gross misconduct..

[charitynjw]

Re: gross misconduct..

References are a bit of a tricky issue for employers.

They don't have to really say too much apart from the 'safe' stuff, but anything they do say must be accurate & provable.

If they stray too far off this they can find themselves in deep doo-doo.

Hence the clever ones opt for as neutral as possible.

So he doesn't need to mention an investigation.

Whether he will or not depends, I suspect, on his bloodymindedness.

[charitynjw]

Re: gross misconduct..

Btw, as you can see from this, DBS (CRB as was) relates to criminal matters; yours is a civil matter.

[anon134]

Re: gross misconduct..

Thank you all so much for your help and advice..I'm going to be honest about the whole incident if asked by any future employers as like I say,I don't believe that I have done anything wrong and that will be apparent when I explain what happened..I am in two minds however whether to contact my ex employer in question and tell him that I am aware of the fact that he does not have to divulge the investigation like he said he had to and that all I want and need is a neutral reference regarding when I started and finished and what my job title there was etc..he has a tendency to fob people off,thinking that he always knows best/is always in the right so if I confront him on it he may not prove to be so cocky and confident in his ways..

[charitynjw]

Re: gross misconduct..

If it were me, I would reply to the scrote's last message, stating that I have resigned due to his unwanted, unwarranted and frankly quite insulting interference in my, and another's, private life.
This led to my decision that there was an irrevocable breakdown in the duty of trust and care which is implied in all employment contracts.
I would expect a reasonable ex-employer to limit any reference to my proven record, and any insinuation of wrongdoing which would be unfairly detrimental to my future employment with others will not be tolerated.

[anon134]

Re: gross misconduct..

Well,just to share..I got the job as a drugs worker!they asked why I left the previous organisation and I briefly explained that I was having problems with my boss interfering in my private life etc..BT didn't go in to too much detail.now I've actually been given the job I think honesty is the way forward as I know I will run into my previous employer at some point in the future as I'm still working in the health and social care field and all the agencies work very closely together.I don't want him to have anything on me and want to start my new job with a clear conscience..my question is,what is the best way to explain the Terms on which I left my previous employment??I'm still too anxious to be excited about my new job because I can't quite believe the past few months of hell are actually over :/ xx

[teaboy2]

Re: gross misconduct..

Congratulations on getting the job - As for what your ex employer may say in future, well if he can not prove what he alleges then its slander or libel for which you may sue him. So i personally would be minded to warn him that you will not tolerate him spreading unproven allegations regarding your relationship with an other employee. Make the point that if the other employee had resigned, which you know he did resign, then that proves he was an employee and not a service user etc.

As for your relationship, i see no need to let all this ruin what could well be a good thing, just because of one spiteful and possibly jealous ex-employer.