Complaint against a church

[Bluegem12]

Good morning

I need to know my rights on christenings
my child was christened 5 years ago by my ex husband
I didn't find out till last year that he did indeed have my son christened

his new wife is down as my sons birth mother
And my husband down as birth father
And 2 people I have never met or heard of is my sons God parents on the certificate
I hold no religion
My ex husband is not religious he wouldn't even let us get married in a church as he sees religion as evil and a cult
This was an evil move to hurt me
As they have never even visited a church
They did even getting married in a religious setting
And currently are spending their days to hurt me
I don't know why and I'll never understand why
But I can't sit back and accept that my son was so easily christened without my permission
My sons new step mum now has him calling her mum
its like she is trying to replace me
I'm not even allowed to speak to my ex
Everything goes through his new wife

Thank you for any advice in advance
x

[dslippy]

How can she be given as the birth mother? That will appear from the birth certificate, and the birth certificate will have been produced before the christening.

I can believe that they are indeed behaving in a way which iin fact hurts you, but see no reason to think they organise their lives to do so.

[MIKE770]

fraud comes to mind.

[Bluegem12]

Thank you for replying

I finally got the details of the church
My issue is
How do Proceed do I have grounds to complain and try fix this


I'm not sure how to get this all in motion and who i need to go to first
all I know is I can't sit on this anymore

[Bluegem12]

Dslippy
sadly they do organise their lives to hurt me
My ex quit his job so he could stop paying child maintenance
he now only pays £1.75 a week
he said he was tired of working and £150 of his wage going to his son
they go to the drs with him every few weeks to say I'm abusing my son
They send social workers out
My sons gp told them to leave the surgery as she was sick of the appointments being false allegations she even contacted the social services due to this
they got my data from my medical records illegally which is successfully sued the gp for dont know how they managed it but his wife currently works in the NHS
so its concerning
they are making my life hell and I don't have a clue why
no one is helping me and she is too powerful to fight in court
she told me my past mental health diagnosis would make me lose custody of my son so I'm scared it will so I'm scared to go back to court
So sadly you have no idea what they are putting me through
But yes they do stop their lives just to find ways to hurt me more and using my son as the tool is heartbreaking

[Manxman]

Do you have a copy of your son's birth certificate, or can you get one?

Edit: As dslippy said, a copy of the birth certificate (showing you as mother) would have been required for the christening

[Bluegem12]

Hi
yes I have his birth certificate
Me and his dad are both named parents on that certificate

[Bluegem12]

Hi just wanted to update you and also to see if you could offer any advice with where I'm at with this

The church got back to me and stated the document isn't illegal even though the birth mother is not down as me who is the actual birth mother i even provided my sons birth certificate
they are basically saying I have no grounds to complain as nothing was done illegally
I'm so deflated at the moment
Contact as been stopped due to son telling a teacher his step mother has been doing very awful things to him and social services and the police have become involved due to the things he has been put through
the police and social services have encouraged me to take take this further as is it fraudulent and the church should resolve this
But the fraud side is being dealt with along side my sons report
which will both make it to court
But everyone is encouraging me to take this further with the church and the church have said i basically have to accept it
any advice you could off is it worth taking this further

[DE DOGS]

Reading this something is not making sense. You state that your son is with his Father and new partner yet I read this part of your case.Contact has been stopped due to the son telling a teacher his stepmother has been doing very awful things to him and social services and the police have become involved due to the things he has been put through

[islandgirl]

I would doubt that the wrong person on a Christening certificate would be an offence. And you cannot "unchristen" someone as far as I know. The issue with the church appears to be a big red herring - my advice would be to concentrate on other issues that matter to the child and to you.

[Scot22]

Yes. Any error by the church would be unintentional. Everybody should should concentrate on your son's needs. Ignore people egging you on to take action which will only increase your stress. Be happy he's christened. Leaving the issue aside it will only please them if they think it's upset you.
I suggest making an appointment to see your son's headteacher. Nothing is more important than children's well being.
Put yourself in his shoes.