My father died 18 months ago. After a few months, I discovered from one of my sister' that he left me just £10 from his considerable fortune. My sister's didn't think this was right, so they added a Deed of variance, giving me £40,000 - which I thought was kind of them (at the time).
The will has not been fully distributed yet but, since this "kind" offer was made (and paid) two things have happened.
Firstly, I've discovered that my father had been gifting my sisters very large amounts of money and goods in the few years before his death and, even after these amounts were paid, his remaining estate was in the region of £1m. This means my sisters get over £500k each - and I get £40k.
The second discovery was that my father had been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder - making him mentally unbalanced. It explained his appalling treatment of me and my immediate family and his lifelong disproportionate treatment of me and my brother (who he drove to suicide in 1998). My sisters had gifts showered on them whilst my brother and I got nothing. He barred me from seeing my dying mother (until the last week) - then used that premise to leave me just £10.
I have discovered that both my sisters knew of his disorder but, as it benefited them, chose not to share this with me.
I was forced into accepting £40k in the belief that this was a "reasonable" amount without knowledge of the previous gifts, the size of the estate, or his metal disorder.
In addition, I have discovered that my father may well have misappropriated the pension fund that I paid into when I worked for one of his companies by simply "taking this on my behalf" in his role as trustee of the fund. This alone has left me around £100k short on my pension expectations and, because I opted out, some £50 a week short on my state pension.
So I am now left to face my retirement with little money - whilst my sisters have everything they could ever wish for.
I probably know the answer, but - is there anything I can do about this?
Or have I shot myself in the foot by accepting the £40k?
Thanks
Paul.
The will has not been fully distributed yet but, since this "kind" offer was made (and paid) two things have happened.
Firstly, I've discovered that my father had been gifting my sisters very large amounts of money and goods in the few years before his death and, even after these amounts were paid, his remaining estate was in the region of £1m. This means my sisters get over £500k each - and I get £40k.
The second discovery was that my father had been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder - making him mentally unbalanced. It explained his appalling treatment of me and my immediate family and his lifelong disproportionate treatment of me and my brother (who he drove to suicide in 1998). My sisters had gifts showered on them whilst my brother and I got nothing. He barred me from seeing my dying mother (until the last week) - then used that premise to leave me just £10.
I have discovered that both my sisters knew of his disorder but, as it benefited them, chose not to share this with me.
I was forced into accepting £40k in the belief that this was a "reasonable" amount without knowledge of the previous gifts, the size of the estate, or his metal disorder.
In addition, I have discovered that my father may well have misappropriated the pension fund that I paid into when I worked for one of his companies by simply "taking this on my behalf" in his role as trustee of the fund. This alone has left me around £100k short on my pension expectations and, because I opted out, some £50 a week short on my state pension.
So I am now left to face my retirement with little money - whilst my sisters have everything they could ever wish for.
I probably know the answer, but - is there anything I can do about this?
Or have I shot myself in the foot by accepting the £40k?
Thanks
Paul.
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