Advice gladly accepted. Brother and Wife Divorcing and its getting ugly. Whats App .

[MissFM]

Re: Advice gladly accepted. Brother and Wife Divorcing and its getting ugly. Whats Ap

Hi Kittycat

It's me again. I hope you don't mind me saying, but you really do now need to calm down a bit.

It's absolutely fine to vent on here - and we're all on your side, rooting for you.

However, you won't be doing your brother or the children any favours if you don't (all) rein in your emotions if it does come to legal action.

My contribution - stay away from facebook and other social media sites!

Meant extremely kindly xx

[Kittycat]

Re: Advice gladly accepted. Brother and Wife Divorcing and its getting ugly. Whats Ap

Hi Kittycat

It's me again. I hope you don't mind me saying, but you really do now need to calm down a bit.

It's absolutely fine to vent on here - and we're all on your side, rooting for you.

However, you won't be doing your brother or the children any favours if you don't (all) rein in your emotions if it does come to legal action.

My contribution - stay away from facebook and other social media sites!

Meant extremely kindly xx

Hello!!
I know I need to calm down. I am just upset as I am having a hard enough time getting by each day knowing I wont see the boys for xmas etc. And that my brother is having daily break downs as he misses them so much. It hurts that I once loved her as a sis and she can do this to me now.

I was upset on my birthday when they harassed me, but I got over it. I will get over this.
I have blocked him on FB (keep forgetting you can still message people even when you are not friends.)

I know it wont help in court..........its def going there as she is refusing to even try to compromise on visitation.
I want it all to be over with. If I could hibernate until its over, I would.

Thanks for the advice. Its all appreciated.

[MissFM]

Re: Advice gladly accepted. Brother and Wife Divorcing and its getting ugly. Whats Ap

A quick but heartfelt virtual hug :hug:in case it helps at all xx

[Kittycat]

Re: Advice gladly accepted. Brother and Wife Divorcing and its getting ugly. Whats Ap

I felt it and it feels nice thanks.
Need to slap myself and tell myself to not think of her as my sister anymore. She has hurt me too much now.

[MissFM]

Re: Advice gladly accepted. Brother and Wife Divorcing and its getting ugly. Whats Ap

No, you don't need to slap yourself - these people are behaving apallingly, and of course it's OK to let rip on here.. It's just that, to prevail, you do need to keep a warm heart and a cool head in other spheres. xx

[Kittycat]

Re: Advice gladly accepted. Brother and Wife Divorcing and its getting ugly. Whats Ap

I am trying t keep a cool head. But recent developments are now making me want to punch a wall.

So for xmas my bro decided to send the kids presents to his ex wifes mums house to be sure they got them and they weren't rejected out of spite. I sent a card to the boys myself.

Now the ex has reported my brother to the police for harrassement!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He has been in the police station for a good 10 hours today giving his side of the story. Luckily he and his new partner have evidence of them harassing him in emails texts, fb messages to me, days they stalked my mum, a statement from a colleague about the time she went in his shop and harassed him.
Now he is home from the police station and he is not allowed to discuss it with anyone.
I know as its an investigation and he is not allowed to discuss it but as I am a worrier by nature, I am SOOO worried this will go bad. Thats the bloody luck we have at this moment!!

He is very very upset but thats all I can get out of him.
How can she do this? Does she not care the effect this is having on her sons!!
I am so angry right now!

[MissFM]

Re: Advice gladly accepted. Brother and Wife Divorcing and its getting ugly. Whats Ap

Hi Kittycat,

I'm so very sorry to read that - poor you and your poor brother. Those poor children!

Does he still have his solicitor advising him?

Are Social Services and Cafcass now involved?

I'm racking my brains as to what more you can do and hope that others on here will have more helpful ideas. It's got to stop, hasn't it? xxx

[Kittycat]

Re: Advice gladly accepted. Brother and Wife Divorcing and its getting ugly. Whats Ap

He does have a solicitor and a huge file of evidence that SHE is harrassing him.
Not sure on Social Services and Cafcass.

Nothing has been said in the last week so I hope this means nothing major has happened otherwise we would have heard.
Still very worrying

[laurine]

Re: Advice gladly accepted. Brother and Wife Divorcing and its getting ugly. Whats Ap

it is just another proof of people being mean and selfish. I would say get the authorities involved and see if you can get case registered against her. Your brother must be emotionally very low especially staying away from kids. Do go an extra mile and discuss with divorce lawyers London for detailed advise.
Here is hoping things will get solved quickly

[nemesis45]

Re: Advice gladly accepted. Brother and Wife Divorcing and its getting ugly. Whats Ap

Have the police told him not to discuss this with " anyone" ?
Did they give a reason for this?

nem