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I am getting divorced after 7 years of being married. I own a property with my husband. He got arrested because of the domestic violence and he is on the police bail till January, he is not allowed to contact me by any means and he is not allowed to enter our property as well. After he got arrested and released on bail he went to his solicitor (he wants a Financial order - I wanted a fair consent order months ago...) and his solicitor wrote to me that my husband wants to collect several items from the property. In general - he wants to take ALL the small appliances from the kitchen (litterally - ALL), all the audio equipment (speakers, audio receiver etc) and our game console (litterally - everything valuable we both together) I find that division a bit unfair... The worst part of his list is that he wants to collect my personal belongings as well. He wants half of the cuttlery I received from my Grandmother - she bought it for me over 20 years ago, she gave it to me when I turned 18, it is my family heirloom... He lied to his solicitor that it was our wedding gift - I brought this cuttlery from my family home at least one year before we got married... He lied to his solicitor as well that this cuttlery is silver - it is not silver, it is only silver-plated... It is not even valuable - the only value of it for me (and my Granny as well, she is more than upset with this fact...) in highly emotional, this set is valueless I have no idea if I could get 20 pounds for it. REALLY. Another problem is that I borrowed a glass dessert set from my Mother, and he wants half of it as well. This set belongs to my Mother, she received this when she was a maiden (40 years ago - it is a valueless family heirloom as well) and it was never a gift - I have to give back this set to her when she moves closer to the place I live now in the nearest future. I think that giving my husband my Mother's stuff would be noting else but thievery... (by the way - it case of half of this set - we talk about 4 small dessert plates and one larger platter...) spilitting this set would be pointless anyway, even if it was ours... The last thing on his list is my air rifle. First of all - it was my non-martial item, and it was a gifl from my friend, even not from my parents. Since my husband started to be aggresive towards me (he used to hit me badly/ was verbally abusive etc) I decided that I am not going to keep my rifle at home any more - I gave it away, because I was too much affraid my husband will try to use it. And my husband knows that I do not have this rifle any more... I have no idea how I should explain this to the court. I thought I was able to do anything I want to my own personal stuff...
I am not going to explain every single item he put on the list, I would take too long. In general - he has collected his ALL personal stuff from home (except his bicycle) and now he created a list with 1. the most expensive items from home we bought together 2. my own personal, non-martial items 3. items that belong to my Mother and items, that were mine and I do not have them any longer (were given away like my rifle/ items that got broken and were thrown away etc...)
His list consist of the valueless things that belong to me and he knows how important they are for me and how I am attached to them. I repeat one more time - we talk about valueless items...
I have no idea what to do, I am affraid I will have to give my Mother's belongings to him and I will have to buy the new items that are on the list and that do not exist any more...
I really have no idea what to do...
That you for your time, if anyone replies to me I will be more than grateful...
Enjoy your day!
Thank you so much!
Ash
I am getting divorced after 7 years of being married. I own a property with my husband. He got arrested because of the domestic violence and he is on the police bail till January, he is not allowed to contact me by any means and he is not allowed to enter our property as well. After he got arrested and released on bail he went to his solicitor (he wants a Financial order - I wanted a fair consent order months ago...) and his solicitor wrote to me that my husband wants to collect several items from the property. In general - he wants to take ALL the small appliances from the kitchen (litterally - ALL), all the audio equipment (speakers, audio receiver etc) and our game console (litterally - everything valuable we both together) I find that division a bit unfair... The worst part of his list is that he wants to collect my personal belongings as well. He wants half of the cuttlery I received from my Grandmother - she bought it for me over 20 years ago, she gave it to me when I turned 18, it is my family heirloom... He lied to his solicitor that it was our wedding gift - I brought this cuttlery from my family home at least one year before we got married... He lied to his solicitor as well that this cuttlery is silver - it is not silver, it is only silver-plated... It is not even valuable - the only value of it for me (and my Granny as well, she is more than upset with this fact...) in highly emotional, this set is valueless I have no idea if I could get 20 pounds for it. REALLY. Another problem is that I borrowed a glass dessert set from my Mother, and he wants half of it as well. This set belongs to my Mother, she received this when she was a maiden (40 years ago - it is a valueless family heirloom as well) and it was never a gift - I have to give back this set to her when she moves closer to the place I live now in the nearest future. I think that giving my husband my Mother's stuff would be noting else but thievery... (by the way - it case of half of this set - we talk about 4 small dessert plates and one larger platter...) spilitting this set would be pointless anyway, even if it was ours... The last thing on his list is my air rifle. First of all - it was my non-martial item, and it was a gifl from my friend, even not from my parents. Since my husband started to be aggresive towards me (he used to hit me badly/ was verbally abusive etc) I decided that I am not going to keep my rifle at home any more - I gave it away, because I was too much affraid my husband will try to use it. And my husband knows that I do not have this rifle any more... I have no idea how I should explain this to the court. I thought I was able to do anything I want to my own personal stuff...
I am not going to explain every single item he put on the list, I would take too long. In general - he has collected his ALL personal stuff from home (except his bicycle) and now he created a list with 1. the most expensive items from home we bought together 2. my own personal, non-martial items 3. items that belong to my Mother and items, that were mine and I do not have them any longer (were given away like my rifle/ items that got broken and were thrown away etc...)
His list consist of the valueless things that belong to me and he knows how important they are for me and how I am attached to them. I repeat one more time - we talk about valueless items...
I have no idea what to do, I am affraid I will have to give my Mother's belongings to him and I will have to buy the new items that are on the list and that do not exist any more...
I really have no idea what to do...
That you for your time, if anyone replies to me I will be more than grateful...
Enjoy your day!
Thank you so much!
Ash
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