Getting domestic assault charges dropped (as the victim)

[Guest]

Hello; thank you for your time. My question must be a common one. My partner and I are in an unfortunate situation since I called the police when he became aggressive due to alcohol intoxication. He didn't harm me physically but there were threats, menacing gestures and some manhandling involved. I reacted out of panic. He was arrested and later charged with domestic assault and forbidden from contacting me for at least a few months (but things move slowly so fixing this situation could take ages). The plea was not guilty. I understand there are two things I can do:

1. Writing a letter to the PF explaining I provoked the situation and was not objective when giving a statement. I'd like to ask whether this would help at all, how soon I can do this (it's been 6 days since the incident) and whether it might make things worse.
2. Writing a letter his solicitor can use towards appealing the special bail condition preventing him from contacting me. I'm not sure how soon this would be possible and how to go about it.
If anyone can advise me, I'd be very grateful.

[Aged William]

I'm not that familiar with the Scottish criminal justice system, but it's not that uncommon in E&W for domestic assault prosecutions to proceed without the support of the complainant due to the overarching need to ensure proper and continuing safeguarding.

I suggest contacting his solicitor in the first instance to consider the merits of a bail variation application, and to seek their specific advice on what your options are.

Be aware that writing to the PF saying you provoked the incident and gave a *potentially* misleading statement may not be in your best interests.

[paulajayne]

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threats, menacing gestures and some manhandling involved." and you are willing to accept this a normal - think again - you should not have to endure this even if drink is involved.
Have a serious think about this relationship.

[Scot22]

I agree with Paula Jayne. Alcohol abuse is dangerous. Forums have limited information but calling the police implies how frightened you were.
Some of us, myself included, have done silly things when under the influence. However, not threatening. I suggest finding someone you trust to talk things over