Accused of Harassment and Bullying...Please help.

[MissFM]

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Steady on the tiller there GS - time to move on! I'm going to turn in shortly - WAS going to have a hot water bottle cos it's bloody freezing here but am in two minds after what I've learnt here today. x

[GettingScrewed]

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Ah the lovely MissFM! There is another person in our small little family. My employer, his girlfriend, myself and another friend who has just contacted me. He's pretty angry at mt now former employer and the two of us are going for a few beers...(won't this end well), the situation just gets more complicated though. He knew the girl in question and always disliked her in terms of how she treated me. A family of four brought together 8/9 years ago now stand divided, and me unemployed. How the hell did this happen?

I feel like my next step is surely a huge one. It will not define me but could be a step in the right direction or two steps backwards in the wrong direction. I'm at the door of an airplane, I'm holding on to the door with white knuckles and I'm about to let go...and to be honest I'm not sure I want to know if this parachute is going to open or not!

[MissFM]

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Whether there's whiskey or not do get down writing - (I daren't now mention Catharsis!) but IMHO creativity is the true philosopher's stone and with it you can turn base metal into gold - as you've proved. x

[GettingScrewed]

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Ok, so at this point I'm snowed in and can't even go visit my family in the ass-end of nowhere! What a miserable day all around. It's like I'm being mocked with a blanket of white that forbids me to leave. It's there and new and pure and it begs me to make new footprints in a new direction, a blank canvas from above, but it's cold and wet and windy! Brrrrrr!

I could go to the bar and get drunk...I probably should but this does not alleviate my problems. I know there's Whiskey around here somewhere...

[PlanB]

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Most definitely! Well worth watching and should take your mind off things as it's a nice and rather lighthearted romcom.:violin: See here ---> http://www.movie2k.to/Sliding-Doors-...e-1166255.html Enjoy! :tea:

Gosh, can I download that and watch it for free or will that make me a pirate :fencing:

Re: Accused of Harassment and Bullying...Please help.

I actually knew the flipping answer FP,,been told before,,the old memory isn't what it was lol

[FlamingParrot]

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FP,,where are you banned from ??

It's probably not very well known as it's not one of the big consumer forums out there: All About Debt. :nod:

[FlamingParrot]

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Ha! I think I'm going to go see my folks...they live in a far away land, a hundred miles away in the wilderness where the internet is a thing of the future, only to be seen on television and in movies!

Surely if they can watch telly they can also get internet! Are there any places these days where you don't get internet at all? :eek2:

I must check out this "Sliding Doors"...

Most definitely! Well worth watching and should take your mind off things as it's a nice and rather lighthearted romcom.:violin: See here ---> http://www.movie2k.to/Sliding-Doors-...e-1166255.html
At least it's all over now!eace: Enjoy! :tea:

[PlanB]

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I shall do my best to check in though, and I appreciate all posts, positive and negative on my actions. This is the most support and advice I got from anyone on the entire matter. . . Legalities all aside, thanks everyone. Nice community of people....

What a pity you came here so late in the day as there could have been more help on the employment law side of things which may have motivated you to defend your position. Just make sure you get all the holiday pay you're entitled to and so on.

Good Luck with Chapter II :okay:

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FP,,where are you banned from ??

[FlamingParrot]

Re: Accused of Harassment and Bullying...Please help.

This is by no means the final scene - it's the start of the next chapter in your life :typing:

On a practical note make sure that you get a good written reference from the company. Resigning rather than being dismissed was perhaps a sensible choice from the point of your CV and future job prospects.

All I can add on the emotional side is that in my life I have done great things and I've done foolish things, and both have taught me useful lessons in equal measure. Life would be very dull if it was always easy, and a bit of drama never hurt anybody :drama:

If the young lady has a conscience she'll feel bad if she told lies about you to your boss. If she doesn't then just remember 'what goes around comes around' and she'll get her comeuppance one day.

Now you should go to the pub and get drunk - preferably one you're certain she won't be in :spit:

There are lots of people out there who see lying as a way of life, some are compulsive liars who have to make things up even when it doesn't benefit them in any way. :lie: Those who lie a lot end up believing their own lies and can't tell the difference between the thruth and their own fantasies. :lie: :lie: :lie:

In the end this should be a lesson to both parties involved in this because both will have something to learn from this saga.:drama: The events as described are by no means unusual, it's the fact that they happened in and around the workplace that made them more significant. :faint2:Work-related liaisons often end in tears!

