Hello. Posting on behalf of friend with their permission. Hoping someone can advise.
SHORT VERSION: Ex-partner demanding items that their ex doesn't have and money not owed.
LONG VERSION: My friend and their partner of 15 years split up 3 months ago (not married, no kids, both living in my friend's house). A year before break up, they weren't getting on and partner went to stay with parents for a couple of weeks, then ended up staying with them for months, which caused rows on the phone and they stopped paying rent to my friend. Even though all their belongings were still in friend's house and partner wasn't paying rent to parents. They just stopped paying for months to make a point / be spiteful.
About two months before break up, friend and partner were on better terms and even talking about partner coming back home and partner sent my friend £2k in lieu of rent (not that the £2k was even close to what they had missed paying).
Anyway, very long story short, the harmony didn't last and partner called quits on relationship and my friend asked them to come back to collect all their belongings. Partner replied "Do what you like with my stuff. Burn it for all I care!"
I told friend to dump / sell ex's stuff, but friend decided to be the bigger person and spent an exhausting week going through the entire house and packing ex-partner's belongings into boxes. Ex-partner's brother collected all the boxes. There was so much stuff that they used a large van to pick it up.
Friend thought that was end of it. They didn't speak to each other again. Friend started getting on with life and looking to sell house and move for a fresh start.
Then recently a letter arrived, friend given 14 days to reply.
Ex-partner has gone to a solicitor and demanding "missing items" from their belongings silly things like DVDs, clothes, frying pans, tools, books, nothing of any value, and also demanding the £2k "loan" they supposedly lent friend!
Friend has been through entire house and everything of ex-partner's was packed up and sent off in ex-partner's brother's van. There's nothing left in the house that belongs to ex-partner.
They also certainly did not borrow £2k off ex either.
Anyway, friend panicked and ignored letter, and now been advised they are being taken to small claims court. Friend worried for two reasons:
1. How can they prove that they sent everything back and that the £2k absolutely wasn't a loan? They didn't make an itinerary of the items, but did get pics of all the boxes they had packed and filmed the boxes going into van. They actually only took pics and video just to send to me to show that it was all sorted. They also still have message from ex saying to burn the stuff as they didn't care.
2. If court finds in ex's favour, will friend get a CCJ? As I mentioned, they are in the process of getting house on market and will be applying for new mortgage.
I'm really angry, my friend has worked SO hard after split, not just in their job, but around the house and on themselves as they were understandably devastated by split. They were in a good place when the letter arrived and it's really set friend back mentally due to the worry and having ex tormenting them.
Many thanks in advance for any advice.
SHORT VERSION: Ex-partner demanding items that their ex doesn't have and money not owed.
LONG VERSION: My friend and their partner of 15 years split up 3 months ago (not married, no kids, both living in my friend's house). A year before break up, they weren't getting on and partner went to stay with parents for a couple of weeks, then ended up staying with them for months, which caused rows on the phone and they stopped paying rent to my friend. Even though all their belongings were still in friend's house and partner wasn't paying rent to parents. They just stopped paying for months to make a point / be spiteful.
About two months before break up, friend and partner were on better terms and even talking about partner coming back home and partner sent my friend £2k in lieu of rent (not that the £2k was even close to what they had missed paying).
Anyway, very long story short, the harmony didn't last and partner called quits on relationship and my friend asked them to come back to collect all their belongings. Partner replied "Do what you like with my stuff. Burn it for all I care!"
I told friend to dump / sell ex's stuff, but friend decided to be the bigger person and spent an exhausting week going through the entire house and packing ex-partner's belongings into boxes. Ex-partner's brother collected all the boxes. There was so much stuff that they used a large van to pick it up.
Friend thought that was end of it. They didn't speak to each other again. Friend started getting on with life and looking to sell house and move for a fresh start.
Then recently a letter arrived, friend given 14 days to reply.
Ex-partner has gone to a solicitor and demanding "missing items" from their belongings silly things like DVDs, clothes, frying pans, tools, books, nothing of any value, and also demanding the £2k "loan" they supposedly lent friend!
Friend has been through entire house and everything of ex-partner's was packed up and sent off in ex-partner's brother's van. There's nothing left in the house that belongs to ex-partner.
They also certainly did not borrow £2k off ex either.
Anyway, friend panicked and ignored letter, and now been advised they are being taken to small claims court. Friend worried for two reasons:
1. How can they prove that they sent everything back and that the £2k absolutely wasn't a loan? They didn't make an itinerary of the items, but did get pics of all the boxes they had packed and filmed the boxes going into van. They actually only took pics and video just to send to me to show that it was all sorted. They also still have message from ex saying to burn the stuff as they didn't care.
2. If court finds in ex's favour, will friend get a CCJ? As I mentioned, they are in the process of getting house on market and will be applying for new mortgage.
I'm really angry, my friend has worked SO hard after split, not just in their job, but around the house and on themselves as they were understandably devastated by split. They were in a good place when the letter arrived and it's really set friend back mentally due to the worry and having ex tormenting them.
Many thanks in advance for any advice.
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