Hello,
My brother will not come to the table and agree my mother's funeral arrangements.
I spoke with my mother's solicitor on Monday and told them that, under no circumstances, are they to take any instructions for my mother's funeral from a friend of my brother and that he, himself, must agree details with me either via the solicitor or the funeral director. I was quite explicit.
I said to the solicitor that I would be more than happy to liaise with them as executors if he didn't wish to agree the details.
I received an email from yesterday:-
"I write further to previous correspondence in this matter and in particular to our recent telephone conversation of the 15 November 2021.
I confirm that I have, this afternoon, met with your brother, to discuss the funeral arrangements for your Mother. Your Mother’s Will states that she wishes to be cremated after a church service at [church specified] and that she wishes for her ashes to be placed with your Father. Your brother would like to follow your Mother’s wishes and I see no reason why this should not take place as it is stated in the Will.
I will contact the funeral director to make the arrangements as I trust you will not have any objections to your Mother’s wishes.
Yours sincerely"
I absolutely have NO objection to my mother's wishes being followed but they are only the bare bones. I understand but am unclear whether this is countered anywhere in law but there is no legal obligation to follow any funeral wishes noted within a Will. Who agrees the detail?
I feel that I need to caution the solicitor insofar as they appear to just be wishing to railroad the issue and ignoring the finer detail. What coffin, cars, music, flowers, private or public (I feel it should be private because of the very stressful occurrences leading up to my mother's passing.), etceteras.
Advice on where I stand would be greatly appreciated as this is already a very stressful situation. I really need that funeral to be private family members only for my own sanity.
My brother will not come to the table and agree my mother's funeral arrangements.
I spoke with my mother's solicitor on Monday and told them that, under no circumstances, are they to take any instructions for my mother's funeral from a friend of my brother and that he, himself, must agree details with me either via the solicitor or the funeral director. I was quite explicit.
I said to the solicitor that I would be more than happy to liaise with them as executors if he didn't wish to agree the details.
I received an email from yesterday:-
"I write further to previous correspondence in this matter and in particular to our recent telephone conversation of the 15 November 2021.
I confirm that I have, this afternoon, met with your brother, to discuss the funeral arrangements for your Mother. Your Mother’s Will states that she wishes to be cremated after a church service at [church specified] and that she wishes for her ashes to be placed with your Father. Your brother would like to follow your Mother’s wishes and I see no reason why this should not take place as it is stated in the Will.
I will contact the funeral director to make the arrangements as I trust you will not have any objections to your Mother’s wishes.
Yours sincerely"
I absolutely have NO objection to my mother's wishes being followed but they are only the bare bones. I understand but am unclear whether this is countered anywhere in law but there is no legal obligation to follow any funeral wishes noted within a Will. Who agrees the detail?
I feel that I need to caution the solicitor insofar as they appear to just be wishing to railroad the issue and ignoring the finer detail. What coffin, cars, music, flowers, private or public (I feel it should be private because of the very stressful occurrences leading up to my mother's passing.), etceteras.
Advice on where I stand would be greatly appreciated as this is already a very stressful situation. I really need that funeral to be private family members only for my own sanity.
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