Hi everyone I hope you are okay I want to ask advice regarding a situation I am in in 2019 my husband passed away are used his life insurance to pay a big part of my mortgage so now my mortgage is around 58,000 I now have a new boyfriend who started law school in a different part of the country. he gave me an ultimatum that if I want to be with him I need to sell the house now, get married with him and start trying for a baby. He expects me to use part of the house money to pay for a nanny and half the rent( we will have to rent). I mention that all his savings will you go on his studies. I am 38 and he is 44. my question is if we get married and then divorced what happens with the money from the house I would have in the bank or with the house if we already put those money towards a new house? would they split in half even if he didn't participate at all and everything comes from my poor husbands death? as I said he gave me an ultimatum and I have to let him know by Monday. we've only started dating in February and this relationship has many good parts but has also been quite turbulent. he went through a divorce three years ago and his wife took everything for from him and their 10 years old son died of cancer, so now he justifies his pressure by saying that if I keep the house that shows I'm not committed to the relationship and he's scared he's gonna lose his next child like he lost his first (if i will keep the child and split from him/stay in my house). He suffers with trauma from that and a few other things that happened to him.I mention I have no children. he also does not want to sign a prenup. I do love this man a lot.
Last thing to mention is that his studies are in the south of the country, whereas my job is in Birmingham ( but i live in gloucestershire) and although I work from home I will have to do the occasional trip to the office, and because I suffer with ME( chronic fatigue syndrome) and fibromyalgia, travelling is very hard for me not to mention that moving and pregnancy would have a massive effect on my health also, and he doesn't really believe in this illness anyway. He thinks is all in my head .what do you advise me to do?
Last thing to mention is that his studies are in the south of the country, whereas my job is in Birmingham ( but i live in gloucestershire) and although I work from home I will have to do the occasional trip to the office, and because I suffer with ME( chronic fatigue syndrome) and fibromyalgia, travelling is very hard for me not to mention that moving and pregnancy would have a massive effect on my health also, and he doesn't really believe in this illness anyway. He thinks is all in my head .what do you advise me to do?
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