Mediation advice

[barty9]

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It does feel like one step forward and two steps back at times but the overnight contact time on a Friday into Saturday afternoon is absolutely wonderful. It is a pity that my ex partner has unearthed an unpleasant piece of information through Sarah's Law on my mums partner. Thankfully it is 'spent' in the eyes of the law and it does not involve child abuse.

It has put me in a very difficult position and I will no longer let my baby see my mums partner.

[MissFM]

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It does feel like one step forward and two steps back at times but the overnight contact time on a Friday into Saturday afternoon is absolutely wonderful. It is a pity that my ex partner has unearthed an unpleasant piece of information through Sarah's Law on my mums partner. Thankfully it is 'spent' in the eyes of the law and it does not involve child abuse.

It has put me in a very difficult position and I will no longer let my baby see my mums partner.

That's a blow.

FWIW, in view of the above, I think you are absolutely right to make the decision not to let your Mum's partner see your daughter, which isn't to say that your Mum can't spend some time with the two of you if your ex is happy with that.

You must do nothing to jeopardize the new and more positive relationship you have with your ex re your daughter and anyone who cares about you and your daughter will understand this completely.

Keep cool and focused - it may feel like one step forward and two back but is more probably two forward and one back (ie progress). Your daughter's wellbeing and your ongoing relationship - your hands-on Dadship - is all that matters :hug:

[Inca]

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I wouldn't let my Mum or her partner see the child unless it was ONLY the Mum and ONLY in a public place.
His crime may be 'spent' in the eyes of the law but there's nothing to say it wouldn't happen again.
Sarah's Law is the Child Sex Offender Disclosure Scheme,,so it must be something pretty damn serious that he did.
Personally speaking,,I'd have to say to my Mum...it's him or us,,because this information could really seriously affect your access to your child.
I would let anyone and everyone officially involved with your case know that she has unearthed this before she does.......it could POSSIBLY become a huge factor.
Playing Devils Advocate here,If it was me who found this out about my childs 'other' family..I'd fight to the Highest Court in the land to prevent my child possibly being put at risk
Thats just my opinion though.

http://www.humberside.police.uk/advi...eme-sarahs-law

[MissFM]

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Sorry to disagree

erm... ...with what, specifically, do you disagree?

[Inca]

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erm... ...with what, specifically, do you disagree?

Nothing tbh,,,I didn't have me glasses on this morning,,jetlagged,etc etc (any old excuse you can think of that really means I need to learn to read) Apologies

[MissFM]

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[barty9]

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The third mediation meeting was due next week but it has now been cancelled by my ex partner due to insufficient progress being made in her eyes.... for myself and my daughter it was fantastic so i guess the next steps are court to really make sure this is legally binding. This is of course the very last place I wanted it to finish.

[Inca]

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'insufficient progress'? in what way?
You have quite a way to go before court....Cafcass etc,social workers,childrens services meetings...your child is essentially a baby,,she doesn't have a 'voice' so the authorities will speak for her.

[barty9]

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my ex feels that insufficient progress has been made up until now through mediation. I tired calling the mediator to clarify but will find out more next week when they are free.

[Inca]

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Sounds like she expected more than she got from mediation but until you can speak to them it's all conjecture.
Apart from all that...have the access visits gone ok? No more problems??

[MissFM]

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Hmmm. Is her disappointment based around arrangements for the children or other things? (money, for example?)

[barty9]

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no more problems - i spoke to the mediator today who sais she had to watch what she said and couldn't really give me anymore information other than court is the last resort.