Nightmare with social services and ex girlfriends child abuse.

[Kati]

Re: Nightmare with social services and ex girlfriends child abuse.

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[saccadic]

Re: Nightmare with social services and ex girlfriends child abuse.

Hi Saccadic.

home visit is fine doing on your own, but go to any meeting backed up with legal help. At the home visit, they need to check a few things.

1. Suitable place for a child of that age.
2. Washing machine or way to wash cloths
3. Food in cupboard suitable for a child
4. Stable home environment.
5. Ability to parent.

as the others that have had experience with the SS will tell, be open and honest with them, but be very carfull... let your solicitor advise you about the meeting.

Got those all checked off. Slight issue with damp that I reckon they will question. meh.

Careful in what way?

[Kati]

Re: Nightmare with social services and ex girlfriends child abuse.

Got those all checked off. Slight issue with damp that I reckon they will question. meh.

Careful in what way?

Unfortunately they can trip you up over the slightest thing - keep notes, record all contact if you can. Query everything, ensure your views are expressed in a favourable light.

[Crazy council]

Re: Nightmare with social services and ex girlfriends child abuse.

Yes. Be carful they dont try and trip you up with the questions they ask. But. Dont be 2 worried things worked out for us many years ago. Sort of similar curcumstances. All social workers will be a bit edgy around kids at the mo becauae of whats gone on at rotherham and other ss depts in the past 5 years.

[saccadic]

Re: Nightmare with social services and ex girlfriends child abuse.

Brilliant Kati, scrolled past the pdfs before! Will definately be reading them and I hope other people do too.

[Kati]

Re: Nightmare with social services and ex girlfriends child abuse.

Brilliant Kati, scrolled past the pdfs before! Will definately be reading them and I hope other people do too.

I hope they help xx

[leclerc]

Re: Nightmare with social services and ex girlfriends child abuse.

Kati, challenging SS and making complaints can be a lot harder than you can imagine. I think at the moment what Saccadic is read all of the PDF's you've posted and if they do not understand even on part of it, then ask questions and hopefully we can answer especially us weirdo's who have had dealings with those idiot SS workers....
Follow all the advice but be aware that they will looks potentially at everything(even stuff you might say to your doctor's).
To be honest, I'd stalk em all on facebook(but that is just weirdo me ).

[Kati]

Re: Nightmare with social services and ex girlfriends child abuse.

Kati, challenging SS and making complaints can be a lot harder than you can imagine. I think at the moment what Saccadic is read all of the PDF's you've posted and if they do not understand even on part of it, then ask questions and hopefully we can answer especially us weirdo's who have had dealings with those idiot SS workers....
Follow all the advice but be aware that they will looks potentially at everything(even stuff you might say to your doctor's).
To be honest, I'd stalk em all on facebook(but that is just weirdo me ).

I understand completely [MENTION=8640]leclerc[/MENTION] :tinysmile_grin_t: and I know how difficult it can be .... I'm just one for complaining as often as I see a need to :lol: I'm not sure you're a weirdo tho' :tinysmile_twink_t2:
[MENTION=51037]saccadic[/MENTION] - whatever you decide to do, I know there are many here on LB who will support you in any way they can (myself included)

K xx

[saccadic]

Re: Nightmare with social services and ex girlfriends child abuse.

I'll try and keep them on side at the moment and maybe complain when things are in motion a bit more. Definate case for maladministration as I have raised concerns with social before about her drinking and violence with our child in the house. There have also been previous incidents involving the police, plus all the delays, failure to provide information, broken promises etc. Safety first and reducing the alienation between father and daughter.