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A neighbour made a complaint about our dogs barking back in 2016. Obviously I was concerned, I got a dog monitor so that I could see exactly how much they were barking and for how long. What I did find was my dog sitter was literally staying for 10 minutes when contracted for an hour to take them for a walk and burn some energy off. I also found that they had a total duration of bark time of 3 -7 minutes for the day and this was almost always when we received post or someone at the door or other neighbours were allowing their dogs to come down our drive. Since then we were repeatedly shouted abuse at us from his windows, occasionally coming to the door, following hubby to work to leave malicious notes on the car etc etc He also threatened hubby challenging him to a fight and similar behaviours. He made it so that my daughter would not come home until hubby or I were in given his behaviour and abuse as these triggered a panic attack.
Periodically we involved the police who basically warned him off but it wasn't ever long before he started again.
We moved house in Feb last year (mainly as a result of this). His beef was clearly against us and not other neighbours. We did not have a for sale sign outside the house and told nobody where we were moving to so the only time he became aware was on move day. About 3 months ago he obviously found our address and my phone number. We've had loads of junk mail (usually 3 companies a day) mailing us and phoning me. It's beyond a joke now. I need to answer calls for my job but these are stopping me, particularly when I try to get these companies to remove me from mailing lists etc. He's filling in slips in the sun or daily mail to give our info which is largely for funeral plans, life insurance, charities etc I've got various companies to send me the slip or a scanned slip so I have evidence (plus the notes left on cars and provided to police in the past) as a comparator.
I've today reported this as an incident to the police. I really don't think he'll stop. I'm a trained mediator and can't see him engaging with that process with another mediator at all nor do I have any confidence that the police will get to the point where it stops.
I now feel that the only way to get this resolved is by doing something that will cause him an inconvenience. I'm hopefully going to secure a harassment order on the back of a police caution or other action. I also want to seek compensation as I think it's the monetary element which will tip him into action. I'm wondering what amount to claim? It needs to be enough to provide some discomfort for him but not so much that it would create a rejection in small claims. If I was to go on the amount of time I've spent trying to stop all this it would be pretty significant as my job and day rate is quite high.
Could anyone suggest a method of calculating this? His action is obviously targetting me primarily but also my daughter (who is 23 and suffers from anxiety) and hubby.
Many thanks for any guidance or support.
A neighbour made a complaint about our dogs barking back in 2016. Obviously I was concerned, I got a dog monitor so that I could see exactly how much they were barking and for how long. What I did find was my dog sitter was literally staying for 10 minutes when contracted for an hour to take them for a walk and burn some energy off. I also found that they had a total duration of bark time of 3 -7 minutes for the day and this was almost always when we received post or someone at the door or other neighbours were allowing their dogs to come down our drive. Since then we were repeatedly shouted abuse at us from his windows, occasionally coming to the door, following hubby to work to leave malicious notes on the car etc etc He also threatened hubby challenging him to a fight and similar behaviours. He made it so that my daughter would not come home until hubby or I were in given his behaviour and abuse as these triggered a panic attack.
Periodically we involved the police who basically warned him off but it wasn't ever long before he started again.
We moved house in Feb last year (mainly as a result of this). His beef was clearly against us and not other neighbours. We did not have a for sale sign outside the house and told nobody where we were moving to so the only time he became aware was on move day. About 3 months ago he obviously found our address and my phone number. We've had loads of junk mail (usually 3 companies a day) mailing us and phoning me. It's beyond a joke now. I need to answer calls for my job but these are stopping me, particularly when I try to get these companies to remove me from mailing lists etc. He's filling in slips in the sun or daily mail to give our info which is largely for funeral plans, life insurance, charities etc I've got various companies to send me the slip or a scanned slip so I have evidence (plus the notes left on cars and provided to police in the past) as a comparator.
I've today reported this as an incident to the police. I really don't think he'll stop. I'm a trained mediator and can't see him engaging with that process with another mediator at all nor do I have any confidence that the police will get to the point where it stops.
I now feel that the only way to get this resolved is by doing something that will cause him an inconvenience. I'm hopefully going to secure a harassment order on the back of a police caution or other action. I also want to seek compensation as I think it's the monetary element which will tip him into action. I'm wondering what amount to claim? It needs to be enough to provide some discomfort for him but not so much that it would create a rejection in small claims. If I was to go on the amount of time I've spent trying to stop all this it would be pretty significant as my job and day rate is quite high.
Could anyone suggest a method of calculating this? His action is obviously targetting me primarily but also my daughter (who is 23 and suffers from anxiety) and hubby.
Many thanks for any guidance or support.
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