My first post on the forum. I hope you can assist.
My father has been married for 30 years, this is his 3rd marriage and I am his only child. They now both have developed dementia. they are in their 80's. I have just been informed by my step-sister that she has power of attorney over her mother and my father. I didn't really have a problem with this but was a little concerned she hadn't asked for my approval. She is the only child of her mother so its not like their are many siblings involved, just the 2 of us. I would have sought her opinion if I had been asked to be POA. However it seemed to make sense as she lives close ( I live 200 miles away) so she could manage the day to day expenses.
Recently my father has had falls and has gone to hospital they are now same care home( in the last 5 days) and assessments were written up. I asked my step-sister to forward the assessments and to my horror the GP and care home had no idea I existed or in fact that my father had a living relative. She had not told anyone I was 2nd next of kin to my father. They presumed she was. Now alarm bells are strting to ring as to why I wasn't consulted over the initial POA. Had my father not had dementia he would never had agreed to this without consulting me. I am going to ask for a joint POA so I have an input with my dads affairs. Is this straight forward? What if she objects? Should I have been consulted in the first place? A number of questions I know. Can I object to the original POA on the grounds of my fathers mental state. Any advice would be appreciated.
My father has been married for 30 years, this is his 3rd marriage and I am his only child. They now both have developed dementia. they are in their 80's. I have just been informed by my step-sister that she has power of attorney over her mother and my father. I didn't really have a problem with this but was a little concerned she hadn't asked for my approval. She is the only child of her mother so its not like their are many siblings involved, just the 2 of us. I would have sought her opinion if I had been asked to be POA. However it seemed to make sense as she lives close ( I live 200 miles away) so she could manage the day to day expenses.
Recently my father has had falls and has gone to hospital they are now same care home( in the last 5 days) and assessments were written up. I asked my step-sister to forward the assessments and to my horror the GP and care home had no idea I existed or in fact that my father had a living relative. She had not told anyone I was 2nd next of kin to my father. They presumed she was. Now alarm bells are strting to ring as to why I wasn't consulted over the initial POA. Had my father not had dementia he would never had agreed to this without consulting me. I am going to ask for a joint POA so I have an input with my dads affairs. Is this straight forward? What if she objects? Should I have been consulted in the first place? A number of questions I know. Can I object to the original POA on the grounds of my fathers mental state. Any advice would be appreciated.
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