Hi,
I’m based in Scotland and wonder if anyone has any experience of Scottish divorce settlements involving police pensions.
I’ll try to five a brief outline. I’m trying to help my friend who has just got out of an abusive marriage to a cop.
First off he’s a nasty piece of work outside of work and as it turns out also carried some of that through in his work. This is not about police hating, I worked for the police and
most officers are not like this.
Brief resume: they have married about 20’yrs been rogether longer. Have two daughters now 19 and 16yrs. Both worked shifts when they met, they agreed as he was a career police officer she shouldn be a stay at home mum until the girls were older and at school. One day out of the blue 10yrs ago he came home and told her that he had met someone else and he wanted a divorce. He sat her and their daughters down and told them he was putting the house on the market and they would need to find somewhere to live. Remember at that time she had no knowledge of her rights. He then went on to tell her it was ine of his junior officers he was involved with who was also married. He told her that he had had several affairs since they got married, all with serving officers,onevof them stayed nearby and my friend used to chat to most days.
Thats when I met her, she had got a part time job working with the police as support staff- it paid better than minimum wage. His cruelty on a day to day basis was staggeriing. She had no family support and thought she was going to be homeless. She knew that she could have apiken to his senior and reported some of his behaviour but was frightened that he would lose his job and she and her daughters would be even worse off. Anyway months later he changed his mind and begged her to give him another chance, she felt she had no option for her daughters sake and also for security.
Obviously things were never the same and over the course of the following years she got stronger and her daughters got older. She was in a slightly better financial position as she worked full time by then. She decided to leave him and told him so, by now he is a fairly senior police officer with ~£500k penion pot. Her pension pot was worth £32k. They owned their house albeit mortgaged. From the start he begged her nit to leave but became vwry nasty telling her she would never get a penny of his pension. She managed to scarape enough money up to rent a flat and moved out witth her daughters. He has dragged his heels the whole way. Pays virtually nothing for his younger daughtet.
Anyway to date the house has been sold, debts paid off and very little left. He has met someone else now and wants a duvirce, so the house and debts have been settled. He retires this year and according to her lawyer she is due £222k of his pension and he is due £16k of hers. So he owes her £206k. He gets his pension in September and apparently has told her that he could give her this in September but she will never see it. He can have it set aside until she is pensionable age, but if she dies before then it dies with er, so her kids would never see it. Also her lawyer has told her that if she doesn’t agree to this he can legally gift away his
money when he receives itand she will never get it.
So she’s between a rock and a hard place he’s now living with new partner and money is not a problem, he’s happy to string her along and bankrupt her. My friend earns about £20k per annum, pays rent and other bills. There is little left for lawyers fees, her lawyer charges £230 per hour.
Sorry about the long elegy - wanted to capture all the elements.
Can anyone shed any light on this- it seems incredibly unfair. Is her lawyer correct? He gets the money in September will
need to set it aside anyway if she agrees so he’s no better off. If she drags her heels he can ‘gift’ it away and she’ll never get it potentially.
I’m based in Scotland and wonder if anyone has any experience of Scottish divorce settlements involving police pensions.
I’ll try to five a brief outline. I’m trying to help my friend who has just got out of an abusive marriage to a cop.
First off he’s a nasty piece of work outside of work and as it turns out also carried some of that through in his work. This is not about police hating, I worked for the police and
most officers are not like this.
Brief resume: they have married about 20’yrs been rogether longer. Have two daughters now 19 and 16yrs. Both worked shifts when they met, they agreed as he was a career police officer she shouldn be a stay at home mum until the girls were older and at school. One day out of the blue 10yrs ago he came home and told her that he had met someone else and he wanted a divorce. He sat her and their daughters down and told them he was putting the house on the market and they would need to find somewhere to live. Remember at that time she had no knowledge of her rights. He then went on to tell her it was ine of his junior officers he was involved with who was also married. He told her that he had had several affairs since they got married, all with serving officers,onevof them stayed nearby and my friend used to chat to most days.
Thats when I met her, she had got a part time job working with the police as support staff- it paid better than minimum wage. His cruelty on a day to day basis was staggeriing. She had no family support and thought she was going to be homeless. She knew that she could have apiken to his senior and reported some of his behaviour but was frightened that he would lose his job and she and her daughters would be even worse off. Anyway months later he changed his mind and begged her to give him another chance, she felt she had no option for her daughters sake and also for security.
Obviously things were never the same and over the course of the following years she got stronger and her daughters got older. She was in a slightly better financial position as she worked full time by then. She decided to leave him and told him so, by now he is a fairly senior police officer with ~£500k penion pot. Her pension pot was worth £32k. They owned their house albeit mortgaged. From the start he begged her nit to leave but became vwry nasty telling her she would never get a penny of his pension. She managed to scarape enough money up to rent a flat and moved out witth her daughters. He has dragged his heels the whole way. Pays virtually nothing for his younger daughtet.
Anyway to date the house has been sold, debts paid off and very little left. He has met someone else now and wants a duvirce, so the house and debts have been settled. He retires this year and according to her lawyer she is due £222k of his pension and he is due £16k of hers. So he owes her £206k. He gets his pension in September and apparently has told her that he could give her this in September but she will never see it. He can have it set aside until she is pensionable age, but if she dies before then it dies with er, so her kids would never see it. Also her lawyer has told her that if she doesn’t agree to this he can legally gift away his
money when he receives itand she will never get it.
So she’s between a rock and a hard place he’s now living with new partner and money is not a problem, he’s happy to string her along and bankrupt her. My friend earns about £20k per annum, pays rent and other bills. There is little left for lawyers fees, her lawyer charges £230 per hour.
Sorry about the long elegy - wanted to capture all the elements.
Can anyone shed any light on this- it seems incredibly unfair. Is her lawyer correct? He gets the money in September will
need to set it aside anyway if she agrees so he’s no better off. If she drags her heels he can ‘gift’ it away and she’ll never get it potentially.
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