Private sale gone so wrong :(

[Guest]

Re: Private sale gone so wrong

Hi HN hunny don't worry about us lot all nagging at each other, its par for the course I'm afraid, boy you should see us when we get started on something we all really disagree about.

Like the others say, save the texts etc and get on with your life, look after that doggy of yours and relax, if the buyer couldn't be bothered to come and collect the goods that's their look out. If you do get seriously worried then to put your mind at rest take a walk into your local cop shop and show them everything, tell them your on your own with a little one and ask that they be prepared just in case you call them urgently.

HI

Yes i agree i doubt very much that the buyer would want to spend any more money on pursuing this, eventually they should give up.
Although if they did i am sure they would win. The court cannot order you to pay what you cannot afford

Peter
Peter

[Guest]

Re: Private sale gone so wrong

Well she had SIX WEEKS to arrange collection.

At the firestation today I was told they have the power to contact local authority to have the suite removed due to its "dumped" position being a fire hazard.

This is interesting why did she have six weeks to arrange collection, is it perhaps because you wanted her to collect in a particular window of time so that your new suite would arrive just after collection and you would have someshere to sit.

In other words did the buyer pay up front knowing that they could not collect for six weeks and then when they did not colect within the week you stipulated you put their property outside.
As i said there is allways two sides.

Peter

[Guest]

Re: Private sale gone so wrong

Not so.

From Post 1



If the buyer had parted with his/her money in exchange for an unseen article, they would have been even more stupid than is already apparent.

Hi
Sorry i may be wrong but i got the impression that this was bought on line, so the sellar would have seen a picture, not the same thing as actually seeing it i think.
Proof of this can be asseratined from anyone using an on line dating forum(not me)

Peter

[labman]

Re: Private sale gone so wrong

I got the impression the buyer actually drove all the way to see the suite 'in the flesh.'

As for your comment Peter, if it went to court I'm sure they would win, I think predicting the outcome of any court case is risky at any time, but in this case I'm pas sure as I can be they would not win.

As you say, two sides to everything.

However, given the OP has had a tough time recently, I'd suggest we let it drop for now and come back and help if we need to. None of us want to cause upset.

[Guest]

Re: Private sale gone so wrong

I got the impression the buyer actually drove all the way to see the suite 'in the flesh.'

As for your comment Peter, if it went to court I'm sure they would win, I think predicting the outcome of any court case is risky at any time, but in this case I'm pas sure as I can be they would not win.

As you say, two sides to everything.

However, given the OP has had a tough time recently, I'd suggest we let it drop for now and come back and help if we need to. None of us want to cause upset.

quite right lets all just tell her what she wants to hear then she can pretend it will all just go away, perhaps it will.

Do people come on here for actual advice or just to be reasured, I am sure the buyer in this has a dog also, will that help thier case? i have a cat, cant stand the bloody thing what does that mean.
Tosh

Peter

[Gorang]

Re: Private sale gone so wrong

AND tell her NOW you will no longer respond to her harassing texts

Sorry to diss agree this this righty

If the txts and calls have now stopped from the buyer then HN should do NOTHING as if HN sends sumit then it will just fire up the buyer again


I do think that if the txts and calls start again that HN shoud show the police her phone as that amount of txts and calls ARE harrassment and also the content could be looked at as threatening in which the buyer COULD be charged with

BUT this is only MY opinion

[HaggisnNeeps]

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This is interesting why did she have six weeks to arrange collection, is it perhaps because you wanted her to collect in a particular window of time so that your new suite would arrive just after collection and you would have someshere to sit.

In other words did the buyer pay up front knowing that they could not collect for six weeks and then when they did not colect within the week you stipulated you put their property outside.
As i said there is allways two sides.

Peter

Yes you are correct - the buyer knew she would have 6 weeks wait and this was no problem - and that was put in the original advert. I hope that is clear enough for you because you seem to have a great deal of trouble understanding anything I post.


You are wrong re the suite being bought online - as I, again clearly stated, buyer came to my home, viewed and paid.

Yes there can be two sides to a story, but you seem to be creating a whole new story thats now growing arms and legs. Whatever keeps you amused I suppose.

I posted on here for advice - yes it might not be what I want to hear - but you have been downright arrogant in ALL your replies to me.

To everyone else - as I said it might not be what I want to hear - but you have been very considerate in your replies. Thankyou

[labman]

Re: Private sale gone so wrong

I have to say Peter, and you know I respect you and your opinions, but I honestly think you've gone over the top here.

You are, of course, entitled to your opinion and I would never condone telling the OP what they want to hear if you don't believe that to be true.

However, the way you have expressed yourself here, to someone who has clearly had a tough week or two, goes totally against the motto of the site as being, "The site that cares...."

I suggested we let it drop as I could see little point in debating it further at this stage. If it needs to be resurrected later on, fine, but for now it seems calm and settled.

As I said at the start of the post, you know, I hope, that you have earned my respect on this forum. However, on this occasion I think the 'tosh' of which you speak comes in a very insensitive way from you.

I've said my bit and that's it from me. I intend to leave this post rest if possible now.

[Guest]

Re: Private sale gone so wrong

Yes you are correct - the buyer knew she would have 6 weeks wait and this was no problem - and that was put in the original advert. I hope that is clear enough for you because you seem to have a great deal of trouble understanding anything I post.


