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I worked for a charitable organisation as a full time substance misuse worker for a ten month period..during this time I got quite friendly with another member of staff there.he was two yeas younger than me (23) and an ex drug addict himself.he had been 4years clean and had been employed by the organisation on a full time basis for a year and a half.he was a paid member of staff and had an employment contract also,he was the head of a social enterprise that the organisation ran (a gardening business) and had been given a job title to reflect that,although he still lived in what was known as the supported or recovery house run by the organisation due to financial and accommodation purposes.it had always been made very clear to me through out my employment that he was a staff member and not a client..he was noted as a member of staff on payroll,on our daily register and lunch lists etc..anyway,he started taking an interest in me and texts from him started getting more frequent.he was a nice guy who seemed to have done well for himself and was seen as the sort of trophy of the organisation.one night thinking nothing of it,we went out to dinner together and had a nice time,something which I didn't mention to my colleagues as the town in which we live is tiny and prone to gossip..I preferred to keep my business to myself.the next day however,I was called into the office by my boss..a very religious,controlling character..who told me that he knew about our meal and that it was not something that we should repeat as the guy in question "was not ready for it" and that it he were to text me again I should let him know,something that I thought was a bit ludicrous..however,myself and the member of staff in question decided that we would not go out in public again.a few weeks passed and we exchanged texts and phone calls and he came round mine for coffee and a chat on a number of occasions..we hardly ever saw each other in work but when we did it was always very professional and we never told anyone our business outside of working hours.one Monday morning I was called in to the office and told that I was going to be suspended whilst an investigation into gross misconduct was being carried out.needless to say,I was shocked and appalled..my boss accused me of "taking advantage of a vulnerable adult who is still in recovery for a drug addiction",I was also told that he was not a staff member,but a "service user member of staff" which I know was ridiculous and completely fabricated to cover his ass..I was a single parent and did not have the money to persue legal advice or proceedings so the investigation continued..during this time,I was told by other members of staff I would not ever be able to work with vulnerable again if dismissed for gross misconduct which made me panic,so I handed in my notice (which was accepted) before I could get sacked..I wish however that I had fought it now.
What do you think of my situation?how do I go about refs now?will it be on my crb?as I plan to continue working in the sector..
I worked for a charitable organisation as a full time substance misuse worker for a ten month period..during this time I got quite friendly with another member of staff there.he was two yeas younger than me (23) and an ex drug addict himself.he had been 4years clean and had been employed by the organisation on a full time basis for a year and a half.he was a paid member of staff and had an employment contract also,he was the head of a social enterprise that the organisation ran (a gardening business) and had been given a job title to reflect that,although he still lived in what was known as the supported or recovery house run by the organisation due to financial and accommodation purposes.it had always been made very clear to me through out my employment that he was a staff member and not a client..he was noted as a member of staff on payroll,on our daily register and lunch lists etc..anyway,he started taking an interest in me and texts from him started getting more frequent.he was a nice guy who seemed to have done well for himself and was seen as the sort of trophy of the organisation.one night thinking nothing of it,we went out to dinner together and had a nice time,something which I didn't mention to my colleagues as the town in which we live is tiny and prone to gossip..I preferred to keep my business to myself.the next day however,I was called into the office by my boss..a very religious,controlling character..who told me that he knew about our meal and that it was not something that we should repeat as the guy in question "was not ready for it" and that it he were to text me again I should let him know,something that I thought was a bit ludicrous..however,myself and the member of staff in question decided that we would not go out in public again.a few weeks passed and we exchanged texts and phone calls and he came round mine for coffee and a chat on a number of occasions..we hardly ever saw each other in work but when we did it was always very professional and we never told anyone our business outside of working hours.one Monday morning I was called in to the office and told that I was going to be suspended whilst an investigation into gross misconduct was being carried out.needless to say,I was shocked and appalled..my boss accused me of "taking advantage of a vulnerable adult who is still in recovery for a drug addiction",I was also told that he was not a staff member,but a "service user member of staff" which I know was ridiculous and completely fabricated to cover his ass..I was a single parent and did not have the money to persue legal advice or proceedings so the investigation continued..during this time,I was told by other members of staff I would not ever be able to work with vulnerable again if dismissed for gross misconduct which made me panic,so I handed in my notice (which was accepted) before I could get sacked..I wish however that I had fought it now.
What do you think of my situation?how do I go about refs now?will it be on my crb?as I plan to continue working in the sector..
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