Forum Manners

[Inca]

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My beloved Mum,,the Oracle of my life,always said...Have a decent bed,bra and shoes because you are always in one of them (except my brothers...I think lol ) and Drive your mouth carefully because you cannot reverse and retake the words........ Having said that she was a 4ft11 Irish/Canadian firecracker who made 6ft7 men quake in their size 14 boots ! (Dad,,bless him,he didn't stand a chance if her wrath was incurred) I just say be nice to me,and I will be nice to you,,

[wales01man]

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Manners today are on the way out everywhere m wife is disabled walks uneasliy with a stick more people push past or let doors close on her than do the opposite no doubt others with disabilities or know someone can verify this it cost nothing to be civil but its a dying trait for many

[Hurricane Puffrose]

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as a mam, I blame the parents for that!

My kids have been taught, you stand up and let a elderly/disabled person sit down (or a pregnant woman), you wanna see the looks on the local old ducks when No 1 son taps them and says Please will you take my seat?
Kids learn by example, and too many parents think of only their child, the door thing, my kids school have a "hold the door" policy. The first 2 kids in the line hold the doors to let the others through, then they have to look behind them and call out DOOR SHUTTING before they let it go. My kids even do this is the shops! The disgusting thing is, the amount of adults that walk past them like they are not there and don't even say "thank you".

The kids say Please may I, and Thank you very much.... mainly because Mr R and I do it too. Too many adults just expect the stuff and dont say thanks at all. I can cuss like a sailor in Plymouth when I want to, I have been known to reduce grown men to quivering wrecks calling for their mummies.. mainly because in my line of work I HAD to, it was give as good as you get or curl up your toes and die, but I don't swear (or if I do I apologise to them profusely) in front of my children because its not a good example of how to be a decent person, but some mams in the playground efff and blind like a navvy with a nail in his foot, then complain that the kid is using foul language.

Another very personal gripe is, my darling Dad taught me to "eat with your mouth shut, not like a cow chewing the cud.. and only chimps chatter with a mouth full of chips" and now the TV chefs *takes mouthful of food* MMMMMMM this is lovely *continue chomping*.
The only one I have seen who hasn't is Old Sewergob himself, Mr Ramsey who ate something.. emptied his mouth and said I do apologise... that was DELICIOUS! but I had my mouth full.."

[Inca]

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Excuse my blatant 'name dropping' but I have actually worked with Ramsey,and whilst his TV persona is a foul mouthed git,he actually has wonderful manners.

My Mum called openmouthed eating 'chamming' and woe betide anyone that did it!! I too find it vile,and it puts me off my food,and it's eurrrrgh! My dad was not averse to rapping the offender across the knuckles with the back of his fork! Like you Puffrose,my son has been bought up to say Please and Thankyou,to hold doors open,to stand up like a man (which he now is) for elderly/pregnant people.
As my illness has progressed it has opened all our eyes to the ignorance of some people,since having my walker (3 wheeled ankle snapper) I appear to have become rather invisible and mostly by WOMEN! They are forever bumping me,standing stock still whilst Im careering up behind them then get miffy when I collide into them !! God help anyone who does this whilst I'm with my son,,he is so over protective and has reduced grown men to snivelling wrecks with his razor sharp tongue,(can't think where he got it from
:tung The worst times are when we rock up in our car,,I have a motability vehicle,a brand new Civic,albeit I no longer drive,and park in a blue badge spot..my healthy 24 year old jumps out and often gets glares and looks! The last time it happened he took the tirade that was aimed at him then turned and said''for my next trick,,,,,,taaaaaaadaaaaaaaah,,and got my wheelchair out and opened the door to get me!! I'm a shorty,and the idiot who was complaining shrivelled away Thats ma boy,,love him

[Hurricane Puffrose]

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As a mam, my proudest day came when in Asda's.
We decided the kids needed a quick meal before we set off on one of our regular jollies over the dales, and in the cafe there was an old lady on a walker, plus trolley and tray. I was standing behind her with No 1 son (he's 7) and I said to him "poor old love, I wonder if.." I never got any further, my boy had pushed the old lady's trolley to a near by table, come back and offered her his arm saying "I won't let you fall! But I have to call my daddy cos your tray has hot tea on it, and I'm not allowed to carry it" and shouted of his dad to help him.
The old lady started rummaging for "pennies" and my son *proud mammy bit here, bear with me* said "No thank you, I did it because I wanted to, goodbye" then took his open-mouthed dad's hand and went to join his brother and sister.

Another thing I hate is when someone doesn't hear you and says What? how long does the word Pardon? take to form on your lips?

my turn to name drop, but the nicest person I met when I worked Paddington Station was Mike Reid. A real old school East End gentleman. The first words from his mouth were "Excuse me Miss, I seem to be lost.!"
As Sapphy will confirm, he's what us Cockneys call a real Diamond.. and hes very very sadly missed. RIP mike.

[Inca]

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Hi wales01man,,obviously I don't know your wife's circumstances,but from my own experience..I found myself very unstable on a stick,I have the balance of a baby giraffe (MS),and my OT upgraded me to a 3 wheeled trolley,,it's my lifeline outdoors .

