally I would like them gone...they are forever hanging over my head. Can I offer a reduced amount to clear the debts, and lose the Charges, as in a full and final settlement? I wonder if they would even consider it, bearing in mind they have the Charge and would get the money, albeit eventually. I dont intend to move house and hopefully my death is decades away...lol. Would they take a reduced amount now to get something back or continue to take £5 a week forevermore for the next 30 or so years. Tbh he's barely dented the balance over the years.
If you feel I could offer a full and final settlement figure, what should it be? I guess they would reject my first offer, come back with a counter offer, so should I start low? If so, how low?
I would appreciate your thoughts and advice. Thanks
Frances.
The Charges, or Restrictions as they are listed on the Land Registry are for (I believe) 2 credit card bills for about £5K each and a loan for about £20K. They are in his name alone, not mine.
As he's forever under the doctor, on anti anxiety and depression meds, mostly off sick and out of work, over the years I have negotiated nominal weekly £5 payments to 'keep the debtors happy' and to be honest I pay these even though the debts are his, to make sure they're paid. They are aware of his MH issues.
Anyway that's the background, here's the question. I have come into a little money, not enough to pay them off, but ideally I would like them gone...they are forever hanging over my head. Can I offer a reduced amount to clear the debts, and lose the Charges, as in a full and final settlement? I wonder if they would even consider it, bearing in mind they have the Charge and would get the money, albeit eventually. I dont intend to move house and hopefully my death is decades away...lol. Would they take a reduced amount now to get something back or continue to take £5 a week forevermore for the next 30 or so years. Tbh he's barely dented the balance over the years.
If you feel I could offer a full and final settlement figure, what should it be? I guess they would reject my first offer, come back with a counter offer, so should I start low? If so, how low?
I would appreciate your thoughts and advice. Thanks
Frances.
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