Forum Manners

[Celestine]

Morning all


“A man's manners are a mirror in which he shows his portrait.”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe


I felt the need to post this up because from time to time, we endure disputes purely caused by bad manners.

If someone uses the incorrect conjugation of a verb in a 121 conversation, I wouldn't dream of correcting them, or if someone uses a malapropism, I wouldn't point out their error in case I embarrassed them. It's just good manners, leave those sort of corrections to their parents!

Pointing out someones spelling mistakes, poor grammar or use of capitalisation adds nothing to the debate on a thread, often it actually just steers the thread into off topic posts and detracts greatly from the usefulness of the topic of the thread.

Cel x


“Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.”
Emily Post

[labman]

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A few of my favourites on manners, all I believe to be true:

Manners easily and rapidly mature into morals.

Manners are of more importance than laws. Manners are what vex or soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or debase, barbarize or refine us, by a constant, steady, uniform, insensible operation, like that of the air we breathe in.

We cannot always oblige; but we can always speak obligingly.

It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice.
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I think at times all of us fall short of these, it's human nature - however all the above I believe are excellent aims.

[Gorang]

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A couple of things that I try to live by
(its not allways easy but I do always try)

Manners cost no money and no time to make so make many

and

Its nice to be nice

[charitynjw]

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My first Headmistress (lovely woman!) used to say

[Bill-K]

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Nice to see a bit of heraldry introduced here, Chaz. Whose CoA is that ? "W...W" - must be Wycombe Wanderers. Known for being used to playing on a sloped playing field - and for 'wandering' off-side !!! As for being polite - well...they're a soccer team. "SayNoMore, Squire !!!"

I like a larf in here, and typo's can be a good source - but only where we know our 'opponent' to some extent. There is 'good' humour, and 'bad' humour, I believe. Those who belittle other posters - for whatever reason - must ask themselves why they do this. If they are honest with themselves, then they will know how desperate they are to boost their own 'dimensionally-challenged' ego's. I get a much bigger buzz from peeps saying "Hey, thanks Bill - that was good $h1t" - than I would from peeps saying "Eeuw, I'm SOOOO sorry to have insulted you by asking such a stupid question." A thing I learned early on was that THE MANNER in which someone nails their post to these boards is of NO consequence - and those who focus on that in their response are missing the point of being here entirely, IMHO.

I have been rude - and breached other rules - after a wee drinkie sometimes. I beg forgiveness for those occasions (and I mean that. I will respond to the first 100 PM's received after this post !!! ). I have made many apologies, and will make many more in the future, I guess. We speak our minds here, and sometimes we confuse honesty with rudeness, or even with confidentiality.

To me, the bottom line is motive. Why are we EACH here ? I originally came here to learn how to get my money back. I enjoyed learning stuff - and then I enjoyed passing it on to others who subsequently arrived, and getting thanks for that. Being thanked and appreciated for that is what gave me MY ego boost. I don't recall EVER being thanked for belittling anyone - and the ego boost I got for doing that (and, yes, I HAVE done that) was minimal.

Sharing what we have, for the benefit of us all, is what these forums are all about, innit ? It's just like music - and love. Played alone, it amounts to nowt more than masturbation. Unselfish sharing is what gives it any potency. ....You can tell I'm a '60's child, can't you ?
LOL (LoadsaLove !!!) :hippie: :billk: Well.....'50's, if we're being honest...!!! :_thedoctor__by_GuyF

[charitynjw]

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http://www.winchestercollege.org/arms

"The Achievement of Arms displayed today by Winchester College is actually a version of those of the founder, William of Wykeham (1320-1404), when in his position as Bishop of Winchester (1366-1404).
The Arms are made up of the shield displayed within the Garter, the whole surmounted by a bishop's mitre between the letters WW. Beneath the arms is the motto."

[labman]

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If I remember correctly from my reading he was a very interesting character as well. Twice Chancellor of England and founder of New College Oxford (thanks University Challenge!).

He died one of the richest men in England, with much left to schools which he patronized, though I believe he did not inherit this Coat of Arms, but assumed it. All establishments set up by him have this COA and motto.

Perhaps as twice chancellor to England, despite an impressive COA, we can balme him for the current economic climate! lol

A VERY interesting man.

[SpringerSpaniel]

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My default option is that if I'm not sure whose fault a problem is, I deem it to be Maragret Thatcher's fault. More problems than ot in our country today are her fault, so the odds are good !

[labman]

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St Maggie - surely not! Given her heritage (though William above was from a peasants family) I guess her Coat of Arms motto would be "Five portions a day keepeth man regular!"

[charitynjw]

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St Maggie - surely not! Given her heritage (though William above was from a peasants family) I guess her Coat of Arms motto would be "Five portions a day keepeth man regular!"

"But go careful with the milk!!"

[labman]

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[Guest]

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HI

In thik that speling and grammer are qeuy the indicates fo intlelijence and anyone ho cannot at least form a crectly, structured sentence shouold be shown up for the idiut they is;

Peter

[charitynjw]

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HI

In thik that speling and grammer are qeuy the indicates fo intlelijence and anyone ho cannot at least form a crectly, structured sentence shouold be shown up for the idiut they is;

Peter

Swear down, blud, respeck, innit!

[Guest]

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Swear down, blud, respeck, innit!

you takin't mick:beagle:

[charitynjw]

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you takin't mick:beagle:

Nah, cuz, I wouldn't diss you, that would be dark - it was just jokes! :tung: