Hi all, thank you in advance for any advice you can offer me.
I have a family issue which I wanted to get advice on before I go ahead and challenge my ex wife, so that I know whether the law is behind me before things start to get nasty.
My situation is that I have 2 daughters, aged 13 and 14, and have been divorced from their mother for about 7 years and we have been separated 9.
A short time after our separation she met a new partner and moved the children some 80 miles away to live with him. They married but are now going through a divorce.
Instead of trying to keep the children as settled as possible she, after being separated for about 5 months, is moving the children from their current home to live with her new partner some 50 miles from their current home, and about 30 miles from myself.
She has also applied for and accepted a new job, working weekends only, and told the girls that her new partner will look after them when they are not with me.
The children have had a very hard time over the last few months and all the uncertainty of where they will live etc is really taking its toll on them both.
Neither feel comfortable or confident around their mums new partner and feel rushed over moving in with him.
I, as their dad, have not been told any of these plans or arrangements except by my children.
Over the course of this weekend my youngest daughter has come to a decision that she wants to move in with me and my partner full time. This is something she has raised three or four times over the last year or so, going back before her mothers current divorce. I have always tried to make them work things out by supporting her and offering her advice on how to change her home life.
I feel that, in the current situation, that is not a practical solution and would like to move to bring the children to live with me.
My eldest daughter is struggling to make a decision of her own, and is in denial about her feelings in order to cope with the last few/next few months of her life. She has said she would come because she cannot live without her sister. Both are very worried about upsetting their mother but she has now been told, by them, that they do not want to move with her but come and live with me.
I want my daughters to be happy and settled. I want them to feel confident about themselves and to work hard at school while they study for their exams.
I wanted to know, at their age, is their anything that can be done to make their mother accept their decision, or in the reverse, is there anything she can do to prevent the girls deciding for themselves?
I am going to have to speak to her in the next day or so about this, and I am expecting her to threaten all sorts. I would just like to know exactly what she can do and what I can do to help my daughters.
Thank you for your advice.
I have a family issue which I wanted to get advice on before I go ahead and challenge my ex wife, so that I know whether the law is behind me before things start to get nasty.
My situation is that I have 2 daughters, aged 13 and 14, and have been divorced from their mother for about 7 years and we have been separated 9.
A short time after our separation she met a new partner and moved the children some 80 miles away to live with him. They married but are now going through a divorce.
Instead of trying to keep the children as settled as possible she, after being separated for about 5 months, is moving the children from their current home to live with her new partner some 50 miles from their current home, and about 30 miles from myself.
She has also applied for and accepted a new job, working weekends only, and told the girls that her new partner will look after them when they are not with me.
The children have had a very hard time over the last few months and all the uncertainty of where they will live etc is really taking its toll on them both.
Neither feel comfortable or confident around their mums new partner and feel rushed over moving in with him.
I, as their dad, have not been told any of these plans or arrangements except by my children.
Over the course of this weekend my youngest daughter has come to a decision that she wants to move in with me and my partner full time. This is something she has raised three or four times over the last year or so, going back before her mothers current divorce. I have always tried to make them work things out by supporting her and offering her advice on how to change her home life.
I feel that, in the current situation, that is not a practical solution and would like to move to bring the children to live with me.
My eldest daughter is struggling to make a decision of her own, and is in denial about her feelings in order to cope with the last few/next few months of her life. She has said she would come because she cannot live without her sister. Both are very worried about upsetting their mother but she has now been told, by them, that they do not want to move with her but come and live with me.
I want my daughters to be happy and settled. I want them to feel confident about themselves and to work hard at school while they study for their exams.
I wanted to know, at their age, is their anything that can be done to make their mother accept their decision, or in the reverse, is there anything she can do to prevent the girls deciding for themselves?
I am going to have to speak to her in the next day or so about this, and I am expecting her to threaten all sorts. I would just like to know exactly what she can do and what I can do to help my daughters.
Thank you for your advice.
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