Domestic abuse

[Glupi]

Hi guys I have problem . Had bad times with wife was accused for domestic abuse and sentenced a couple.months ago for that I've punched the door . Was asking her for 5 hours to get back my wallet and mobile phone but question is about what happened 3 days ago. My wife was attacked by someone at night and was in come. We are living in two diffrent flats. Police.thought it was me but they clearef me after 8 hours of questioning but they checked my phone and her phone. She woked up and I was able to speak with her . Now she told that police officer said that someone from domestic abuse will contact her because of our messages. They weren't bad nothing like that" i will do something to you or something worse" normal argue about her cheating and other normal stuff. She said that she doesn't want to speak with them. She didn't complain because for her this is stupid what they are doing. My question is can the charged me without her complain????Or she has to complain and after that they can charge me for what they want but this is stupid I didn't do anything wrong.

Forgot mention that social service.said that she can't stay alon efor ovetnight with kids and I have to be with them Decission was made for kids that I will.move tonger house.for some.time and I did it. Everything seems be ok we still.want.to.divorce but is very good comunication between us. Social.service said that sitiation when kids can't stay alone with mum.at night is temporary not for.long time. And after that I will back.to my flat. But I still think about that police and messenger. I'm reading.this messages all the time and don't see anything bad.

[des8]

It would seem there is something in those messages which flags up concerns with the police.
But the police are very quick to pick up on possible domestic abuse.
They will want to interview your wife to make sure there has not been, and there is now, no abuse.
If your wife does not want to discuss the matter with the police, she is entitled to refuse to speak with them.

[Glupi]

There is thousands of conversation ,argue ,love,divorce etc.But if I feel that someone is abuse me then ok I can go report that but when you have access to someones phone and you are reading his messages without knowledge about him at all it's easy say he is abusive or she is abusive. I know my wife and she can be very difficult but after all argues we were coolong down and speaking about this. She is still in contact with womans aid and she said that she doean't want to speak with poloce and they can ask about her womans aid. We decided to divorce and everything was fine u untill that accident happend. They thought that my wife was assaulted and I was first suslect.

[des8]

Don't worry about it as there is nothing you can do at the moment.
However if the police come back to you with a request for an interview, insist on the duty solicitor being present.
This is your right and cannot be refused.

[Glupi]

I will remember. Have to stop thinking about them. Thank you for your help. In Scotland everything can be Domestic Abuse:/ love this Country but hate system

[des8]

FYI domestic abuse is as defined in the Serious Crime Act 2015 sec 76 (http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/...ion/76/enacted)

[Glupi]

OMG it can be everything:/you can say don't see her because she is junky and this is abuse . Ehhh

[des8]

I know that the authorities are keen to investigate any suspicion of abuse, but you will get your chance to put your side of the texts.
But don't speak to them without a solicitor present for you.

[Glupi]

Questuon is can they arrest me? I'm affraid that they will come.to my job and arrest me .

[des8]

Most unlikely.... most probably invited in for interview under caution.
If you ain't a threat to anyone they won't keep you in!

[Glupi]

Good to hear that. I didn't threat anyone. It must be threat that someone is affraid about life and health? No I didn't even say something like that

[Glupi]

Now I'm now that I'm sole care for my kids and it will take for social service probably couple of weeks. Nothing hear from police. But know that they found at my wifes flat white powder but I think they have to check that

[des8]

These investigations seem to take forever, but at least you have the children and they are safe

[Glupi]

Yes happy with that at work everything sorted.Now have to only wait hope they didn't do anything and case will be closed as soon as possible in her and my case. Most stressfull time in my life thousands of question in my head . What if they want to charge me and I'm sole care for kids etc. But I think I have to go to gp and ask for help as well. Can't sleep and eat:/

[des8]

Certainly a visit to the doctor won't hurt.
Besides helping with your stress and anxiety, the surgery might be able to point you in the direction of further support to help you caring for your children.