hi all,
well, after being made redundant at the end of April shortly after this myself and my partner split up, however she still lives here with a view of moving out when she finds somewhere else to live. we sat down and discussed our two children and came to the agreement we would each have them on a 50/50 basis i also asked if i could keep the child benefit payment going into my bank (as i did already as i paid for everything, house, kids etc) only until i found another job as that £135 would decide whether i could financially keep my house or not, (i currently receive housing benefit and JSA) she agreed i could and obviously she would still carry on receiving the child tax credits as she always has.
now however she has signed the paperwork for a flat and gets the keys next week, as we were talking about it i again asked if the arrangement we came to regarding the child benefit would still be ok (as im worrying a lot) to which she replied "i dont know" so i presume from that she will be having it instead.
im not being greedy by any means and i already feel somewhat of a failure for having to ask if i can have the child benefit just in my "hour of need" as in reality she is leaving me high and dry knowing i will struggle to keep the house on alone whilst not in work but the fact remains we will be caring for our two children on a 50/50 basis so surely i maybe entitled to something? as soon as im back in employment i will happily let her claim for all of the child benefit and child tax credits.
ive done so much for my ex partner and our children over the years and it just seems so unfair how things work out.
thoughts please?
thanks in advance
well, after being made redundant at the end of April shortly after this myself and my partner split up, however she still lives here with a view of moving out when she finds somewhere else to live. we sat down and discussed our two children and came to the agreement we would each have them on a 50/50 basis i also asked if i could keep the child benefit payment going into my bank (as i did already as i paid for everything, house, kids etc) only until i found another job as that £135 would decide whether i could financially keep my house or not, (i currently receive housing benefit and JSA) she agreed i could and obviously she would still carry on receiving the child tax credits as she always has.
now however she has signed the paperwork for a flat and gets the keys next week, as we were talking about it i again asked if the arrangement we came to regarding the child benefit would still be ok (as im worrying a lot) to which she replied "i dont know" so i presume from that she will be having it instead.
im not being greedy by any means and i already feel somewhat of a failure for having to ask if i can have the child benefit just in my "hour of need" as in reality she is leaving me high and dry knowing i will struggle to keep the house on alone whilst not in work but the fact remains we will be caring for our two children on a 50/50 basis so surely i maybe entitled to something? as soon as im back in employment i will happily let her claim for all of the child benefit and child tax credits.
ive done so much for my ex partner and our children over the years and it just seems so unfair how things work out.
thoughts please?
thanks in advance
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