Basically my grandad died in 2016. In fact a week and a half before my mum.
I know that my grandad had a will as I remember my mum and aunt talking at my mums house a few years ago about how they had been helping my grandad with his will (he had asked them to) and they didn’t know that they couldn’t be witnesses if they were also beneficiaries or something like that, so they had had to get his neighbours to help and they had all had a bit of a laugh about what they would have done had his neighbours not been able to help.
My grandad had been quite open that he wanted all his money (he lived in a Council house so no property) divided equally between all his children but he had also left some provision for my disabled brother as he had sort of adopted him since my dad died a number of years ago.
Now, my mum and my aunt also had some sort of co signatory thing on his bank account as he never left his home.
After my mum died I ended up going no contact with my aunt for personal reasons, I found the whole thing profoundly distressing and I cannot bring myself to contact her. It got to the point at some point where anytime my phone would ring I would just burst into tears thinking it could be her. And tbh even now I feel ill at the idea I may have to talk to her.
Anyway, when sorting my mums things there was a box of stuff that I had just put aside to deal with a later date.
I started to go through that and noticed that there was some stuff addressed to my mum from my grandads bank. So I contacted them to see if I needed to send it back (one of the things was an atm card, it had been sent out when my mum was too ill to do anything with it so it remained in an envelope). They said to drop into a bank with the card and they will destroy it, but not to worry too much because the account was close shortly after my grandad passed away.
However, I have done a probate search with the probate office and nothing was ever granted there. So I suspect that she has emptied the account then closed it in order to avoid paying anything that may be due to my disabled brother and to us (I understand that as my grandad died a week and a half before my mum her inheritance may pass to us unless there was a clause. Though tbh Im not bothered about us, I just cant help but think of my brother and feel awful that he has done nothing and there was such love between him and my grandad, I just feel angry that he has been cut out by her.
Is there anything I can do to rectify this? Or should I just leave it?
I know that my grandad had a will as I remember my mum and aunt talking at my mums house a few years ago about how they had been helping my grandad with his will (he had asked them to) and they didn’t know that they couldn’t be witnesses if they were also beneficiaries or something like that, so they had had to get his neighbours to help and they had all had a bit of a laugh about what they would have done had his neighbours not been able to help.
My grandad had been quite open that he wanted all his money (he lived in a Council house so no property) divided equally between all his children but he had also left some provision for my disabled brother as he had sort of adopted him since my dad died a number of years ago.
Now, my mum and my aunt also had some sort of co signatory thing on his bank account as he never left his home.
After my mum died I ended up going no contact with my aunt for personal reasons, I found the whole thing profoundly distressing and I cannot bring myself to contact her. It got to the point at some point where anytime my phone would ring I would just burst into tears thinking it could be her. And tbh even now I feel ill at the idea I may have to talk to her.
Anyway, when sorting my mums things there was a box of stuff that I had just put aside to deal with a later date.
I started to go through that and noticed that there was some stuff addressed to my mum from my grandads bank. So I contacted them to see if I needed to send it back (one of the things was an atm card, it had been sent out when my mum was too ill to do anything with it so it remained in an envelope). They said to drop into a bank with the card and they will destroy it, but not to worry too much because the account was close shortly after my grandad passed away.
However, I have done a probate search with the probate office and nothing was ever granted there. So I suspect that she has emptied the account then closed it in order to avoid paying anything that may be due to my disabled brother and to us (I understand that as my grandad died a week and a half before my mum her inheritance may pass to us unless there was a clause. Though tbh Im not bothered about us, I just cant help but think of my brother and feel awful that he has done nothing and there was such love between him and my grandad, I just feel angry that he has been cut out by her.
Is there anything I can do to rectify this? Or should I just leave it?
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