bad safeguarding report

[angelrocco]

my ex has applied for contact his safeguarding report came back not so good....the police told caffcass they have concerns of domestic violence offensive weapons abusive controlling behaviour....passed out due to alcohol has been reported missing also hes never made any effort for my son not gone to scans or even come to sign his birth certificate ive tried for my sons sake to be civil but had excuses and hes also lied to his solicitor before christmas saying i had agreed to his parents supervising contact....i really still think the judge would grant him supervised contact...when i went in court every1 seemed against me and made it clear caffcass did that i knew a father had the right to see his child...my sons 1st xmas he bought him nothing and his birthday too hes offered me a measly 5 pounds a week for maintenance and when i said to my solicitor i cant pay for travel costs if he wants to see him she said i cant argue the toss on it and my view is if he wants to see him why should i be out of pocket and he takes money off me and my children!!!! can someone please reply to my post im scared and worried x

[Salmon Man]

Re: bad safeguarding report

What an awful situation for you both, but more importantly for your son.

Hopefully someone will be able to advise you soon enough and put your mind at ease.

For what it's worth if your ex cannot afford the travel costs then tough for him. It is NOT your responsibility.

Stories like this bug the life out of me, having been an absentee parent desperate to see his child, and having everything in the book thrown at me to make things difficult.

Best regards, and good luck.

[bluebottle]

Re: bad safeguarding report

What you have said is typical of the inherent failings of the Family Court system. It appears that the police have concerns about your safety and your son's safety, have voiced them and, largely, been ignored. Caffcass can be total numpties and this case proves just how unbelievably reckless and incompetent they can be.

If any concerns remain, would the police be willing to go back to court with you? Also, what are Social Services doing? I cannot believe your solicitor came out with what she did. She should be reported to the Solicitors Regulation Authority (SRA).

[Inca]

Re: bad safeguarding report

My advice?...get a better solicitor and talk to Cafcass again.