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Hi everyone. I am a newbie here and I am not too sure about the protocol, so apologies if I am diving straight in.
I am hoping I can get some sound advice regarding a personal family situation. I have a young 26 year old Daughter who has a 6 year old child. My Daughter is in a toxic relationship with a guy of 44 years old. He is an absolute nightmare and he has twice been caught in possession of growing cannabis plants. He does work full time, but he has absolute control of my Daughter's mental well being. He has physically beaten her, he has gone with other women and he has her mind in pieces. Last year she overdosed and she actually flatlined in Hospital. Social Services became involved and after a short while they withdrew their service as they said they no longer needed to be involved. However, what they did not see was the really clever way this man is damaging my Daughter. Her self esteem is rock bottom and she has no self confidence at all. Last weekend she went on an alcohol binge for 3 days. It was just awful. We finally brought her home and she has been breaking down ever since. Unfortunately for us, she has gone back to him. He has now tightened his grip even more. He is telling her that he is going to take the little lad and get his own place with him and that the only way she will see the boy is if she moves with them. He has a drove of other children to other women and they all keep away from him. He is well known for battering all of his former partners as well. My Daughter wants to come home with us, but he has told her that if she does, he will turn up and take the little boy away and we cannot do anything about it. He says he will simply report her to Social Services regarding her drinking last weekend and they will take the boy from her. My Daughter does have mental health issues, but they really are through this guy. He has bullied, beaten and mentally drained her over the past 7 years. We have seen her covered in bruises from him. She has been referred to a Community Psychiatric Nurse and we are just awaiting the appointment date. She wants to come home and we want her home, but I need advice on what to do to ensure this oaf cannot just come and take our Grandson away. He is actually loving this situation, as he feels he has absolute power. He comes across as a really nice helpful guy, but he has a string of women behind him who he has beaten and destroyed, and I am not going to allow this to happen to my Daughter. What can I do legally? Are there legal forms or people I need to talk to in order to ensure we have the right to keep our Daughter and Grandson with us? He couldn't look after the lad anyway, as he works all different shifts at work. It is simply a way of controlling our Daughter. I am really worried, as she is rock bottom and another beating from him will quite possibly either kill her, or seriously injure her. We want him out of our lives and we want the little boy to have stability and structure. We would allow the moron to see the lad, but I would much rather it was done under supervision. I am really just looking for ways to have this all prepared and then to bring my Daughter and Grandson here to us knowing this bully cannot do anything afterwards. Any thoughts anyone??
I am hoping I can get some sound advice regarding a personal family situation. I have a young 26 year old Daughter who has a 6 year old child. My Daughter is in a toxic relationship with a guy of 44 years old. He is an absolute nightmare and he has twice been caught in possession of growing cannabis plants. He does work full time, but he has absolute control of my Daughter's mental well being. He has physically beaten her, he has gone with other women and he has her mind in pieces. Last year she overdosed and she actually flatlined in Hospital. Social Services became involved and after a short while they withdrew their service as they said they no longer needed to be involved. However, what they did not see was the really clever way this man is damaging my Daughter. Her self esteem is rock bottom and she has no self confidence at all. Last weekend she went on an alcohol binge for 3 days. It was just awful. We finally brought her home and she has been breaking down ever since. Unfortunately for us, she has gone back to him. He has now tightened his grip even more. He is telling her that he is going to take the little lad and get his own place with him and that the only way she will see the boy is if she moves with them. He has a drove of other children to other women and they all keep away from him. He is well known for battering all of his former partners as well. My Daughter wants to come home with us, but he has told her that if she does, he will turn up and take the little boy away and we cannot do anything about it. He says he will simply report her to Social Services regarding her drinking last weekend and they will take the boy from her. My Daughter does have mental health issues, but they really are through this guy. He has bullied, beaten and mentally drained her over the past 7 years. We have seen her covered in bruises from him. She has been referred to a Community Psychiatric Nurse and we are just awaiting the appointment date. She wants to come home and we want her home, but I need advice on what to do to ensure this oaf cannot just come and take our Grandson away. He is actually loving this situation, as he feels he has absolute power. He comes across as a really nice helpful guy, but he has a string of women behind him who he has beaten and destroyed, and I am not going to allow this to happen to my Daughter. What can I do legally? Are there legal forms or people I need to talk to in order to ensure we have the right to keep our Daughter and Grandson with us? He couldn't look after the lad anyway, as he works all different shifts at work. It is simply a way of controlling our Daughter. I am really worried, as she is rock bottom and another beating from him will quite possibly either kill her, or seriously injure her. We want him out of our lives and we want the little boy to have stability and structure. We would allow the moron to see the lad, but I would much rather it was done under supervision. I am really just looking for ways to have this all prepared and then to bring my Daughter and Grandson here to us knowing this bully cannot do anything afterwards. Any thoughts anyone??
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