Childs Contact Order

[SickotheCSA]

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What I would suggest is that if your son is explicit in not wanting to see his father, seek the advice of CAB to confirm this, but send a letter to your ex stating this and that as such you are not prepared to oblige the contact order any further. Also say that should your son at anytime change his mind and seek contact you will not obstruct this as you have always believed that contact should exist.

Also, warn him that any further un-arranged visits, especially those resulting in any type of harassment or abuse will be reported to the police, remember that he only has to shout and wag his finger at you and it is technically assault!

If he really wants to sort anything out beyond that, he will have to take the matter back to the court......and as said before just make sure you keep record of everything. Send the letter registered or have it written by a solicitor.

The police can not do a thing other than keep the peace, however harassment is a criminal offence so use it.

The odd thing is that I am on the other side of this as the father not being allowed to see his daughter, I got the order, she breached it repeatedly, I was on the end of false allegations of assault in the end with me notifying her of not obliging my own order anymore due to the immense stress it has put on me, my new set up and even my daughter.

I wont pretend there is a bright light at the end of the tunnel as I am coming up for nearly 6 years and I barely see my daughter at all anymore. We text and I remain hopeful that one day, being nearly 12, that she will finally see what her mum has done and that I tried my utmost to do the best by her despite not being there everyday.

Keep the faith and just stick to what you know is right and with any luck things might even out.

[Inca]

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Thanks Cel (that was the legal bod I mentioned)
Now,,everytime he turns up,,ring the police to prevent a breach of the peace.
From my own experience Judges soon get pissed off with pain in the backside parents who breach every order,refuse mediation and basically make a mockery of the court.

[helpinhand]

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Thank you both

I have spoken with a solicitor that gave me very different advice.I can apply to get the order revoked and the police can serve him a harrasment warning as the court order has nothing to do with it.A non molistation order has also been mentioned if I get any further trouble this weekend.

[Inca]

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Thank you both

I have spoken with a solicitor that gave me very different advice.I can apply to get the order revoked and the police can serve him a harrasment warning as the court order has nothing to do with it.A non molistation order has also been mentioned if I get any further trouble this weekend.

Now.see,there's that little chink of light.....we can't 'tell' you what to do,we can only HINT STRONGLY at you.
You get your non molestation order in place (so much easier when it was called a restraining order,everyone knew what it meant!)
Line all your ducks in a row,,and shoot them one by one(plastic ducks lol)
Get that order revoked and show your ex you are NOT going to be intimidated by him.
Well done so far tho

[helpinhand]

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I'm not one to give in especially where my son is concerned and
I appreciate everybody's help so far thank you

My next step is to make a statement to get the warning in place.

[Inca]

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I'm not one to give in especially where my son is concerned and
I appreciate everybody's help so far thank you

My next step is to make a statement to get the warning in place.

Ain't nothing more scarey than a parent protecting their cubs lol
They would have had to kill me first to get anywhere near my son
xxx

[helpinhand]

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I couldn't agree more.The good news is I now have an harassment warning in place ��. No mention of taking me back to court when it was served to him...however he did say he wanted to maintain his father son relationship...I never will understand that if I'm completely honest!

[Inca]

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I couldn't agree more.The good news is I now have an harassment warning in place ��. No mention of taking me back to court when it was served to him...however he did say he wanted to maintain his father son relationship...I never will understand that if I'm completely honest!

Yay!!! Go you!!! Doesn't the 'power' feel good???

My son's father bleated all the words about father/son bond blah blah blah,,my son is 25 now and,although he loves his Dad he doesn't bother much with him,,he knows what really happened and what a pain in the butt his Dad was.

Keep up the good work chick,,you'll get there in the end

[helpinhand]

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Thank you it does feel like I've had a hell of a weight lifted!!

Hes told the police he'll be writing letters direct to my son,I honestly don't believe he'll write him any letters to 'maintain his father son relationship' as he calls it.There has been far too many times he's let my son down and I know my son has lost interest..More so over the past 3years due to him having another child and not making time for him but he will always have the other child.

[strong123]

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[QUOTE=helpinhand;374683]Thanks for your reply

I have been logging everything with them,I reported the most recent incident the officer was egar to serve a warning to my ex to stop him turning up...However my ex is saying he has a live court order,the police can't serve him with a warning if its live.

My sol closed my case 6months ago due to my ex not responding to her letters and refusing mediation.She last advised me to go back to the police and ask for a warning to be served to him.

Unsure what else i can do :/

Hi,
I'm sorry to hear your going through this. A friend of mine was going through something similar. She went back to court and requested the order was changed.
There was a hearing and both parties had to put their side across but the judge changed the order to my friends request.
The judge will do what they believe is right for the child.
I think it would be a good idea to get some legal advice.
Wishing you the very best.

[Inca]

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I believe helpinhand has already sourced and sorted new legal advice..(see post#18)..
However,this pans out the No1 concern has to be for the child,,and I can tell you from experiences with my own son and latterly my 14 yr old step daughter,Judges don't take kindly to being mucked about by either parent so helpinghand is going to play cleanly and by the book (just stick a hex or 20 on the ex :witchy:

[helpinhand]

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Thanks,that is my next step

[Inca]

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Please make sure you pop back on here to let us know how it;'s going.Pop back anytime you like of course,it's nice to 'chat' and have a place to verbally kick the ex's arse
FYI,,am very proud of you,,the first steps are always the worst steps,,and he can make all the wild claims he wants to,,won't work in his favour xx

[helpinhand]

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I really do hope so,thank you again for your guidance your right we all need to let off steam now an then,especially when ex's think they can rule you!


Solicitors tomorrow xx

[helpinhand]

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Hello again,

Ive been to meet my new solicitor this week,Seemed very confused as to why not 1 solicitor had put a stop to the ongoing problems.I'm hoping to apply to the courts for a non-molistation order once that has been done I should beable to revoke the contact order all together .

I'm staying positive and shooting one plastic duck at a time ...I know I have a long way to go! xx