Harrassment from neighbours

[Laurab2019]

Hi everyone,

We did a house swap in same street in May 2023 from a 2 bed flat to a 2 bed detached we have a now 5 year old son we are in middle of a lady in her 70s never see her or hear her she spends april to oct in her caravan, the other side is a married couple who are 58 and 60 and 20 year old son lived here 30 years everything was great to start with got on really well but then it was always something that fence is on your side its not your it's ours do not touch it and they fell out with us for putting up a 2ft fence around our garden to secure our son in when out in garden apparently we took away her sons memories even though both our front gardens are separated by a shared path so not like it's shared we got written permission from housing association. They got police to us even police were like why are we even here and admitted look your in for a tough time with them. The police also told her to stop approaching our son stay away from him there no need to be near him. They got there friend to block our drive we asked nicely to get out she became abusive and they called police who arrived as we were being screamed at including calling me a rude disability name and mocking my tremor condition she was charged plead not guilty forcing me testify she was found guilty and is being sentenced next month. Other incidents include shouting on my son to leave garden and calling him her babe calling ss claiming he was home alone I have back cctv and front which proves I didn't leave house, she purposely seeks us out making childish comments if we move to back will follow us out backdoor on day our dog was being put to sleep we were saying goodbye in garden which she knew about through a neighbour other side came out singing look on brightside of life. She sometimes leaves bins on her side of path which is 3m from my door causing smell come in my house my local mp had it removed but she still does.it every few months. In Aug 2023 my partner got into a row with her husband and stupidly swore he apologised we were given a verbal warning by housing and he hasn't retaliated since 13 mins after our dog died my phone went was housing I asked to call back was to upset she did few days later accusing my partner of 2023 incident I explained that was dealt with but didn't believe me till I asked for cctv date and time and it took over a.week we got email stating it has came to their attention cctv was from 2023 and was dealt with and they have found complaint to be false and deceitful and apologise. On Saturday my son was out back garden I had alexa on low and was cleaning my son then came in upset saying she called him stupid I checked cctv she did say something to him but camera.couldnt pick it up but she then shouts through to me " you think your being smart ha ha ha I will make your life hell haha I can make your life a living hell ha ha ha" I got my son and dog and took them park until my partner was home as I was alarmed she did this infront of a 5 year old child they don't work so no avoiding them apparently they don't keep well.

We have been to council numerous times nothing gets done as they have friends in council.
numerous neighbours at other side have moved out through them. I forgot to also add they have installed a cctv pointing into our garden and house council sent email saying there was no camera but i can prove there is.
we have tried numerous lawyers but none get back to us and the 1 who did wanted charge us £300 for a ceist and desist letter then a futher £600 to do court forms we dont have that sort of money as my partner works full time and im part time and all our wages go to bills and are paying off vet bills.

Please any advice my partner wants go to police agsin but I'm not holding.out any hope.

[wales01man]

Sorry to here this we are in the same situation with neighbour going back 0ver 5 years HA and police have been informed every time.

HA have done very little now going to complain to CEO .Police are almost powerless after a meeting last week have told us its Civil not legal and HA have powers to deal with this that Police do not have.

Keep record of everything dont retaliate Phone Police every time something happens gets it all on record

Hoping it gets sorted for you

[Laurab2019]

Yes I've typed out a letter to ceo of council and head of enviromental health which I'm going to send.
only thing police have did right is charge her friend which happened Sept 2023 went to court July 2024 but her lawyer never appeared so back up Sept 2024 and sentencing not until 8th april so nearly 2 years.

My 5 year old is adamant she said to him his name and called him stupid my cctv shows she did say something but i cant pick up what she said. We have multiple cctv as proof i even have pictures of her hanging out her sons bedroom window watching us at park behind our house.

My housing association said they can't help and admitted they know they are the harrassers I sent them footage and they have told us gather up all other cctv and go to police

I'm also going go and see my local mp too.

I just feel like she's constantly there watching us and seeking us out no matter if we go out front or back I've even stopped doing my hobby which is crafts in greenhouse as I just shake when I see her as she does scare me this is a woman who tried to get a 3 year old leave his garden and called him babe which is not normal behaviour of any adult i actually said to police bet you'd charge her if she was a man they went quiet.

If you have complained to ha you can therefor ask ombudsman to look at complaints. Ha are a nightmare i regret being housed by them they do nothing all time.

[echat11]

Keep a diary, collect as much evidence as possible (discreetly).

An idea, would be to get a personal alarm, one that 'shrieks' loudly, press it a couple of times, make sure they notice, they'll know better not to confront you.

You are protected under the Prevention from Harassment Act 1997. Councils have all sorts of powers, the issue is always 'how to get them to act'.

[Laurab2019]

Thankyou ECHATT11 we are exactly doing that I'm just alarmed how she's behaving around my son now I've had stop him going out back yard alone if I'm in kitchen sorting laundry, he's absolutely hurt and is adamant in what she said his teachers at nursery have asked him alone what she said amd he's told his teacher she said his name and said he was stupid he now keeps asking me if I think he's stupid and said to his dad why does that woman think I'm stupid dad because my teacher said I'm very smart absolutely breaks my heart and yes I'll be honest makes me want to say or do something I'd regret that's why I just took him to park for 3 hours get us away from situation, obviously fact her friend found guilty and the false complaint is on our side my partner adamant we are going to police tomorrow when he finishes work early also came back yesterday my washing was soaked their hose was out but can't see anything on my cctv so no proof even though I know as other half was dry where camera would have caught it. I'm so fed up don't want move as we love it here and we get on with everyone else but we mostly keep to ourselves only friendly with 1 and that's because my son and her grandson play together.