neighbour problems

[greyfur]

I have been harassed by neighbours and others in my community for several years. I have written here about this before and could find no answers, but I have recently been given information from a supermarket delivery driver that has confirmed my suspicions. He told me that there is a large group of people who are keeping watch on my home, to ascertain if I have any visitors or if the property is occupied. My home is being kept under surveillance 24/7. Recently, one woman looked into my open window and told someone on her phone, that the house appeared to be occupied. They stop outside in cars at night to look in, even though I have lights on, etc. I installed a camera and they all think that's funny and just look at it and giggle. I am on the verge of a nervous breakdown because of it all. My doctor asked the Police to help, and they do not want to know. When I have persisted they did something about the neighbours, an officer labelled me mentally ill. Any advice gratefully received. Thank you.

[PallasAthena]

I've read your previous posts about the harassment you have been suffering over the last 5 years or more and to help others reading about this for the first time these links to your main threads:

2024 Illegal Photography? - LegalBeagles Forum
2023 Solicitor Help with Harassment - LegalBeagles Forum
2022 Police communication - LegalBeagles Forum
2022 Harassed by community - LegalBeagles Forum
2022 Doctors and the Police - LegalBeagles Forum
2022 ViST Forms - LegalBeagles Forum
2021 community harassment - LegalBeagles Forum

Much advice has been given here over the years without it apparently helping you and I doubt there is much more people can add, but hopefully someone may have further ideas.

I wouldn't normally suggest this to someone who is the victim but when you are faced with a campaign of community harassment that is this extensive - at various times you have said that you believe that social services, the police, multiple neighbours, Royal Mail staff, your GPs are all involved - I would urge you to reconsider the advice given here a couple of years ago to move to another part of the country for a fresh start. At the time you said you didn't think that was possible (although you didn't say why) but you appear to have few other options.

[greyfur]

Thank you Pallasathena for taking the time to reply. I would need help to move, but sadly, that isn't available.

[Betwixt]

Sorry I can't offer advice as I'm experiencing something similar and I'm seeking answers too, for a long-standing pattern of intimidation, harassment, and surveillance, which I suspect is linked to my seeking a diagnosis for neurodevelopmental conditions (ASD and ADHD) and my previous employment.

I am currently under a COT3 agreement from a prior employment dispute, which limits what I can share publicly.

Since leaving the organization, the way I am treated by institutions, organizations, and almost everyone I have contact with suggests that external influence is at play, and I suspect a malicious smear campaign may be involved.

I have submitted a DSAR to my former employer, but I believe they are withholding vital information that could help me understand the situation and allow me to take appropriate steps to address it. I believe that my former employer is hiding behind legal privileges in this regard, and I have escalated the matter to the ICO.

My efforts to move forward with an official diagnosis for my neurodevelopmental conditions have been undermined. Despite receiving an official diagnosis for ASD last year, my situation has not improved. Additionally, I suspect that a narrative is being advanced to invalidate my neurodevelopmental conditions and symptoms while promoting a mental health narrative, such as schizophrenia, in an attempt to portray me as unstable and ultimately prevent me from moving forward.

I have been subjected to 24/7 monitoring, which I suspect may be conducted illegally or in violation of my privacy rights, targeted noise campaigns, street theatre, institutional gaslighting, and incidents suggesting a potential threat of fabricated allegations against me. These actions seem specifically designed to disrupt my life and undermine my emotional well-being and mental health.

At key moments, my communications are disrupted, and I often receive targeted messages via email and social media that suggest a threat of homelessness and invalidate my conditions. These messages indicate that I am being monitored and mock my situation, which adds to my emotional distress.

I believe there is a coordinated effort to harass and isolate me, involving a business below my flat and neighbours with connections to my former employer, whom I suspect are collaborating.

One of the difficult things about this is that most people would not believe this happens, and most documented cases about this sort of thing seem to be on sites where it is mocked or not taken seriously.

There's a news article about a woman in Slough who complained about youths damaging flower beds and she was branded potentially violent and put on a council blacklist with thugs and sex attackers. They circulated her details to doctors, dentists, opticians, libraries, contraceptive clinics, schools and nurseries. She was a former care worker and she was forced to leave town. It took four years for her to clear her name before they paid her damages.

[HariSeldon]

a woman in Slough who complained about youths damaging flower beds and she was branded potentially violent and put on a council blacklist

That would be the woman that told a council worker to "drop down dead" and admitted "I am certain I would have physically attacked her if she had been anywhere near me"?

It sounds to me like the council were absolutely correct about her being potentially violent. The council paid damages because they'd sent the warning about her to too many people, specifically to a group of people they shouldn't have.

[Betwixt]

There was no history of violence: she was not violent nor had she ever been. When she confronted a group of adults about a child pulling heads off flowers, squashing everything and one of the adults became abusive towards her, she did not resort to any form of violence, and she called the police who advised her to call the council.

The lady was justifiably shocked at being accused of being the source of the problem. She was "understandably furious, frustrated and angry".

She was branded potentially violent and put on a council blacklist with thugs and sex attackers. They circulated her details to doctors, dentists, opticians, libraries, contraceptive clinics, schools and nurseries:

The ex-care worker was forced to withdraw an application to become a foster parent and, eventually, to leave the town where she had lived for ten years. It took a a bitter four-year legal battle with Slough Council, before the stain on her character was finally removed.

[HariSeldon]

There was no history of violence: she was not violent nor had she ever been. ... The ex-care worker was forced to withdraw an application to become a foster parent

The woman was not accused of being violent, she was accused of being potentially violent and the judge agreed that "a reasonable person ... could conclude that ... she might be understood by staff as making threats".

The fundamental mistakes the council made were that the document they used was titled "Violent Persons Register" rather than "Potentially Violent Persons Register" and they sent the warning about the potentially violent woman to people that they shouldn't have.

The woman clearly had anger issues; slamming a phone down so hard that she broke it, telling a council worker to "drop down dead" and admitting "I am certain I would have physically attacked her if she had been anywhere near me". I think many people would think that a woman who gets so angry is not a suitable person to be a foster parent.

[Betwixt]

Many people thinking something isn't right doesn't make it wrong, and it wouldn't stop you from becoming a foster parent. Fortunately, every situation is considered on an individual basis. The lady was an ex-care worker, otherwise of good character as far as we know. And 'you won't be approved for fostering a child if you have a criminal record for violent or sexual offences,' not for something like this when she was 'understandably furious, frustrated, and angry.'


One moment of anger or frustration doesn't define a person's entire character. The lady in question had no prior history of violence, and her actions were a reaction to what she perceived as an unfair situation. She wasn't a threat, she was upset, and like any human being, she expressed her frustration. That doesn't make her a danger to others, especially if there was no actual violence involved.

[greyfur]

I haven't been on this website for quite some time, and have only just seen your posts Betwixt. Thanks for sharing your story and adding to this thread. I hope your problems are resolved quickly and you have my sympathy. My harassment continues.

As you say, people do not believe this sort of thing happens.

Someone suggested going down a different route to resolve it, via an investigative journalist or private detective. Have you thought of these options?

[Betwixt]

Thank you for your reply GREYFUR, I appreciate the suggestion. My situation has been ongoing for several years. I do wonder how many others are experiencing this now; I suspect it’s far more common than what’s being reported. There’s definitely been an increase in hate crimes and negative attitudes over the past few years, particularly toward vulnerable, isolated, or marginalized groups.