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Hi, I’m on this forum because my solicitors are useless, incompetent and impossible to get hold of. I’m currently in the process of finding a new firm.
I have a 2 year old daughter with my ex (we where together very briefly and split before my daughter was born) recently I applied for a child arrangement order because she is impossible to communicate with and I wanted concrete arrangements to see my daughter without her messing me around. We are due in court for the second hearing in 2 weeks. During the first hearing she told the court she didn’t know if I was her dad (I think she just said this to be difficult) a DNA was ordered which has came back that I am. She has communicated with my solicitors regarding arrangements and it seems now she is willing to come to an agreement for regular contact after she was advised to by her solicitor. I have paid her £1200 a month since my daughters birth.
I received an email today (which she had sent to my solicitors too) stating she wanted to come up with a family based financial agreement with me. She has said she wants to do this between us and has said if it can’t be done between ourselves, then she will mention it during our child arrangements hearing and take it to court herself if necessary. She said she will be applying for schedule one financial provisions for children: children’s act 1989.
Shes quoted the statute in the email and what judges can order. She has specified that she would like me to:
-provide a house until my daughters 18 and then it will revert back to me.
-provide a lump sum so she can furnish the home, buy a car and pay for removal costs.
-A higher weekly amount of maintenance of 9% of my income. (The child support calculator can’t calculate incomes above £3000 a week and I have a higher income than that)
She doesnt work, she’s in her final year at university, she also has a 4 year old son by an ex partner. She is 21. She currently lives in her mums property but her mother is emigrating to Australia and wants to sell the property to fund the move. She says she can move in with her auntie but it will mean having to share a bedroom with my daughter; she says that as I can afford it I should be providing them with a family home.
I earn 5 figures a week, I also have 4 other properties which I rent out (she can’t live in one of these as they’re 200 miles from her)
My question is, if it goes to court is she likely to be awarded this?
Is there any point contesting or should I just agree/try to compromise?
I dont want to waste waste money on court and solicitor fees if she’s going to get what she wants anyway. I just feel like I shouldn’t have to give her anymore than what I already do which is a massive amount considering she doesn’t have to do anything for it.
I have a 2 year old daughter with my ex (we where together very briefly and split before my daughter was born) recently I applied for a child arrangement order because she is impossible to communicate with and I wanted concrete arrangements to see my daughter without her messing me around. We are due in court for the second hearing in 2 weeks. During the first hearing she told the court she didn’t know if I was her dad (I think she just said this to be difficult) a DNA was ordered which has came back that I am. She has communicated with my solicitors regarding arrangements and it seems now she is willing to come to an agreement for regular contact after she was advised to by her solicitor. I have paid her £1200 a month since my daughters birth.
I received an email today (which she had sent to my solicitors too) stating she wanted to come up with a family based financial agreement with me. She has said she wants to do this between us and has said if it can’t be done between ourselves, then she will mention it during our child arrangements hearing and take it to court herself if necessary. She said she will be applying for schedule one financial provisions for children: children’s act 1989.
Shes quoted the statute in the email and what judges can order. She has specified that she would like me to:
-provide a house until my daughters 18 and then it will revert back to me.
-provide a lump sum so she can furnish the home, buy a car and pay for removal costs.
-A higher weekly amount of maintenance of 9% of my income. (The child support calculator can’t calculate incomes above £3000 a week and I have a higher income than that)
She doesnt work, she’s in her final year at university, she also has a 4 year old son by an ex partner. She is 21. She currently lives in her mums property but her mother is emigrating to Australia and wants to sell the property to fund the move. She says she can move in with her auntie but it will mean having to share a bedroom with my daughter; she says that as I can afford it I should be providing them with a family home.
I earn 5 figures a week, I also have 4 other properties which I rent out (she can’t live in one of these as they’re 200 miles from her)
My question is, if it goes to court is she likely to be awarded this?
Is there any point contesting or should I just agree/try to compromise?
I dont want to waste waste money on court and solicitor fees if she’s going to get what she wants anyway. I just feel like I shouldn’t have to give her anymore than what I already do which is a massive amount considering she doesn’t have to do anything for it.
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