access to child

[rossmac]

Hi i neex some help here. I was the main carer for my three year old daughter all her life as my partner work i was basicly the childs mummy fae the day she was born.i have now split from her mother we were never married but i am on the birth certificate.my question is am i entitle d to see my kid once every weekend a week its all a want is one day overnyt a week friday or saterday doesnt matter wat one as my ex picks and chose wen i have to see her on her terms she wants me to see her during the week so wich means i can not work all i want is a set day on paper once a weekend and thats all am i entiteled to get that or not i have no conviction or socil works for anything to do with my kids im a loving father .also if my ex has a partner in england and im from scotland and i see my kid every weekend does she have the rigjt to stop me seeing my kid so she can take her to envland with her even if its on the day i am ment fo see her.thank u for your help

[rossmac]

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Advice plz someone

[MissFM]

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Hi Rossmac and to LB

I'm sorry for the heartache you are going through - unfortunately it's not that uncommon. Have a look at this thread if you haven't already:

http://www.legalbeagles.info/forums/...help&p=399206#

Basically, you will only achieve a satisfactory result through mutual consent. You need to talk to each other, kindly, and with the child's needs coming first.

If that's not possible then you need a mediator that you all trust (possibly a Cafcass officer, if there is a good one?).

There are many Beagles here with experience and wisdom in this area - please keep posting further details of your story and your needs for help. We all will be seeking to do our best for you

[leclerc]

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Am posting this link up to resolution as I was going through the various links at the bottom of the page. Please read the elements which are about the children and what the court would consider, ie what is in the interests of the children. Parental agreements which are mutual ie agreed between both of you can be done and can work if you put the interest of the child at the centre of it all and are each able to give and take in this process. Remember, the child may have to process the separation of their parents so it is difficult for them as well as for you. Ultimately if this informal arrangement does not work then it will have to go through the court process so that it is more formal.

http://www.resolution.org.uk/site_co...or_website.pdf

[strong123]

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HI Rossmac

I am sorry for what your going through. My bro went through it many years ago and a friend just recently so can only advise on my experience and knowledge through supporting them.

Miss FM is right, if you are unable to reach an amicable agreement mediation is a good next step. If this does not get a result that you are both happy with family court would be the next step.

Unfortunately, this was the step that my brother had to take. Although it worked out for him, he got the children every other weekend Friday to Sunday, a couple of weeks through holidays and alternate xmas etc. It was an ordeal for all involved, including the kids. Also my bro ended up going back to court before the ex actually stuck to order.

It was the same for my friend.

I would honestly try discussing with her first and then mediation if you feel you are not getting anywhere

[ana27]

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My husband is finding it very difficult emotionally at the moment that's why I have decided to join a forum on his behalf to see what help there is out there.
My husband had a brief affair with a woman which resulted in a beautiful little boy who is now nearly 3. From the child being a baby we have both had regular contact with him, until we got married last year. Now all contact with the child has stopped.

We decided to instruct mediators to act impartially to resolve this and to get immediate access to the child. 4 months on and the mediators have only just managed to get a meeting with the mother, no date is set to resume contact or discuss a contact arrangement.
Yet none is helping us to reach a compromise. There are no advice lines that can help within a legal capacity to put us at ease. We saw a solicitor and they advised us to stick with the mediation. The mediation are saying it may be time to proceed with court.

Why do these matters take so long, its like nobody cares and that a resident parent can for no reason stop all contact with no repercussions.

is there someone out there that can help us, has advice? has a similar story?

Much appreciated