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Im new to this and feel like im banging my head against a wall....i have a 7 nearly 8 year old son who is my life and every since he was born i have played a hugh part in his life , unfortunatly myself and his mum separated when he was only 2 years of age ,,, but i never stopped seeing my son and it was agreed with his mum that my son would stay with me on all my days of from work and sleep over this has been in place up untill recently.....for nearly 5 years now my son has stayed with me 11 days a month and he has never been happier having his daddy pick him up from school take him to school and well everything a parent would do who love there children i have also never stopped paying his child maitinance all the way through his 7 years ,,, his mum is now in a new relationship which im very happy for her and now my son and his mum have moved in with him ,,everything was ok for the first few months i would still pick up my son after work and he would stay with me untill i would take him back to his mum when i was due to start work,,some times it would be 3 days 4 days or even 2 days on the trot which my son loves ,,,,, now im told from his mum that i can now only see him every other weekend and if i dont see him im a irresponsible parent and dont think of my sons needs...she has already told my son this and as u could imagine he was very upset as he nows i work weekends and only have 1 weekend of a month... His mum wont give me a justified reason why the change of routine after 7 years just that is how it is like it or lump it and i have advised her i cant not work or change my hours from work as i will lose my job ..... Can she do this to me without any court order in place or no solicitors letter after 7 years ....... I need your advice,,,, thank u
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We had this stunt pulled on us by my stepdaughters Mother and we ended up in court...
The mother has done this to you because she can get away with it as the parent with custody whilst there is no legal order in place.
If I were you I'd seek the advice of a good solicitor (quickly),,or at least go to CAB to assess your rights etc.
Is the mother totally unapproachable now? You couldn't sit and have a conversation with her?
Sounds to me like the new fella is stirring the pot tbh.
Good Luck
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I had the a similar problem with my ex wife, I to went through the courts only I ended up with a solicitor that was as much use as a chocolate fireguard.
BUT it did give her a kick up the backside, she saw that I wasn't prepared to put up with her messing me and the kids around.
Do try and resolve this without going through the courts but if it looks like she's not budging then tell her you'll take her to court if need be.
then seek legal advise A.S.A.P and get yourself a solicitor that will fight your corner.
Also! don't take any notice of her saying you're a bad parent, she's only using emotional blackmail.
Now there's another fella on the scene it might get a bit ugly as he will probably want to show he's the alpha male, don't fall into any verbal arguments with him like I did "it gets you know-where"
I could write a book with the cr*p I had to go through from her trying to kill herself to her having folk phoning me and making death threats towards me but I wont bore you.
I wish you luck and hope you can resolve this quickly and amicably.Comment
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This should give you hope, if anything can:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisf...ed-law-welcome
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Swifty,,my OH went through hell and high water,,blood n guts and HAD to go legal cos the mother just wouldn't see reason. I met him when she was 8 and tbh he had her too much,,it was impeding his work rotas,then he had to stop working to be my carer and the mother promptly withdrew access.
Shes 14 now,and he has as much access as he/she likes,,phonecalls whenever they like.
She knows he fought for her.
We went through so much to get to this point and it's easy to sit back and be complacent but trust me,,the kids don't miss a trick,,they remember when they grow up (as she has).
Wouldn't life be so much easier if both parents remember they both made the child? (and I'm ashamed to say it's mostly women that pull the access stunt)Comment
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thank u all for your advice i know no my next step is a solicitor once again thankComment
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thank u my friendComment
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