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Step Father, not doing what my mother wanted.

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  • #16
    Do you have no contact with your step father who adopted you now?
    I am a qualified solicitor and am happy to try and assist informally, where needed.

    Any posts I make on LegalBeagles are for information and discussion purposes only and shouldn't be seen as legal advice. Any practical advice I give is without liability. I do not represent people on the forum.

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    • #17
      No, he has blocked my email and phone and banned me from the family home. I am going to write him a letter to let him know how I feel, and how my mother must be turning in her grave.

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      • #18
        Oh dear, maybe a letter is a good way to try and explain how you feel about the situation. It is very difficult but try not to be too accusatory I would think any dialogue probably needs to be more conciliatory. If you don’t know how his estate is to be dealt with you could be shooting yourself in the foot.
        I hope you can find some common ground and try to move things forward.
        I am a qualified solicitor and am happy to try and assist informally, where needed.

        Any posts I make on LegalBeagles are for information and discussion purposes only and shouldn't be seen as legal advice. Any practical advice I give is without liability. I do not represent people on the forum.

        If in doubt you should always seek professional face to face legal advice.

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        • #19
          Letter sent.

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          • #20
            Originally posted by Peridot View Post
            Do you have no contact with your step father who adopted you now?
            I have written to him. Do you think I should inform the Catholic Church of his pride and greed, he is a senior alter server, just to get back at him, or am I just being stupid because he has hurt me so much.

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            • #21
              Oh dear, it must be so difficult for you. I'm not sure that letting the church know would serve any purpose other than to fuel issues with your step father and as you say get back at him. It may be time better spent to try and deal with your hurt and allow yourself to move on? It is so hard when family relations deteriorate to such a level it can be difficult to see what really matters.
              Maybe it would help writing your feelings down and putting it to one side. Sometimes it can help get the anger and hurt out to a degree to allow you to move on? Just an idea it is evident how much you are hurting but maybe the best course of action is to deal with your feelings and work out how you can lay things to rest, rather than continuing with a principle.
              I don't want to appear harsh but from what you have said it appears you are trying to find anything to make your adoptive father realise how hurt you are. I doubt it is possible to find ways to make him feel some guilt (which I doubt he will in any event) in the hope it makes you feel better. Maybe it's time to focus on you and not him?
              I am a qualified solicitor and am happy to try and assist informally, where needed.

              Any posts I make on LegalBeagles are for information and discussion purposes only and shouldn't be seen as legal advice. Any practical advice I give is without liability. I do not represent people on the forum.

              If in doubt you should always seek professional face to face legal advice.

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              • #22
                Originally posted by Peridot View Post
                Oh dear, it must be so difficult for you. I'm not sure that letting the church know would serve any purpose other than to fuel issues with your step father and as you say get back at him. It may be time better spent to try and deal with your hurt and allow yourself to move on? It is so hard when family relations deteriorate to such a level it can be difficult to see what really matters.
                Maybe it would help writing your feelings down and putting it to one side. Sometimes it can help get the anger and hurt out to a degree to allow you to move on? Just an idea it is evident how much you are hurting but maybe the best course of action is to deal with your feelings and work out how you can lay things to rest, rather than continuing with a principle.
                I don't want to appear harsh but from what you have said it appears you are trying to find anything to make your adoptive father realise how hurt you are. I doubt it is possible to find ways to make him feel some guilt (which I doubt he will in any event) in the hope it makes you feel better. Maybe it's time to focus on you and not him?
                Thanks, think your right.

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