I feel I have a few mountains to climb and am desperate of any help..
I am using Martin Lewis forums also at the moment- debt free wannabe
so where do i start..
I asked my husband to leave after 13 years marriage 3 weeks ago.. he went to his sisters, we have a 9 year old daughter. I have been desperately unhappy for many years and it all went pop when i wanted to start clearing our debts properly but he wasn't really interested.. WE have not slept together for 10 years + .I am 43 he is 47.. my first feeling is relief as i don't have to go through my life on egg shells any more. I am nurse working with NHS
we have debts in separate names but mortgage is joint .. £103K mortgage value approx £145k.. I have a great mum dad and sister.. dad said he will help me financially and do all he can to stay where I am with my daughter..My husband and i are not the type to stab each others back,,we don't want a messy divorce.. We have had 1 chat so far tip toeing about maintenance, assets mortgage.went as good as it could in circumstances he is gutted all over , don't think he thought i was brave enough to do this
My dad will help with divorce costs or even pay him a equity share.. so i was going to start with issuing divorce papers cost £550. and i did look at using Wikivorce online to draw up a consent order re finances??
Story regarding house..
... I bought my own house ( not one in now) when i qualified as a nurse in 2000. I met husband when he was in the navy in 2001 ,, he soon left and moved in.. Not long after it emerged he had a consolidation loan which he thought was due to end but when we enquired he still owed £13000... I put this on my mortgage and paid it all off..
WE moved in 2006 to house still in he wasn't on mortgage during move as had bad credit score... In 2011 we re mortgaged to do our kitchen up.. credit better so we asked about putting him on mortgage which was done and also a transfer of equity done..
On now looking at land registry he is named as the registered proprietor .. no mention of me, as i said we both are on the mortgage so if someone could help me with this i would be grateful.. ( he is not however going to come sweeping back to claim house )as he will not upset daughter in any way
I hope i am not being realistic about staying here.. My dad bought our caravan 3 years ago so i have asked husband about me selling and he said " well i am not going to be towing it again am i " so i was going to look at selling this to pay off some debt.. he has a nice car so i suggested he sell / downgrade so he could pay off some debts but he wasn't keen to do this.. I am just trying to keep costs down as i have no money ( although my kind dad does ) to sort all this out properly. My budget i have set in other forum is tight but so able.. it is nice to get control back about finances . and if i have to sell house then so be it.. sorry for long post. and thank you if anyone can guide me further
I am using Martin Lewis forums also at the moment- debt free wannabe
so where do i start..
I asked my husband to leave after 13 years marriage 3 weeks ago.. he went to his sisters, we have a 9 year old daughter. I have been desperately unhappy for many years and it all went pop when i wanted to start clearing our debts properly but he wasn't really interested.. WE have not slept together for 10 years + .I am 43 he is 47.. my first feeling is relief as i don't have to go through my life on egg shells any more. I am nurse working with NHS
we have debts in separate names but mortgage is joint .. £103K mortgage value approx £145k.. I have a great mum dad and sister.. dad said he will help me financially and do all he can to stay where I am with my daughter..My husband and i are not the type to stab each others back,,we don't want a messy divorce.. We have had 1 chat so far tip toeing about maintenance, assets mortgage.went as good as it could in circumstances he is gutted all over , don't think he thought i was brave enough to do this
My dad will help with divorce costs or even pay him a equity share.. so i was going to start with issuing divorce papers cost £550. and i did look at using Wikivorce online to draw up a consent order re finances??
Story regarding house..
... I bought my own house ( not one in now) when i qualified as a nurse in 2000. I met husband when he was in the navy in 2001 ,, he soon left and moved in.. Not long after it emerged he had a consolidation loan which he thought was due to end but when we enquired he still owed £13000... I put this on my mortgage and paid it all off..
WE moved in 2006 to house still in he wasn't on mortgage during move as had bad credit score... In 2011 we re mortgaged to do our kitchen up.. credit better so we asked about putting him on mortgage which was done and also a transfer of equity done..
On now looking at land registry he is named as the registered proprietor .. no mention of me, as i said we both are on the mortgage so if someone could help me with this i would be grateful.. ( he is not however going to come sweeping back to claim house )as he will not upset daughter in any way
I hope i am not being realistic about staying here.. My dad bought our caravan 3 years ago so i have asked husband about me selling and he said " well i am not going to be towing it again am i " so i was going to look at selling this to pay off some debt.. he has a nice car so i suggested he sell / downgrade so he could pay off some debts but he wasn't keen to do this.. I am just trying to keep costs down as i have no money ( although my kind dad does ) to sort all this out properly. My budget i have set in other forum is tight but so able.. it is nice to get control back about finances . and if i have to sell house then so be it.. sorry for long post. and thank you if anyone can guide me further
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