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Hello,
my daughter is 4 and lives with me. she hasn’t seen her biological father since she was a few months old due to alcohol abuse and physical abuse to other females, members of the public, prisons stints and threats of violence and harassment towards myself. the court at first was on my side, said he was a danger to her and he had to prove change. he’s passed a quick AA course and done some anger management counselling and now all of a sudden he’s deemed not a danger and i am being told i have to accept this and proceed with allowing contact. there was a delay with the court cases due to the pandemic but now everything is starting up again this month and they have appointed my daughter her own solicitor now as they believe she needs her own voice. all because i don’t think she is ready to meet a stranger who she has no idea exists. i’ve had meetings with contact centres who on the first meeting was already bringing up the word ‘daddy’ to her.
basically what i am asking is what are going to be the repercussions to me if i go with my gut and i refuse contact .
fines, unpaid work, prison, taking her out of my care?
are they all things that actually take place and if so in what order/process happens to get to this stage.
i am not being obstructive i am simply just trying to make sure my child is safe and not confused and is able to do things in her own time.
thank you
my daughter is 4 and lives with me. she hasn’t seen her biological father since she was a few months old due to alcohol abuse and physical abuse to other females, members of the public, prisons stints and threats of violence and harassment towards myself. the court at first was on my side, said he was a danger to her and he had to prove change. he’s passed a quick AA course and done some anger management counselling and now all of a sudden he’s deemed not a danger and i am being told i have to accept this and proceed with allowing contact. there was a delay with the court cases due to the pandemic but now everything is starting up again this month and they have appointed my daughter her own solicitor now as they believe she needs her own voice. all because i don’t think she is ready to meet a stranger who she has no idea exists. i’ve had meetings with contact centres who on the first meeting was already bringing up the word ‘daddy’ to her.
basically what i am asking is what are going to be the repercussions to me if i go with my gut and i refuse contact .
fines, unpaid work, prison, taking her out of my care?
are they all things that actually take place and if so in what order/process happens to get to this stage.
i am not being obstructive i am simply just trying to make sure my child is safe and not confused and is able to do things in her own time.
thank you
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