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Getting court order to see daughter as ex is irrisponsible, LIP Help Needed!!
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I have a 10 year old daughter and I'm wanting to go to court to get access to see her but scared I'll get tucked up by her lying mother. I WL keep this brief so if any questions needed the please ask.
We split up when daughter was 3, not a good relationship and didn't want daughter to see and hear our shit. So I walked out one day. Since then there has been a constant battle and I've always been under the impression that a court will take child's words for access once they are 10 and have paintiently waited for this to come round, rightly or wrongly I felt this was the better route.
I always have contact with her and even allowed her to move over 150 miles away so mother could better herself in a uni (which turned out wrong). I travel from 4.30 am to see her for 4/5 hrs and don't get home till midnight (public transport sucks),so clearly I want to see her. But I am only "allowed" to see her when ex is there never alone. Now there has been no reason for this, legally or anything its just her making her voice be heard. I have no time for my ex and its awkward but I make do. Every time I say I want her at mine for weekends, school hols etc she refuses and the reasons vary from, "I can't be trusted as we had a violent relationship" this is based on her mind, no police reports or arrests have been issued to suggest I'm a violent man, before my daughter I was young and on the wrong side of the law but that's my past, not present or future. Or she will say social services have told her I can't see her without the ex, which I have never spoken to them so that's strange. She even said that she's making the sacrifice as she's scared in my company yet allows me to come to her house.
She knows my daughter is everything and she is using that against me. Before Xmas I told her i m bringing up my new missus who I've been with for a few years and her daughter which I look after regularly to meet my daughter and she said that my daughter doesn't want to see me or them and she stopped me coming up!! But this isn't what my daughter said, she wanted to So I want to get an order but really scared she will win and I will be left with less rights, I vet hardly anything from her with her schooling or medical etc yet I have fu parental responsibility .... Ex Already holds the cards and I don't want to give her anymore. I have sometimes not turned up due to trains delayed or stopped like Xmas this year. So yh I have that against me and when I wasn't working I didn't pay her anything as I felt £50 to see her was good enough as ex vary rarely comes down to see me, just to see her family and if she can fit me in. I am her father yet she treats me like a no one and her family is always first. And I'm scared when I tell her to do this and that what's legally right she makes a song and dance then refuses all access. Some people say i can just take her as i have responsibilty but she will call police etc and i dont want drama just want to have my daughter weekends and hols so i can have a impact in her life. All she says is see you in court or contact centre which would be bad as I always go swimming g etc so my child will k ow something's wrong and I don't tell her how horrid her mother is. I can't afford a Mackenzie friend and will be LIP so any help will be gratefully recieved
I have a 10 year old daughter and I'm wanting to go to court to get access to see her but scared I'll get tucked up by her lying mother. I WL keep this brief so if any questions needed the please ask.
We split up when daughter was 3, not a good relationship and didn't want daughter to see and hear our shit. So I walked out one day. Since then there has been a constant battle and I've always been under the impression that a court will take child's words for access once they are 10 and have paintiently waited for this to come round, rightly or wrongly I felt this was the better route.
I always have contact with her and even allowed her to move over 150 miles away so mother could better herself in a uni (which turned out wrong). I travel from 4.30 am to see her for 4/5 hrs and don't get home till midnight (public transport sucks),so clearly I want to see her. But I am only "allowed" to see her when ex is there never alone. Now there has been no reason for this, legally or anything its just her making her voice be heard. I have no time for my ex and its awkward but I make do. Every time I say I want her at mine for weekends, school hols etc she refuses and the reasons vary from, "I can't be trusted as we had a violent relationship" this is based on her mind, no police reports or arrests have been issued to suggest I'm a violent man, before my daughter I was young and on the wrong side of the law but that's my past, not present or future. Or she will say social services have told her I can't see her without the ex, which I have never spoken to them so that's strange. She even said that she's making the sacrifice as she's scared in my company yet allows me to come to her house.
She knows my daughter is everything and she is using that against me. Before Xmas I told her i m bringing up my new missus who I've been with for a few years and her daughter which I look after regularly to meet my daughter and she said that my daughter doesn't want to see me or them and she stopped me coming up!! But this isn't what my daughter said, she wanted to So I want to get an order but really scared she will win and I will be left with less rights, I vet hardly anything from her with her schooling or medical etc yet I have fu parental responsibility .... Ex Already holds the cards and I don't want to give her anymore. I have sometimes not turned up due to trains delayed or stopped like Xmas this year. So yh I have that against me and when I wasn't working I didn't pay her anything as I felt £50 to see her was good enough as ex vary rarely comes down to see me, just to see her family and if she can fit me in. I am her father yet she treats me like a no one and her family is always first. And I'm scared when I tell her to do this and that what's legally right she makes a song and dance then refuses all access. Some people say i can just take her as i have responsibilty but she will call police etc and i dont want drama just want to have my daughter weekends and hols so i can have a impact in her life. All she says is see you in court or contact centre which would be bad as I always go swimming g etc so my child will k ow something's wrong and I don't tell her how horrid her mother is. I can't afford a Mackenzie friend and will be LIP so any help will be gratefully recieved
, although family mediation seems to be supported in some cases.
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