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hello, my story is long but i will try to make it short
I am a romanian citzen, i had a relationship with a british man between 2007-2009, i lived in uk with him and when the relationship ended i went back to Romania
in november last year we contacted eachother again, he promised he changed, he told me he still loves me and wants me back and wants us to get married
I waited untill june to come back to him because i needed my son to finish the school year in romania and in june i left my apartment (was a cheap rent), left my job and came here with my children
everything went well untill we got married on the 20th of september and from that moment on everything changed
He stoped showering, he stoped talking to me, we stoped doing all the things we use to do as familly, all he wanted was sex, to touch me in inapropriate ways in front of my 10 years old son, he started complaining that im not passionate enough outside the bedroom, that wee should kiss and touch more offten, wanted sex all around the house with the risk of beeing caught by my son, he was beeing 'playfull' and pinching my butt all day arund the house...and in the evenings, he didnt wash before wanting to have sex
he went even 3 days without showering or brushin his teeth and then demanded me to be spontaneous sexwise..
We had a talk about all this one month after we got married and i told him things need to change, that he doesnt take care of himselff and its a lack of respect towards me, i explained to him that i dont want my son to learn about sexuality from me, i dont want him to see us kissing and touching echotther around the house because he is at a critical age and he doesnt need to see that
my husband called me sick...went upstairs for the evening and next day when he left for work...he never came back
he started sending me emails, saying he doesnt want me unless i change,i tried to reason with him every time and everytime i wasnt giving him the answeer he wanted, he would so something to hurt me....after each conversation he slowly stoped paying bills, then the rent, then desconected my phone, cut my internet, removed himself from the electricity contract and named me the next one to pay,
I never worked in uk because he didnt wanted me to, he wanted me to be home when he came home and i accepted that thinking that a marriage should be a compromise. i dont even have a national insurance number. i am trying to find jobs but its not easy because i am not from uk,
for 2 months now me and my kids have been eating from the food bank, my kids havent seen meat or fresh milk in 2 months, he wouldnt give me any money, he wouldnt pay any bill unless i turn myself into what he wants me to be
I contacted him a few days ago to meet and talk, he said yes and then started sending me emails telling me not to worry abouit the bills and stuff now and focus on us, because if things will change, then he will pay the rent and the bills
I feel blackmailed, i am depressed, lost my respect of him, i cant sleep at nights worring about my situation and he doesnt care, doesnt care unless i do the things he wants me to and accept him to be the way he wants
i went to the citzen advice bureau, i tried getting legal aid, i tried everythng i could to get some answeers, to be told what i can do in this situation, if i have any rights, if he can just financiary blackmail me for sexual favors...i wanna know if i can protect myself and my children from this abuse....please someone help me!
I am a romanian citzen, i had a relationship with a british man between 2007-2009, i lived in uk with him and when the relationship ended i went back to Romania
in november last year we contacted eachother again, he promised he changed, he told me he still loves me and wants me back and wants us to get married
I waited untill june to come back to him because i needed my son to finish the school year in romania and in june i left my apartment (was a cheap rent), left my job and came here with my children
everything went well untill we got married on the 20th of september and from that moment on everything changed
He stoped showering, he stoped talking to me, we stoped doing all the things we use to do as familly, all he wanted was sex, to touch me in inapropriate ways in front of my 10 years old son, he started complaining that im not passionate enough outside the bedroom, that wee should kiss and touch more offten, wanted sex all around the house with the risk of beeing caught by my son, he was beeing 'playfull' and pinching my butt all day arund the house...and in the evenings, he didnt wash before wanting to have sex
he went even 3 days without showering or brushin his teeth and then demanded me to be spontaneous sexwise..
We had a talk about all this one month after we got married and i told him things need to change, that he doesnt take care of himselff and its a lack of respect towards me, i explained to him that i dont want my son to learn about sexuality from me, i dont want him to see us kissing and touching echotther around the house because he is at a critical age and he doesnt need to see that
my husband called me sick...went upstairs for the evening and next day when he left for work...he never came back
he started sending me emails, saying he doesnt want me unless i change,i tried to reason with him every time and everytime i wasnt giving him the answeer he wanted, he would so something to hurt me....after each conversation he slowly stoped paying bills, then the rent, then desconected my phone, cut my internet, removed himself from the electricity contract and named me the next one to pay,
I never worked in uk because he didnt wanted me to, he wanted me to be home when he came home and i accepted that thinking that a marriage should be a compromise. i dont even have a national insurance number. i am trying to find jobs but its not easy because i am not from uk,
for 2 months now me and my kids have been eating from the food bank, my kids havent seen meat or fresh milk in 2 months, he wouldnt give me any money, he wouldnt pay any bill unless i turn myself into what he wants me to be
I contacted him a few days ago to meet and talk, he said yes and then started sending me emails telling me not to worry abouit the bills and stuff now and focus on us, because if things will change, then he will pay the rent and the bills
I feel blackmailed, i am depressed, lost my respect of him, i cant sleep at nights worring about my situation and he doesnt care, doesnt care unless i do the things he wants me to and accept him to be the way he wants
i went to the citzen advice bureau, i tried getting legal aid, i tried everythng i could to get some answeers, to be told what i can do in this situation, if i have any rights, if he can just financiary blackmail me for sexual favors...i wanna know if i can protect myself and my children from this abuse....please someone help me!
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