You are wrong re the suite being bought online - as I, again clearly stated, buyer came to my home, viewed and paid.

Yes there can be two sides to a story, but you seem to be creating a whole new story thats now growing arms and legs. Whatever keeps you amused I suppose.

I posted on here for advice - yes it might not be what I want to hear - but you have been downright arrogant in ALL your replies to me.

To everyone else - as I said it might not be what I want to hear - but you have been very considerate in your replies. Thankyou

HI
Ok but it was a minor point i see you didnt dissagree with my point about the buyer accommadating you by waiting for six weeks to pick the goods up, Shame you didnt show the same consideration.
Do you think that if the buyer does take you to court he is going to give you any easier a time, i have not been arrogant i have been truthful, you are in a predicament and i sympathise but far better to be aware of the facts.

Also we are not dealing with a creditor here, the buyer was also a grunt just like the rest of us and he is out of pocket.

My advice for what it is worth is to repay the money if you have it , if you dont then tell them to swivel, they will not take you to court it just means you will have to put up with a bit of grief.

As for the abuse that is a different matter whoever is owed the money this is inexcusable and should be reported to the police.

Peter

[charitynjw]

Re: Private sale gone so wrong

Now that that is sorted out............


........anyone want to buy a sofa?

:behindsofa:

[Guest]

Re: Private sale gone so wrong

OK and before i leive this thread, call me a grump if you like but whose idea was the poll.
I hope the OP consented, i also hope she is not swayed by popular opinion. Personally i think it is in bad taste. somebodies life not the flamin X factor.

Peter
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Now that that is sorted out............


........anyone want to buy a sofa?

:behindsofa:

[righty]

Re: Private sale gone so wrong

It seems to me that the 'buyer' deliberately failed to make contact in the full knowledge that there was a deadline for removal & that the seller would have no choice but to either resell or as the OP did have it taken away AND then she could pounce demanding her money back

I believe she was very soon after suffering from buyers remorse OR she had already purchased another This is why she didn't make contact until AFTER the event

[HaggisnNeeps]

Re: Private sale gone so wrong

HI
Ok but it was a minor point i see you didnt dissagree with my point about the buyer accommadating you by waiting for six weeks to pick the goods up, Shame you didnt show the same consideration.
Do you think that if the buyer does take you to court he is going to give you any easier a time, i have not been arrogant i have been truthful, you are in a predicament and i sympathise but far better to be aware of the facts.

Also we are not dealing with a creditor here, the buyer was also a grunt just like the rest of us and he is out of pocket.

My advice for what it is worth is to repay the money if you have it , if you dont then tell them to swivel, they will not take you to court it just means you will have to put up with a bit of grief.

As for the abuse that is a different matter whoever is owed the money this is inexcusable and should be reported to the police.

Peter

Again I will try to explain things to you that you seem to have difficulty in understanding.

It WAS agreed between myself and the buyer it was a wait of 6 weeks - this was also stated in the advert she would have read before contacting me.

It WAS NOT agreed that she would then NOT CONTACT ME and leave me with 2 suites. She knew the AGREED date of collection - its called the AGREED date of collection because both of us AGREED on that date.

The buyer isnt a HE its a SHE


You have been arrogant. I have clearly stated all the facts. I havent lied - on this occasion there isnt two sides to the story, its the same story - buyer isnt denying she failed to communicate with me, she just isnt giving any reason to why.

And regarding me "Not showing the buyer any consideration".............really? Have you honestly read this thread?

Lastly, I didnt start the poll - I have no problem with the poll and I am "not swayed" by popular opinion (honestly am so sick of this)

somebodies life not the flamin X factor.

Yes MY LIFE.

Peter can I ask you to refrain from posting in this thread any further as your arrogance is really upsetting me. I feel I have a new battle on my hands - YOU. I thought I could get some advice and was very prepared to have positive and negatives but its your delivery of your words which are just bang out of order.

[Celestine]

Re: Private sale gone so wrong

Hey Haggis

Sorry to read that the thread and Peter's comments have upset you. Honestly, he is just trying to play devils advocate, perhaps a bit harshly but I can assure you his comments are not intended to be personal.

These forums can be a bit of an acquired taste. It would be a bit pointless if everyone just told you what you wanted to hear, in fact we would be doing you a disservice if ever your current situation escalated.

Forums provide a *ahem* lively place for discussion, don't know if you've ever used Mumsnet....but OMG people are SO insulting. I posted a thread thanking my wonderful childminder for helping me out in a crisis and I got heaps of nasty replies accusing me of being a toffee nosed, yummy mummy taking the p*ss out of a hard up child minder, when in fact my child minder is far better off than me lol!!

So listen hun, relax, you've had a pretty overwhelming load of advice supporting your actions, Peter has posted a contrary opinion, so now focus on the positives, don't feel you've now got a new battle, I can assure you that isn't the case. xxx

[HaggisnNeeps]

Re: Private sale gone so wrong

Thankyou Celestine!

I honestly did expect to get both types of replies - one I wanted to hear - and one I didnt! But its just the way he has put his views across.

Thanks for taking the time to post - and also to everyone else, I really am so grateful