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Right, please bear with me as there is a lot to this.
My new partner was verbally abused and assaulted last week in front of children and parents at a sports day. The form of assault whilst minor (two 'digs' to the back) show an escalation from just verbal abuse. This was reported to the police, who have had previous dealings with him from last year, namely arresting and charging him with battery against her for which he was later convicted. The police attended her address and talked her out of going ahead with making a statement and said "it's just one of those things, things can get spiteful during a divorce". Frankly I'm disgusted and worried for her safety in equal measure.
On Sunday 3rd of July he attended her home address and made thinly veiled threats, namely "you've got some surprises coming to you, expect a visit". At this point I myself telephoned the police and asked what it would actually take for them to act, presumably when he put her in hospital or in a morgue? I was told they wouldn't discuss it with me, despite the fact he has also made threats against me in the past but my partner ought to phone up and tell them she now wished to pursue the assault allegation, which she did yesterday, Monday 4th July.
She was told that an officer would attend. That was the last she heard, however a female officer left a message on MY answerphone at 21.53 last night thinking she was leaving a message for my partner who does not live with me. The nature of the message was not too detailed, but if heard by the wrong person could cause extra stress - namely her kids.
So clearly the police won't act until he murders her. Trust me, he is more than capable, his temper and behaviour far from improving with time is getting worse. Because of her 20 years with him, she was already suffering anxiety, and is now a scared woman, a nervous wreck scared to stay in her own home. She has an autistic 16 year old daughter who is asking if her dad will go to prison (personally I think he needs to) and a 10 year old who has no idea what to make of it. The autistic 16 year old witnessed last week's verbal abuse and assault which led to the question.
So my questions are: what the hell can we do to make the police actually do something before its too late, and she needs a new solicitor. Any recommendations are gratefully recieved. She is based in the New Forest/Southampton area. Her current solicitor is a total waste of space, which I have known for 12 months but is only just dawning on my partner.
I am desperately concerned for her safety, and a little less so for my own. He is also messing his kids lives up with his behaviour and probably needs help. The anger management course the court made him do last year after his conviction clearly has not done him any good and he is getting worse by the week.
Help!!
My new partner was verbally abused and assaulted last week in front of children and parents at a sports day. The form of assault whilst minor (two 'digs' to the back) show an escalation from just verbal abuse. This was reported to the police, who have had previous dealings with him from last year, namely arresting and charging him with battery against her for which he was later convicted. The police attended her address and talked her out of going ahead with making a statement and said "it's just one of those things, things can get spiteful during a divorce". Frankly I'm disgusted and worried for her safety in equal measure.
On Sunday 3rd of July he attended her home address and made thinly veiled threats, namely "you've got some surprises coming to you, expect a visit". At this point I myself telephoned the police and asked what it would actually take for them to act, presumably when he put her in hospital or in a morgue? I was told they wouldn't discuss it with me, despite the fact he has also made threats against me in the past but my partner ought to phone up and tell them she now wished to pursue the assault allegation, which she did yesterday, Monday 4th July.
She was told that an officer would attend. That was the last she heard, however a female officer left a message on MY answerphone at 21.53 last night thinking she was leaving a message for my partner who does not live with me. The nature of the message was not too detailed, but if heard by the wrong person could cause extra stress - namely her kids.
So clearly the police won't act until he murders her. Trust me, he is more than capable, his temper and behaviour far from improving with time is getting worse. Because of her 20 years with him, she was already suffering anxiety, and is now a scared woman, a nervous wreck scared to stay in her own home. She has an autistic 16 year old daughter who is asking if her dad will go to prison (personally I think he needs to) and a 10 year old who has no idea what to make of it. The autistic 16 year old witnessed last week's verbal abuse and assault which led to the question.
So my questions are: what the hell can we do to make the police actually do something before its too late, and she needs a new solicitor. Any recommendations are gratefully recieved. She is based in the New Forest/Southampton area. Her current solicitor is a total waste of space, which I have known for 12 months but is only just dawning on my partner.
I am desperately concerned for her safety, and a little less so for my own. He is also messing his kids lives up with his behaviour and probably needs help. The anger management course the court made him do last year after his conviction clearly has not done him any good and he is getting worse by the week.
Help!!
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