Dealing with an Ex

[IrieDreadz]

Hello all who read this, I have a huge dilemma ?
I have been split, from my Ex for 4 months now after 3 n half yrs together not paradise or bliss may I add, anyway since I have been gone she thinks she has the right to open mail addressed to me that goes to hers?
Bear this in mind she is a sociopath, but also the sort where she can say and do what she wants but will cause ww3 if its aimed at her.
I am a forgiving sort of guy, but ive suffered at her hands for too long enough is enough as far as I'm concerned.
She genuinely feels she has every right to open my mail I know different so where do I stand and what can I do?
I am not interested in redirecting mail etc I am looking at saying right enough you've crossed the line for the last time now, this time I mean business she would not hesitate if the shoe was on the other foot.
Any advice is much appreciated

Many Thanks

Dreadz

[Snoopy1948]

Re: Dealing with an Ex

Hi there ...

While I understand that it is certainly not in order for an ex to open your mail without permission, the question is what can you do about it? Very little it seems and from your description of her, do you actually expect anything less? After all, you are sending it to her address.

Why are you not interested in redirecting your mail? Is it a question of cost or the fact that you may lose privacy at an away address? Certainly Royal Mail are not allowed to divulge an away address and I believe you can have it delivered to a local sorting office for collection.

[IrieDreadz]

Re: Dealing with an Ex

[QUOTE=Snoopy1948;663580]Hi there ...Too much hassle tbh and yes cost is a huge factor atm besides I thought I had changed my address until I got an email from her the other day showing me the contents of my letter 😡
Just makes my blood boil what she thinks she can do and get away with it.
Thank you for the reply 🤐

[Snoopy1948]

Re: Dealing with an Ex

Hi Dreadz ...

Yes, I can appreciate your frustration here but unless you redirect stuff, then she is going to continue to torment you with opening your post and letting you know about it. I honestly don't think that there is some kind of legal red flag that you can wave in front of her! The only other option is of course to change your away address at source unless again there are reasons for not doing that.

I am sure that you are aware but redirecting mail through Royal Mail cost £31.99 for three months. Peace of mind?

[des8]

Re: Dealing with an Ex

Post Office Act 1953
Criminal diversion of letters from addressee
(1)If any [F1person not engaged in the business of the Post Office] wilfully and maliciously, with intent to injure any other person, either opens or causes to be opened any postal packet which ought to have been delivered to that other person, or does any act or thing whereby the due delivery of the packet to that other person is prevented or impeded, he shall be [F2liable on summary conviction to a fine not exceeding level 4 on the standard scale or to imprisonment for a term not exceeding six months or to both]
(2)Nothing in this section shall apply to a person who does any act to which this section applies where he is parent, or in the position of parent or guardian, of the person to whom the postal packet is addressed

AND POSTAL SERVICES ACT 2000

127. Section 84(1) provides for it to be an offence if persons intentionally delay or open postal packets without reasonable excuse. It amalgamates the content of offences previously included in the Post Office Act 1953.
128. Subsection (3) makes it an offence for a person, intending to act to a person's detriment and without reasonable excuse, to open a postal packet which he knows or suspects has been incorrectly delivered to him.

So she is committing a criminal act.
Advise her that if it continues plod willbe informed.

[IrieDreadz]

Re: Dealing with an Ex

Lol ty but she don't care she thinks she has all the rights in the world, yet dumb as hell, besides she is that full of herself she would blame me saying I gave permission, anything to keep her back covered 😱 Can't win

[charitynjw]

Re: Dealing with an Ex

Post Office Act 1953
Criminal diversion of letters from addressee
(1)If any [F1person not engaged in the business of the Post Office] wilfully and maliciously, with intent to injure any other person, either opens or causes to be opened any postal packet which ought to have been delivered to that other person, or does any act or thing whereby the due delivery of the packet to that other person is prevented or impeded, he shall be [F2liable on summary conviction to a fine not exceeding level 4 on the standard scale or to imprisonment for a term not exceeding six months or to both]
(2)Nothing in this section shall apply to a person who does any act to which this section applies where he is parent, or in the position of parent or guardian, of the person to whom the postal packet is addressed

AND POSTAL SERVICES ACT 2000

127. Section 84(1) provides for it to be an offence if persons intentionally delay or open postal packets without reasonable excuse. It amalgamates the content of offences previously included in the Post Office Act 1953.
128. Subsection (3) makes it an offence for a person, intending to act to a person's detriment and without reasonable excuse, to open a postal packet which he knows or suspects has been incorrectly delivered to him.

So she is committing a criminal act.
Advise her that if it continues plod willbe informed.

From my understanding of the 2000 Act, opening someone else's post is not an offence in itself.

You need to show intent (mens rea) to act detrimentally & the detriment caused.

[des8]

Re: Dealing with an Ex

True, Charity, but OP doesn't seem to actually want to take any steps to stop the problem,.
I didn't suggest that police be informed.... just warn ex that they would be informed.
Same way DCAs try to frighten debtors with half truths!1

[Openlaw15]

Re: Dealing with an Ex

Hello all who read this, I have a huge dilemma ?
I have been split, from my Ex for 4 months now after 3 n half yrs together not paradise or bliss may I add, anyway since I have been gone she thinks she has the right to open mail addressed to me that goes to hers?
Bear this in mind she is a sociopath, but also the sort where she can say and do what she wants but will cause ww3 if its aimed at her.
I am a forgiving sort of guy, but ive suffered at her hands for too long enough is enough as far as I'm concerned.
She genuinely feels she has every right to open my mail I know different so where do I stand and what can I do?
I am not interested in redirecting mail etc I am looking at saying right enough you've crossed the line for the last time now, this time I mean business she would not hesitate if the shoe was on the other foot.
Any advice is much appreciated

Many Thanks

Dreadz

Dreadz has posted on the other forum that he is suffering with mental health problems. In short, the guy is simply finding life very tough so any responses should take this into consideration. Thank you.

[Kati]

Re: Dealing with an Ex

Dreadz has posted on the other forum that he is suffering with mental health problems. In short, the guy is simply finding life very tough so any responses should take this into consideration. Thank you.

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