[Inca]

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RIP indeed,,lovely man..Your son has been taught well,,,as my ole Duchess used to say 'our children are the monsters we create,be they bad or good,they only learn by seeing and hearing'

[Inca]

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Another bug bear of mine is the overuse of 'sorry'....kids who know full well they shouldn't have said or done something and thinks 'sorry' makes it right,,it doesn't...learning and never repeating the offence makes more sense than a 'sorry' that gildes so easily off the tongue!

[Hurricane Puffrose]

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yeh i know what you mean, or parents who are told "he/she's had a very bad day at school today, pulled sally's hair, stood on johnnys foot and talked through class" and the kid gets out of the teachers sight, and Mam gives them a bag of sweets!

We had a problem with No 1 son hitting, so we told him if he had 5 good days he would get to pick what was for tea (pizza!!!), then 10 good days he could pick a DVD and Mammy would make popcorn, 15 he got over an hour in the park, spagetti (his choice) for tea and he got to go to Granny's on the BUS! (only 3 stops, I put them on, mum takes them off). When we got to a MONTH of good days (plus a special mention for reading) we went to Pizza Hut!

Forgive the proud mammy thing here friends, but, my kids have this year been awarded: Special recogition Award for Kindness and manners (both daughter and No 1 Son) Special Recognition for Helpfulnness (daughter) Special mention for "playground buddy of the year" (daughter) Head Teachers Award Most Improved Pupil (No 1 son!)

[Sapphire]

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Oh lordy don't get me started.....

The use of mobiles/iPads etc during a meal, what the hell is so important that it can't wait whilst eating.
Shouting whilst on a mobile ffs
People on them motorised wheelchairs who bash into you and look at you as if you're in the wrong for being on a pavement
Kids playing hide and seek in the supermarket, for gods sakes its a shop not a friggin playground
Kids on planes, please parents don't be offended but not everyone enjoys shouting and screaming on a long flight and believe you me being kicked in the back for hours on end is not nice.
Russians on holiday, anyone who's experienced this will know what I mean
Add the Germans to that above

More later when I've calmed down

[Hurricane Puffrose]

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Sapphy I fully agree.

A shop is someone's workplace, and as such should be respected by everyone, kids included.
The kids on planes thing, I've only ever been on one plane and swore that feathers would sprout out of my back before I did it again, but on a TRAIN my kids have colouring books, pop, pencils reading books etc and they are told that the person with the quietest voice wins a kitkat!

The motorised scooter thing.. well.. Brother Matt lives in Canada and he was coming home from teaching Kendo. He has a permit to carry a Katana (Samurai's sword) and he saw an old woman on a scooter dragging something behind her, his husband screamed at him CUT IT!!CUT IT!! so he did, then realised it was a duffle coat and the mad old bat was dragging a kiddy by the coat behind her!
I am noticing that people are buying scooters (I would have loved one for my dad who DID need mobility help) when to be blatently honest the only thing that is wrong with them is laziness!


The whole phone ringing/laptop at mealtimes issue, we even turn the TV off!

Another good one is people who come to see me knowing I have dogs and then say Oh you will have to put the dogs out!! I cant be doing with dogs! theres the door.. dont let it hit you on the bum! if you want the best seat in the house.. move the cat!

[Inca]

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Puffrose,,,I have a stepdaughter,,,,,known her since she was 8,,,and never a more spoilt brat of a kid could you wish to meet,,God,,she was VILE !! Tantrums,screaming blue murder,,her way or no way,,ran rings round her Dad (my beloved),Mummykins bought her everything cos,,bless her ,she has adhd!! ADHD my blue backside!! Spoilt b***h syndrome,,but the ADHD diagnosis opens benefits door to Mummy!! Anyway,,one day we had her..and she started wanting her own way,,which she wasn't going to get so she slowly revved herself into a full blown tantrum,,screaming her head off then started banging her head against a door,,,,,and all I could do was laugh and laugh,she looked SO ridiculous,she demanded to ring her Mum to be picked up..so we gave her the phone Mum answered,,kid demanded to be collected to which MommieDearest replied' I'm in London till tomorrow' Well,,kid went apoplectic screaming 'but you said I always come first!! Get home NOW !!..........by this time I was gasping for air,,doing my best Muttley impersonation..and Daddy just looking stunned! Upshot was,,Mum stayed in London,,I told kid how stupid she looked and she spent the next 5 hours in confused grumble mode wondering why her best performance didn't work!! She never ever plays up here now,,she reserves that for Mum..cos I won't tolerate it

[Inca]

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SUPERMARKETS !! Oh my days,,,they are the bane of my life,,kids running riot,,kids being allowed to play with squeaky dog toys,,having meltdowns,,men in shorty shorts and wifebeater tops but all greasy and hairy,,talking on mobiles while getting in my way,,the mobility scooters being used by people I KNOW don't need them (live in a small village)and for some reason..shoplifters always manage to do it in front of me !! Saw one woman loading her trolley full of food into bags up the nappy aisle!! She got caught but why wait till I rocked up?

[wales01man]

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Interesting reading all the comments glad its not only me who notices all these things i can be the rudest b-----d or the politest if im provoked i attack but if someone treats me with respect they earn mine manners are always a 2 way thing but as stated on here many times its a one way street

[Inca]

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I'm thinking ole Satan won't let me in if I don't say Hello