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I'd welcome anyone's comment/suggestions/help on this. I'm sorry this isn't brief!
After 3 years in a care home our mother died intestate, the will although obviously sighted had not been signed. There are 3 siblings: sister who had POA, prior to our mother's death and who has done virtually everything to assist our mother, the only brother, who did very little and expected payment for what he did do and me living overseas trying to do what I can to help and support my mother and sister.
Brother wouldn't come to the solicitor with us to start the ball rolling regarding the estate, although he and sister were named as joint executors in the unsigned will. Brother had been told by us not to bully our mother for money (he still has a number of outstanding loans that we know will never be repaid to the estate as they are now deemed as gifts) and my sister as POA decided the estate couldn't afford to pay his charges for the renovation work to the house he wanted to "help" with. He assaulted her. Brother now has blocked my sister's application for letters of administration and intends letting the decision of who should be an administrator be decided by a hearing unless he can be satisfied that money isn't missing. He has made outrageous allegations that she while POA she has misappropriated assets from the estate, has renovated our mother's house for the sole purpose of installing her daughter in there rent free. My sister made an agreement with the local council to allow her to keep the house and rent it out. Luckily her daughter asked to rent it and she and now her husband have been model tenants paying market rent. The value of the estate has increased, the house now in a saleable state in a much better market. My sister has done very well by us all. Bank accounts show money coming in and going out again to pay care home fees. Brother wants all his (now considerable)costs met by the estate.
So what's the problem? Ten months since our mother died and we are no further forward. Letters ping-pong back and forth between solicitors and brother keeps repeating old and inventing new allegations. It's as if he's in so deep he can't let go. We politely deliver all the documentation that we have to show him no wrongdoing has taken place, there was a face-to-face meeting where he accepted that all was well but then reneged and embarked on further allegations. We have no confidence in him and although there is another meeting planned we can't see if anything will change. What can we do to break the deadlock??
I'd welcome anyone's comment/suggestions/help on this. I'm sorry this isn't brief!
After 3 years in a care home our mother died intestate, the will although obviously sighted had not been signed. There are 3 siblings: sister who had POA, prior to our mother's death and who has done virtually everything to assist our mother, the only brother, who did very little and expected payment for what he did do and me living overseas trying to do what I can to help and support my mother and sister.
Brother wouldn't come to the solicitor with us to start the ball rolling regarding the estate, although he and sister were named as joint executors in the unsigned will. Brother had been told by us not to bully our mother for money (he still has a number of outstanding loans that we know will never be repaid to the estate as they are now deemed as gifts) and my sister as POA decided the estate couldn't afford to pay his charges for the renovation work to the house he wanted to "help" with. He assaulted her. Brother now has blocked my sister's application for letters of administration and intends letting the decision of who should be an administrator be decided by a hearing unless he can be satisfied that money isn't missing. He has made outrageous allegations that she while POA she has misappropriated assets from the estate, has renovated our mother's house for the sole purpose of installing her daughter in there rent free. My sister made an agreement with the local council to allow her to keep the house and rent it out. Luckily her daughter asked to rent it and she and now her husband have been model tenants paying market rent. The value of the estate has increased, the house now in a saleable state in a much better market. My sister has done very well by us all. Bank accounts show money coming in and going out again to pay care home fees. Brother wants all his (now considerable)costs met by the estate.
So what's the problem? Ten months since our mother died and we are no further forward. Letters ping-pong back and forth between solicitors and brother keeps repeating old and inventing new allegations. It's as if he's in so deep he can't let go. We politely deliver all the documentation that we have to show him no wrongdoing has taken place, there was a face-to-face meeting where he accepted that all was well but then reneged and embarked on further allegations. We have no confidence in him and although there is another meeting planned we can't see if anything will change. What can we do to break the deadlock??
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