Forum Manners

[Guest]

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Hi
Seriously, it is nice that someone has thought to make these points.

What is important is what is contained within the posts not the way they are presented, sometimes we are too quick to make "value" judgements on people based on the flimsiest of evidence and it can result in important information being ridiculed and ignored.

Peter

[charitynjw]

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Spot on, Peter!

I have children, some of whom have language problems, & may not have the best 'command' of grammar, punctuation* or the use of 'the Queen's English'.

They are, however, bright & accomplished.

As you rightly point out, what is said should be held in higher esteem to how one says it!

*Oxford comma is optional, lol

[MIKE770]

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Spot on, Peter!

I have children, some of whom have language problems, & may not have the best 'command' of grammar, punctuation* or the use of 'the Queen's English'.

They are, however, bright & accomplished.

As you rightly point out, what is said should be held in higher esteem to how one says it!

*Oxford comma is optional, lol

Not only that childrens, eating habits, slurp slurp when eating, ahhhhhhhhh anoys me at the table.

[CleverClogs]

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Not only that; children's eating habits - slurp slurp when eating - ... annoys me at the table.

Such noises would worry me more if they were in bed.

[Lestat]

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A couple of things that I try to live by
(its not allways easy but I do always try)

Manners cost no money and no time to make so make many

and

Its nice to be nice

Another thing I've found out is that if you're nice then it's very difficult for people to be nasty to you. If someone is shouting at you whisper to them, see how quickly they will stop shouting (unless they have a mental illness) to hear what you are saying. But thanks are due to gorang for reminding me of this and I agree with the fact that it's nice to be nice.

[bluebottle]

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Okay. I'm wearing my psychic's hat here instead of my ex-policeman's helmet, but expressing gratitude does make a big difference. It is something that resonates throughout the Universe and brings abundance and good things to you. A simple "Thank you" means an awful lot, especially to people.

[miliitant]

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the correction of spelling mistakes etc i welcome, especially if its in a legal context and i value that

quite often i type in upper case as well. put the two together and any lay person would think its bad manners and shouting. littie do people realise their may be a reason.

in my case its bad eye sight which i have no control over

that is one of the reasons i joined this forum, you do not get the usual annoying tit trying to make a point and cause an argument like on another forum i will not mention

[CleverClogs]

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Another thing I've found out is that if you're nice then it's very difficult for people to be nasty to you. If someone is shouting at you whisper to them, see how quickly they will stop shouting (unless they have a mental illness) to hear what you are saying. But thanks are due to gorang for reminding me of this and I agree with the fact that it's nice to be nice.

Sometimes, the best way to be nasty is to be nice.

On one occasion, when I was still driving a motor-car, a female driver cut in front of me in a rather dangerous way; we were both approaching traffic lights turning to red and I'd slowed down so there was little risk of me causing a collision, but still...

Instead of the customary yelling about her, I got out and walked up to her passenger's window and gently tapped on it. When it was wound down a little, I meekly asked if the driver was aware that her "L plates" had fallen off. The passenger burst out laughing but the driver was far from amused; as I walked back to my vehicle, I could hear her shouting furiously at her passenger.

Yes, it's nice to be nice.

[Hurricane Puffrose]

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I'm glad to read this thread, I can remember being in a facebook group, and one girl wrote a post about her sister, it was heartfelt, touching and moved me to tears. She had spelt a few words wrong, capital letters in the wrong place, and the whole group turned on her. No one asked her how old she was, no one asked her the reasoning behind the thread.

Friends she was 13, dyslexsic and her sister had just passed. 3 days later, I got a mail from her telling me she loved me, but she would be stopping her account with facebook, it hit her that hard.

I guess the point of my story is, you cant tell whos posting, someone can be so unhappy that they physically cannot think about commas and apsotraphies (and i know thats spelt wrong, till I met Labman I thought an apostraphy was someone that followed jesus!).

As my Granddad always said "Ever person is someone else's child, and every person should be respected, till they prove they dont deserve it."


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Never Trouble Trouble Until Trouble Troubles You, The Only Thing That That Trouble Brings Is Lights Of Shining Blue! - my beloved Uncle Teddy

[CleverClogs]

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till I met Labman I thought an apostraphy was someone that followed jesus!

And that cunnilingus was an Irish airline?

[Hurricane Puffrose]

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Isnt it?!?!

[Guest]

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I'm glad to read this thread, I can remember being in a facebook group, and one girl wrote a post about her sister, it was heartfelt, touching and moved me to tears. She had spelt a few words wrong, capital letters in the wrong place, and the whole group turned on her. No one asked her how old she was, no one asked her the reasoning behind the thread.

Friends she was 13, dyslexsic and her sister had just passed. 3 days later, I got a mail from her telling me she loved me, but she would be stopping her account with facebook, it hit her that hard.

I guess the point of my story is, you cant tell whos posting, someone can be so unhappy that they physically cannot think about commas and apsotraphies (and i know thats spelt wrong, till I met Labman I thought an apostraphy was someone that followed jesus!).

As my Granddad always said "Ever person is someone else's child, and every person should be respected, till they prove they dont deserve it."


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Never Trouble Trouble Until Trouble Troubles You, The Only Thing That That Trouble Brings Is Lights Of Shining Blue! - my beloved Uncle Teddy

Perhaps even when they don't deserve it?

D

[Hurricane Puffrose]

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yeh i agree..

it costs nothing to be civil and walk away with your head held high.

[bluebottle]

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the correction of spelling mistakes etc i welcome, especially if its in a legal context and i value that

quite often i type in upper case as well. put the two together and any lay person would think its bad manners and shouting. littie do people realise their may be a reason.

in my case its bad eye sight which i have no control over

that is one of the reasons i joined this forum, you do not get the usual annoying tit trying to make a point and cause an argument like on another forum i will not mention

The "annoying tit" hasn't got a username beginning with J, by any chance?

[bluebottle]

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An ex-colleague of mine, who was a police motorcyclist, had a novel way of dealing with speeders. We will call the ex-colleague PC Pete. It usually went something like this -

PC PETE: Good morning/afternoon, Sir/Madam/Miss. I made it seventy miles an hour. What do you make it?
MOTORIST: I was only doing forty. Oh ****!
PC PETE: No, Sir/Madam/Miss. The speed limit is not "Oh ****". It's twenty miles an hour.

He caught them like that every time.