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Hi, Help please ?
Shared residence order last week for both children- one child contact 4 nights mum 3 nights me- other child 4 nights me three nights mum (this recommended by cafcass). In court however the Mum insisted on child with me four nights have an extra two days with her at a weekend once a month on top of her 3 nights weekly. I know that child does not want this-but I did not wish to appear obstructive and agreed to facilitate this 'if the child wishes it' (he will not). I have asked for it to be written in this way (paper copy not arrived yet). Mother has now attempted to use this 'voluntary contact' to gain financial advantage. Should something that is voluntary have been court ordered? My concern is that should my son not wish to go to her for these two days, she will claim breach of the order? She will do this as with one child each there is no maintenance and child benefit for one child comes to me. She earns more than me but maintenance is part of her continued harassment of me. Should I ask for the voluntary weekend to be removed and ask for the 4/3 contact as recommended by cafcass? Am really worried as is now going to put my son under a great deal of pressure. She is already bullying him about it. Child says he only went along with suggestion from her to 'stop her crying', and that he will not go.
Many thanks in advance.
Shared residence order last week for both children- one child contact 4 nights mum 3 nights me- other child 4 nights me three nights mum (this recommended by cafcass). In court however the Mum insisted on child with me four nights have an extra two days with her at a weekend once a month on top of her 3 nights weekly. I know that child does not want this-but I did not wish to appear obstructive and agreed to facilitate this 'if the child wishes it' (he will not). I have asked for it to be written in this way (paper copy not arrived yet). Mother has now attempted to use this 'voluntary contact' to gain financial advantage. Should something that is voluntary have been court ordered? My concern is that should my son not wish to go to her for these two days, she will claim breach of the order? She will do this as with one child each there is no maintenance and child benefit for one child comes to me. She earns more than me but maintenance is part of her continued harassment of me. Should I ask for the voluntary weekend to be removed and ask for the 4/3 contact as recommended by cafcass? Am really worried as is now going to put my son under a great deal of pressure. She is already bullying him about it. Child says he only went along with suggestion from her to 'stop her crying', and that he will not go.
Many thanks in advance.
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