[GettingScrewed]

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Hmmm - somebody was either not listening in class or has been watching way too much X Files. There is no consensus that the Anasazi ever existed as a distinct group. What is certain is that they no longer existed by the time Europeans reached the area. There is no record whatsoever of their language. Anasazi is a Dinee (or Navajo) word that does not precisely translate into English but which is generally referred to as "ancient foreigners / ancient enemy". Sioux is actually French Canadian and its derivation does not translate as Original People or anything like it. Apache, similarly, is actually a Zuni word that entered English through Spanish, and actually means "Navajo's" - which is what the Zuni called them because the tribes are closely related. "First People" is in actual fact a very modern phrase and refers collectively to aboriginal tribes from a variety of countries who claim a kinship as the original settlers of countries later colonised by Europeans, who inevitably tried to wipe them out. It is a politocal statement. Native American, of course, is an accurate rendering of the peoples collectively - they are the native peoples of America.

I didn't get a cup. I was married for 30 years to one of the world's leading authorities on Native American people, who just happened to also be Dinee himself. And my son, following in his fathers footsteps, will soon begin his postgraduate studies in the same subject.

This is awesome! I was at the University of North Dakota and had lectures with Greg Gagnon and Dr. Donald Fixaco who was Clinton's head of Indian Affairs in the US during his term in office. The People of North and South Dakota do refer to themselves as the Sioux...though the stereotypical mascot thing is up for debate. UND's Hockey team is the Fighting Sioux and the $150 million dollar hockey arena was funded by a guy named Ralph Englestad. He threatened to remove his funding and maintenance if they removed the team name.

[GettingScrewed]

Re: Accused of Harassment and Bullying...Please help.

Now you should go to the pub and get drunk - preferably one you're certain she won't be in :spit:

Ha! I think I'm going to go see my folks...they live in a far away land, a hundred miles away in the wilderness where the internet is a thing of the future, only to be seen on television and in movies! I shall do my best to check in though, and I appreciate all posts, positive and negative on my actions. This is the most support and advice I got from anyone on the entire matter. I know my friend sort of came down on her side more than mine with the final decision to be made, and though I do not hold such a quarrel against him, I have lost my him.

"What comes around goes around" PlanB? I wish I could believe that. Not sure if anyone has seen The Walking Dead tv show? I was Shane today and she whispered in Rick's ear to come and get me. Legalities all aside, thanks everyone. Nice community of people.

I must check out this "Sliding Doors"...

[Eloise01]

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I was with the Annishinabe/Chippewa, who are the Sioux and the Cree, though all Indian names, Chickasaw, Anasazi, Apache, Sioux, etc, as you have pointed out translate to the 'First People' or the 'Original People'.

Hmmm - somebody was either not listening in class or has been watching way too much X Files. There is no consensus that the Anasazi ever existed as a distinct group. What is certain is that they no longer existed by the time Europeans reached the area. There is no record whatsoever of their language. Anasazi is a Dinee (or Navajo) word that does not precisely translate into English but which is generally referred to as "ancient foreigners / ancient enemy". Sioux is actually French Canadian and its derivation does not translate as Original People or anything like it. Apache, similarly, is actually a Zuni word that entered English through Spanish, and actually means "Navajo's" - which is what the Zuni called them because the tribes are closely related. "First People" is in actual fact a very modern phrase and refers collectively to aboriginal tribes from a variety of countries who claim a kinship as the original settlers of countries later colonised by Europeans, who inevitably tried to wipe them out. It is a politocal statement. Native American, of course, is an accurate rendering of the peoples collectively - they are the native peoples of America.

I didn't get a cup. I was married for 30 years to one of the world's leading authorities on Native American people, who just happened to also be Dinee himself. And my son, following in his fathers footsteps, will soon begin his postgraduate studies in the same subject.

[PlanB]

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He asked did I want to leave out the front or go out the back. I chose the front, with my held high, knowing this will be the last time I walk out...and as I did so I was met with the freezing cold snow. It was almost poetic, picturesque even. If I ever write that book, I mean what a final scene.

This is by no means the final scene - it's the start of the next chapter in your life :typing:

On a practical note make sure that you get a good written reference from the company. Resigning rather than being dismissed was perhaps a sensible choice from the point of your CV and future job prospects.

All I can add on the emotional side is that in my life I have done great things and I've done foolish things, and both have taught me useful lessons in equal measure. Life would be very dull if it was always easy, and a bit of drama never hurt anybody :drama:

If the young lady has a conscience she'll feel bad if she told lies about you to your boss. If she doesn't then just remember 'what goes around comes around' and she'll get her comeuppance one day.

Now you should go to the pub and get drunk - preferably one you're certain she won't be in :spit: