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Fighting the system
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I am at the end of my teather and just dont no what to do anymore. The following mail will give you an insight into my predicament and i am hoping you will be able to offer some support or advice on what i can do.
On september the 22nd 2006 my ex wife walked out of the family home leavning myself to look after our three children, she took with her the last monies we had and left the country to goto holland to start a relationship with a man she had met on the internet, we went through three months of financial struggle before finally sorting everything out. She returned some six weeks after leaving and contact was initiated all be it speradic. I started mediation appointments in an effort to come to some agreement but this failed and i now find myself in court going through the legal system.
Much has happened in the last two years and i can elaborate if required, i am a working parent part time and in receipt of family tax credits, i also have a son who is statemented for special needs, and even though financially on my ex leaving our home i am worse to the tune of 4000 pounds i am unable to obtain legal aid.
i am trying to fight for the wrights of my children to provide them with the best possible upbringing i can however i feel i am not only fighting my ex but also a system that is biast towards the mother, even though i am the residential parent i have less contact with my children than there mother. her influence on the children is neggative not posotive and my son where once was improving is now worse than ever. i am trying to get the legal bodies to see what is happening but have been told i have no right to dictate the order and must comply, i dont no what to do anymore as i feel the courts are not looking out or the welfare of my children as dictated in the childrens act 1989.
my nievaty in the legal proceedings is being taken advantage of by the solicitor of my ex wife, and i unable to communicate with the solicitor as she is very condacending and just keeps sayng its not her fault i cant get legal representation, they are manipulating the worrding of the order to obtain more than agreed and even though i complained to the legal complaints commision, they advised unless the judge has an issue there is nothing they can do, the new order was put together and i didnt realise what she had done and ended up agreeing to somthing i didnt feel was right, i raised this in an emergency hearing but the judge would listen and said i was there and would offer no recompence for the fact i have no legal training.
i am begging for your help to fight this situation i just dont no where to turn, i am on the verge of loosing my children to a system that believes the mother should be prioratised no matter what the concequences of that maybe.
I am at the end of my teather and just dont no what to do anymore. The following mail will give you an insight into my predicament and i am hoping you will be able to offer some support or advice on what i can do.
On september the 22nd 2006 my ex wife walked out of the family home leavning myself to look after our three children, she took with her the last monies we had and left the country to goto holland to start a relationship with a man she had met on the internet, we went through three months of financial struggle before finally sorting everything out. She returned some six weeks after leaving and contact was initiated all be it speradic. I started mediation appointments in an effort to come to some agreement but this failed and i now find myself in court going through the legal system.
Much has happened in the last two years and i can elaborate if required, i am a working parent part time and in receipt of family tax credits, i also have a son who is statemented for special needs, and even though financially on my ex leaving our home i am worse to the tune of 4000 pounds i am unable to obtain legal aid.
i am trying to fight for the wrights of my children to provide them with the best possible upbringing i can however i feel i am not only fighting my ex but also a system that is biast towards the mother, even though i am the residential parent i have less contact with my children than there mother. her influence on the children is neggative not posotive and my son where once was improving is now worse than ever. i am trying to get the legal bodies to see what is happening but have been told i have no right to dictate the order and must comply, i dont no what to do anymore as i feel the courts are not looking out or the welfare of my children as dictated in the childrens act 1989.
my nievaty in the legal proceedings is being taken advantage of by the solicitor of my ex wife, and i unable to communicate with the solicitor as she is very condacending and just keeps sayng its not her fault i cant get legal representation, they are manipulating the worrding of the order to obtain more than agreed and even though i complained to the legal complaints commision, they advised unless the judge has an issue there is nothing they can do, the new order was put together and i didnt realise what she had done and ended up agreeing to somthing i didnt feel was right, i raised this in an emergency hearing but the judge would listen and said i was there and would offer no recompence for the fact i have no legal training.
i am begging for your help to fight this situation i just dont no where to turn, i am on the verge of loosing my children to a system that believes the mother should be prioratised no matter what the concequences of that maybe.
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